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sparks are gone

lilly944lilly944
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Our baby is 2 months old and I just dont feel close to my husband at all. I feel like I am no longer in love with him...is this normal?
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  • hummingbird1028hummingbird1028 member
    I too feel the same way but not all the time.  I hope that my feelings get back to normal sometime soon.
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  • casirdmscasirdms
    I don't know if it's normal but I had these feelings while pregnant and still do, but like pp said, not all the time
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  • rlyttlerlyttle member

    Sad So sad to hear! Have you talked to him about it? Is it that you're just so tired and very busy dealing with the baby? I don't think I ever felt like I no longer loved DH, but it's easy to become distant when the baby comes. Maybe you guys need some time alone to restart the sparks!! It was hard to even think about our marriage when DS was first born, but it's much easier now. Just keep working at it & things will get better.

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  • reaustin18reaustin18 member
    I've felt like that from time to time. I think part of it is just frustration and being overwhelmed by mommy-hood. I sometimes feel like he isn't doing enough or is as supportive as he could be. I hope it will get better as DS gets older and things are more routine.
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  • TMILLER45TMILLER45 member

    omg I feel the same way...I was just too scared to say anything! I am usually a laid back, go with the flow type of person but lately every little thing pisses me off! I'm constantly snapping at him and being bitchy but I feel like I can't control it!

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  • mcginnie86mcginnie86
    Postpartum hormones can be worse than pregnancy, especially when coupled with no sleep and high stress. Try to take some time for the two of you every day, even if it's just 5 minutes of cuddling. I am speaking from experience, It's an easy trap to fall into.
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  • Winkski15Winkski15 member

    I don't feel like I don't love my hubby, however I can totally relate to the fact that the romance appears to be a little lacking these days now that the baby is here.  Not just intimacy since we both were aware it would be a little while before we could get back to that, but the little things like quick kisses and stolen glances seem to be missing since we are both so busy trying to get into the swing of things with the little one. 

    I agree with PP that it would be important to take a few minutes to yourselves... maybe when LO is sleeping try to squeeze in a good cuddle or just talk about something other than dirty diapers for 5 minutes.

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