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2nd Trimester
not feeling very preggo (ventish)
Well i'm 16 weeks pregnant and had a great docs appt this past thursday. the only problem is i just dont feel preggo. Im not gaining weight (im staying even) i dont have any wierd cravings, i had no morning sickness, and sometimes i wonder if baby's ok. The heartbeat obviously proved that kiddo is great, however can i at least feel a bit like i've got a kid on the way. I know i know i should feel blessed that i didnt have any of the icky symptoms, but it's kinda hard to answer people when they ask me how the baby's doing. I usually just answer with baking along nicely, but they look at me wierd. I try to explain that i dont feel him/her moving yet since it's so early. i guess part of my problem is that im a bigger lady, i was on a weight loss journey before i found out i was preggo. i had lost 70+ pounds and was super happy. now i still work out however not as strenuously as before. the problem is now i just feel fat not preggo since i've had to curb some of the ab and stomach workouts. ugh please dont be to hard on me. it's my first baby, i guess i was kinda hopin to get hit with it all. 
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Re: not feeling very preggo (ventish)
1.) Preggo is a sauce. You are pregnant.
2.) Symptoms may come & go throughout your entire pregnancy. Don't worry about it too much. You will have good days & bad days. When you start to show etc. you will feel pregnant. I felt a similar way to you in the beginning. I am almost 24 weeks now and I just now "feel pregnant" as it were.
I hope you feel pregnant soon, but believe me (as I've been told by many a pg friend) you will have your time in the sun to feel huge!
I have those days too but I try not to worry too much unless there are obvious reasons to. I just keep looking forward to each doctor's appt! I think it's only natural that we worry! Try to think positive
On a side note, I love how the vicious hormones shine through on these posts!
Don't worry I don't feel like pasta sauce either.
This is my second baby so I am showing now but I understand your confusion when people ask "how's the baby?" I just tell myself as long as I'm not cramping (severely) or bleeding that everything is going as it should. I answer the question with, "the baby is doing great!" Do I really know if the baby is doing great? No, but I have to believe it otherwise I'll drive myself crazy. It also helps me to research baby items. When I'm researching baby items, I'm reminded that a little one is on the way.
On another note - congratulations on loosing the 70lbs!! That's quite an accomplishment!
Gosh, I feel like I'm reading my own story!
I lost 50 lbs last year, gained some back during planning our wedding and was trying to lose again and got pregnant. We were trying, I just didn't think it would happen so fast!
I have not felt pregnant really at all, and hearing the heartbeat on Thursday was the first time that I felt like there was actually something in there.
I've had barely any symptoms this whole time as well.
Don't worry, it happens to some of us! The worse part is I live far away from my mom now and every week I get a text message about how big I must be and how I must be showing and how I need to send pictures of my belly. This has been going on since about 5 or 6 weeks and I tell her every time, 'Won't be showing until sometime after when we visit in late July...' and she still asks.
I think we all kind of feel this way. I found out the day before I missed my period because I'm super impatient and took a hpt @ 6am lol. Because I found out so early I obviously felt less than nothing...and that went on...and on....and on. So every week I would google "8 weeks pregnant no symptoms", "9 weeks pregnant no symptoms", etc...until about 12 weeks when I had 4...count em 4....whole days of feeling pretty crappy. And since then NOTHING (except some major bleeding due to a sch, but that's pretty much irrelevant to this). I'm now about 21 weeks and if it weren't for the fact that my tummy is huge most days I wouldn't even know I'm pregnant. On the days she doesn't move a whole lot, which at this point are still quite frequent, I feel 100% normal.
So...at first I would spend every day freaking out, drinking a ton of juice to cajole her into moving, and lying on the bed pushing gently on my stomach to "wake her up"....and then I realized chances are she's fine. So I'm going to believe that until undeniable evidence tells me otherwise. Buy some baby stuff, pick a name, do all the things that make it feel real...it helps. And when we're in our third tri and huge, and the baby's are nailing us in the ribs, and our feet look like ovberstuffed sausages...we better not complain!
Actually, the sauce has only one g in the name. So preggo isn't a sauce, Prego is. If you're going to correct someone make sure you check your facts first.
As a quick note- with my first pregnancy, I didn't feel a single thing until week 20, and even then it was faint. Around week 22 is when I felt consistent/lots of movement. Its hard when its your first because you are not sure what you are looking for.
I get morning sickness for the first trimester, but then it ends up going away- but from when I find out that I'm pregnant until I start feeling the symptoms (5-7/8wk) I tend to be a basket case even though this is my fourth pregnancy (first one ended in m/c).
Don't worry about it- you are a lucky girl. Enjoy being pregnant- and ditto, huge congrats on losing 70+ lbs!
I just turned 24 weeks yesterday and I must say that during my first trimester and well into my second trimester I had no real symptoms either. It can be frustrating answering peoples questions about how you are feeling because you know that for the most part, they are basically asking how crappy you feel. But when you don't feel crappy, it's like they don't understand. So I started using the phrase "I have been very lucky and have had a relatively easy pregnancy." That usually changes their tune and they start congratulating me on having it easy rather than being confused as to why I'm not sick all the time as people expect all pregnant women to be. Once I hit about 20 weeks I started to show and I started to feel the baby moving which made me finally feel like I was pregnant. DH was finally able to feel the baby moving just a couple days ago and it has reignited his excitement for the baby as well.
Sorry but this is where I'm at too. Consider yourself blessed. I've barely left the house in 2 months because I can't stop throwing up. I thought pregnancy would be this happy, amazing experience and it kills me that I'm not enjoying it. I would love to have your pregnancy right about now. Sorry - I know you have a genuine concern but I just don't have the sympathy for it.
And while I'm at it, I gotta agree with PP. Please don't say "preggo". I could barely read your post because I find that word so grating.
The only tell-tale sign that I'm pregnant is my belly. I also have an occasional gag reflex and nausea, but otherwise, no symptoms here either. I was feeling my little one moving, but haven't really felt movement in about 2 wks.
All pregnancies are different. I would certainly count my blessings for an easy pregnancy.
I'd lost weight too, before getting pregnant. Some days I just feel fat though I have gained 10lbs and haven't really been working out due to time and other commitments.
Pssst. I was clueing her into the fact that there are some folks that find the term "preggo" a little too 16-and-Pregnant around these parts. We are adults and can use proper terms for pregnant. If she wants to speak with adults she should use adult terms.
Untwist your panties.
Perhaps Bettybookworm you should untwist yours, and realize that not all adults have to be proper and stuffy in "these parts" as you say. Where are you from? Perhaps i dont feel like being like you. And for your information i've never watched that show, apparently "adults" in your parts do. you dont like it don't read it, and certainly do not feel the need to post on it. My mother from time to time will use the term and she's in her 60's so would you like to insult her as well? You weren't clueing me in on anything you were telling me how i'm supposed to speak, in which you have zero right to do. You thank goodness are not my mother. Once again this is a place to post things, like i said if you cant read the post because it grates on you click out of it and move on. i've gotten plenty of other wonderful advice from the other ladies who could in which i thank each and everyone of them.
to the women who posted they have no sympathy i didnt ask for it, i'm sorry you're having a rough time i hope for you it gets better. I do thank the good Lord up above everyday that i'm having an easy go of it. However as you can see other women in my boat have the same feelings in which it's nice to know i'm not alone. apparently i should have been more specific in my header so that only the ladies feeling the same way i am would read and give opinions/advice.
Kennysbabymommy, Your crazy is showing...
If you notice, I did offer you support in my second point, but you are choosing to focus on my very brief first point. Once again, your choice to focus on the negative.
Don't worry about it. I don't care if you use preggo or not. You are the only one seriously getting your panties in a bunch about it. I was just pointing out that if you want to have conversations with adults that you should use adult terms. The debate about the word has raged on these boards for many many posts. Use it or don't, but don't get all butthurt when someone tells you how silly you sound. In my opinion "preggo" sounds uneducated and cutesy to the point of nausea. You disagree. Oh well. No need to flip out.
With your screen name and way you post I am very surprised that you are unfamiliar with the train wreck that is 16 & pregnant. In fact, I would say that your posts are bordering on MUD. Either way, it doesn't matter to me. These boards are full of people that you are going to disagree with at one point or another. Calm down, seriously.
If you don't want to "sound like me" then don't, but I can tell you I am not alone in the dislike of the word "preggo". In any event, I hope you feel whatever term you want to feel (pregnant or preggo) soon. Until then, relax! Its just the interwebs!
ETA: Damn you, autocorrect!