Husband Thinks I'm Over Reacting!!!!

RodricknShelda · July 2011

Hi, my name is Shay and I'm in my 8th week of my first pregnancy. Me and my husband have been arguing quite a bit due to my mood swings and all day everyday nausea. He thinks I can control it, but I try to tell him why I would I want mood swings just because. Doesn't make any sense to me. I also try to tell him that every pregnant women is not the same and my husband should try to comfort me instead of arguing with me. He shouldn't have anything to say because he is not experimenting any of this. Sometimes I even cry cause I can't eat due to nausea. Everything makes me sick, even my own scent. That's bad. But someone please tell me I'm not crazy and anyone have suggestions on how to get him to understand. Oh and please Don't get me wrong, I love my baby with everything in me and I know when no one is there for me, my child will always love me and be there for me. Trust I can't wait to hold him or HER, lol, but this is not a walk down fantasy lane.

Waiting4myJulyBaby · July 2011

I highly recommend the DVD "Being Dad" a good look at pregnancy through the guys perspective. It's candid, honest, and easy to watch. My husband agrees.

lesleyn21 · July 2011

Mine did the same thing.. the symptoms were all in my head and I should still be able to clean and do stuff and not sit in bed lol ..men...

manda42 · July 2011

In the beginning, my DH would just yell and argue with me if I was being "irrational". My hormones have calmed down ::knocks on wood:: but I told DH that if I'm starting to act like that, don't say anything, just give me a hug. I told him this when I was in a good mood and he replied, "Can I think 'I'm sorry you're b!tchy' while I'm hugging you?"

I actually found that funny at the time, and it's been a running joke- both ways- since.

WifeyMommy2011 · July 2011

I suggest him to read "For the expectant father" My hubby got it and read it and it really helped him understand pregnancy and everything I am going through as well as the things he will go through.

Wiscisbliss · July 2011

A book definitely helped DH! He thought that there weren't any symptoms until a month or two before the baby came and you were super-huge! He was just completely clueless.

We went to Target together and got a book. Since we started reading it he has been much more supportive since he understands that I am not being crazy or over-dramatic.

jenick · July 2011

Wow.... hope you will still love this baby if it's a HIM and not a her.

lrichmond86 · July 2011

I hear ya! To make matters worse over here, my husband decided that now is the time to try to quit smoking again. So not only am I over-emotional, sick as a dog, and moody, he's having withdrawals and is moody and over-reactive himself! When I told him I couldn't eat what I cooked for dinner, he said that I'm just too "fussy". You're not crazy. They just don't get it.

KRISTA555 · July 2011

RodricknShelda:

Hi, my name is Shay and I'm in my 8th week of my first pregnancy. Me and my husband have been arguing quite a bit due to my mood swings and all day everyday nausea. He thinks I can control it, but I try to tell him why I would I want mood swings just because. Doesn't make any sense to me. I also try to tell him that every pregnant women is not the same and my husband should try to comfort me instead of arguing with me. He shouldn't have anything to say because he is not experimenting any of this. Sometimes I even cry cause I can't eat due to nausea. Everything makes me sick, even my own scent. That's bad. But someone please tell me I'm not crazy and anyone have suggestions on how to get him to understand. Oh and please Don't get me wrong, I love my baby with everything in me and I know when no one is there for me, my child will always love me and be there for me. Trust I can't wait to hold him or HER, lol, but this is not a walk down fantasy lane.

Oh honey, I say this with sincere compassion: Please don't give your baby a job the minute he/she is born. It is not about how that baby is going to love you and be there for you, it's about how you will love him/her and be there for him/her.

I hope things get better for you soon. It sounds like your husband needs to be more compassionate, but also be aware of how you are speaking toward him. 24/7 nausea SUCKS, but it's still no excuse to be a raging biotch (if that's what you're doing).

Good luck!!

robinsokj · July 2011

jenick:
Wow.... hope you will still love this baby if it's a HIM and not a her.

That's about what I got out of it too

Free2Sing · July 2011

KRISTA555:
RodricknShelda:

Hi, my name is Shay and I'm in my 8th week of my first pregnancy. Me and my husband have been arguing quite a bit due to my mood swings and all day everyday nausea. He thinks I can control it, but I try to tell him why I would I want mood swings just because. Doesn't make any sense to me. I also try to tell him that every pregnant women is not the same and my husband should try to comfort me instead of arguing with me. He shouldn't have anything to say because he is not experimenting any of this. Sometimes I even cry cause I can't eat due to nausea. Everything makes me sick, even my own scent. That's bad. But someone please tell me I'm not crazy and anyone have suggestions on how to get him to understand. Oh and please Don't get me wrong, I love my baby with everything in me and I know when no one is there for me, my child will always love me and be there for me. Trust I can't wait to hold him or HER, lol, but this is not a walk down fantasy lane.
Oh honey, I say this with sincere compassion: Please don't give your baby a job the minute he/she is born. It is not about how that baby is going to love you and be there for you, it's about how you will love him/her and be there for him/her.
I hope things get better for you soon. It sounds like your husband needs to be more compassionate, but also be aware of how you are speaking toward him. 24/7 nausea SUCKS, but it's still no excuse to be a raging biotch (if that's what you're doing).
Good luck!!

This. And also, I know that the hormones are tough- boy do I know! But going off of how many exclamation points you put on the title of this post, maybe you are over-reacting a little. Try talking with him when you're not having a mood swing. Sit down & have a serious conversation with him & tell him you are sincerely sorry for over-reacting & that you don't like the hormones either. Then, when you feel yourself getting worked up, try to do something else-- go out on the porch, take a walk, or just tell him "I'm getting worked up again- I'm sorry- I need to do something to calm down."

Knowing is half the battle & you're right-- he doesn't know how the hormones feel, or the mood swings, or the nausea. But it's not his fault that he's a guy & isn't experiencing this. You have to work on this together rather than blaming each other for not understanding.

I hope things start to get better!

Meganequine · July 2011

My husbands not a reader (I went to buy him a book, and he told me it would be a waste of our money). That being said- when you're feeling good I would sit down and have a talk with your husband- or write him a letter. Sometimes writing gets my thoughts together so I don't come off as the crazy lady when talking with my hubbie. If it makes you feel any better, the other night my husband commented on the "bumps" all over my back (little zits on my back). I'd been complaining about them for a while, but my husband got a long lecture on the fact that I can complain abot things going on with my body- but he is not to point them out- ever. Men just don't get things sometimes, so try to just ignore some of his comments or be in different parts of the house for a bit.

LaurdaJean · July 2011

I think all DHs go through that period of, "Wait, who is the crazy woman and why does it take 2 hours to decide what to eat?" I'm 12 weeks and my husband still has moments where I tell him I don't want something to eat and he gets mad. They don't understand why all of these things are changing. And mood swings...whew, my poor DH gets the brunt of those things. I don't try to be mean to him, but I'm with him the most and it just comes out. Eventually he'll understand that it's just hormones.

RodricknShelda · July 2011

Excuse me, of course I'm still going to love my baby rather a boy or girl. Either is a blessing. I'm entitled to rather I want a boy or girl more just like any other parents. so please keep your rude comments to yourself since that's the only thing you were able to read on my post.

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