TTC ? (feeling torn)

happyhoopla · July 2011

Since it took so long to have DD and because we would be fine with kids close in age, DH and I would like to TTC as soon as possible. However, I am still BF'ing and would like to continue, but AF is nowhere in sight. I've tried charting, but due to my work schedule (night shifts and short naps during the day), it just doesn't work for me. So, I know that ultimately it is a choice that DH and I need to make, but at what point would your desire for another LO cause you to start to wean? I really want to continue BF'ing, but I'm thinking that I'm going to need to wean in order to ever try to get pregnant.

vlewis515 · July 2011

I didn't BF (or pump in my case) for that long but have yall been using any kind of BC (including condoms or pullnpray)? I would start there just leaving it to nature and seeing what happens. Were you just charting temps or were you checking CM or the cervix thing (I never did it don't remember what it was, position? firmness? both? I can't remember). I have been kinda hit or miss with the O pains I used to get but when I O now I've had way more EWCM than I used to so I can tell that way. Of course that's all coming from someone that is getting AF regularly now, so I'm not having to play the guessing game.

Hope the ideas help some, FWIW there are a few ladies on here that have mentioned getting pg while bfing (or at least I think so)!

lkstor · July 2011

I struggled with the same concerns... I always wanted 2u2, but did not get my first postpartum AF until LO was 19 months.

For me - I didn't want to take something away from the baby in my arms for a "maybe" baby in the future. KWIM? Another baby was not a guarantee - just a hope. But the baby in my arms was thriving on breastfeeding and we both enjoyed it.

Honestly I think Mother Nature (or God or whoever/whatever you believe in) sometimes knows the best plan better than we do.

Jessicamz · July 2011

lkstor:

For me - I didn't want to take something away from the baby in my arms for a "maybe" baby in the future. KWIM? Another baby was not a guarantee - just a hope. But the baby in my arms was thriving on breastfeeding and we both enjoyed it.

This is how I feel. I've been thinking about it a lot lately also and I decided I couldn't let myself wean DS early in order to TTC. I am fine with weaning at 1 year and it's only a few short months away, so I'll continue to give that nourishment to DS.

That being said...with no warning AF showed up this morning. So I guess you never know when she'll be around the corner.

hopingwaiting · July 2011

I also originally planned to start trying again by now, but turns out that with BFing I am not fertile yet. At a year I'm going to stop pumping at work, so hopefully that does the trick. So far we both still enjoy nursing, and my priority is the baby in my arms. But there are also age, fertility, and risk of another loss factors to think about at some point. I haven't decided at what point that is though!

Jessicamz · July 2011

Wait, if I remember correctly don't you have an obscene amount of breastmilk stored?

If that's still the case maybe you could stop nursing and feed her the pumped milk for a while!

Jessicamz · July 2011

hopingwaiting:
I also originally planned to start trying again by now, but turns out that with BFing I am not fertile yet. At a year I'm going to stop pumping at work, so hopefully that does the trick. So far we both still enjoy nursing, and my priority is the baby in my arms. But there are also age, fertility, and risk of another loss factors to think about at some point. I haven't decided at what point that is though!

Are you still BFing at night? That seems to be what has changed for me within the past month. Also, DS seems to be dropping his daytime feedings down a bit. I think that's what kicked AF into gear for me.

Bride2b2004 · July 2011

vlewis515:
I didn't BF (or pump in my case) for that long but have yall been using any kind of BC (including condoms or pullnpray)? I would start there just leaving it to nature and seeing what happens.

That's what we did and I became pregnant while still ebf. Some women do need to wean or partially wean to TTC. Another thing to keep in mind, many women need to wean or partially wean when pg (it turns out my supply has dropped a lot and we are partially weaning due to that). I would start with the nature taking its course approach and if you start to get antsy, drop a bf session here or there (using stored milk) and take it from there.

Rossi17 · July 2011

Took us 9 years to have our oldest. We let nature take its course, with the intention of seeing the RE if we didn't conceive next by the time LO was 3. LO weaned herself at about a year, and shortly thereafter we conceived (nice surprise). It has been interesting having two LO's, there are pros and cons to having kids so close in age, as there are for waiting a while. Talk to your doctor about your health and pregnancies as it relates to age (my doc told me that he'd prefer I have all my kids before age 35 because older women may have more complications- not a given, just higher risks)

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