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Pink22_83Pink22_83
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Ok so my friend(who doesn;t have kids yet) and her mom are making me feel like I am totally crazy.

Back in Dec we got tickets to NKOTB/BSB concert for this sunday! Whoo hoo. Well last month I found out DH will be out of town for work. So my friend's mom said she would babysit Liam. Which is great because I trust her, and I didn't have to worry about looking for a babysitter. The ting is her mom hasnt really been around Liam, she met him a couple times when he was a newborn and thats it. So I asked her if we could stop by for a visit sometime this week so Liam could get to know her  a bit. Now they both they I am being paranoid and crazy. Is it so off base of me to want them to meet before?

As well this is Liam's first time being babysat while awake. So I know I am more nervous because of that, but I guess I didnt think my request was that crazy.

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  • mle929mle929 member
    I don't think your request is crazy at all. I'd ask her to do the same or I'd ask that she arrive an hour or so before I needed to leave, so she could spend some time with your LO when you're in the house.

     

     

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  • mle929mle929 member
    Also, I've done A LOT of nannying and babysitting as an adult and I've stopped by ahead of time or arrived early many times when it was the first time I'd be caring for a new family. Many people request this and I never felt it was strange.

     

     

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  • AimeeL85AimeeL85 member

    I don't think you're being paranoid. If DS was younger and we had this arrangement I probably wouldn't think much of it because when they're a few months old they don't care much at that point. But at 6 months+, they can start to get stranger anxiety, and if he meets her and plays with her once beforehand with you around, he'll remember her whens he sits for him and will be more comfortable. It's not like a newborn that doesn't know the difference as much.

    My guess, though, is that they think you want to see if she's capable or you have doubts about whether you can trust her. Just make sure you tell them that it's absolutely not because you don't trust her, it's only because Liam has shown he's more comfortable with people if he's met them before and that it will probably be easier for her when she's sitting for him.

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  • Meaghan26Meaghan26

    Is it possible they think that you're worried about her, rather than how your DS is going to react? Maybe their just taking it super personal for some reason, and you might just need to clarify that you're worried about his reaction.

    I don't think you're crazy at all, it seems totally reasonable to me.

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  • Pink22_83Pink22_83

    I have said several times that I trust her, but explained latley Liam has been really on and off with people he doesnt know. So just to put me and him at ease I want him to get to know her a bit, Their response was that I need to expose him to strangers more, that he needs to learn to adjust and that he is too attached to me. I know she will take great care of Liam, but I feel so judged over something so silly. I didn't realize this would be such a big deal.

    Thanks for making me feel like I am not crazy!

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    I have said several times that I trust her, but explained latley Liam has been really on and off with people he doesnt know. So just to put me and him at ease I want him to get to know her a bit, Their response was that I need to expose him to strangers more, that he needs to learn to adjust and that he is too attached to me. I know she will take great care of Liam, but I feel so judged over something so silly. I didn't realize this would be such a big deal.

    Thanks for making me feel like I am not crazy!

     

    That's crazy! DH went out of town for two weeks and LO developed his stranger danger over that time so he is even leery around DH now (poor guy!). It's a safety mechanism that babies have and there is no such thing as being too attached to mommy!

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  • mbfirefly98mbfirefly98
    If it makes you feel better they would think my LO was too attached to Daddy! He has been home with her all summer. He's a teacher and we would rather have her home with us than in a daycare so he took the summer off and is at home with her. Now she'd rather be with him than me! It kinda makes me sad but right now that's just how it is. I have to work for the ins. and he has to be at home with the LO! She is a Daddy's girl for sure!
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