I'm not ready...not even close...

gwynethkate · July 2011

I feel so ill prepared. My life went a totally different direction since my moms cancer diagnosis, so I haven't had a chance to get things in order. We haven't done anything to prepare the nursery. I still haven't bought a single item of maternity clothes. We don't have a name. Still no birth plan or anything to get ready for labor and delivery. I just feel like this is coming so fast and I am not ready. At the same time, though, I can't wait for our little boy to get here. I love the thought of having him in my arms. I just hope things calm down and we have the time to prepare everything. Anyone else feeling a bit overwhelmed?

PS - Update on my mom... she's had 2 treatments so far (no fun, by the way). This week, her platelets were low, so they're giving her a week to get them back up. I'm not going to lie, I'm kind of relieved we don't have to deal with a treatment this week. They are very difficult for everyone. Plus, my husband just had an emergency appendectomy last week, so I really need to put him first right now. Crazy! No wonder I can't get anything done!

Janimal · July 2011

I'm sorry you are dealing with your Mom's illness. Best wishes.

As for the baby - luckily enough, infants don't need that much! A place to sleep, a way to feed them, and supplies to change them. That's it really. You'll get to bring home lots of supplies from the hospital.

Thinking about everything all at once can be overwhelming. Break it down and set some small goals. Like - this week I'm going to choose where we will set up to change the baby. This week I am going to buy a set of bottle for the baby. Before long, you'll be totally ready.

baylorbabe09 · July 2011

So sorry to hear about your mom. I hope everything gets better for her & now your husband. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed too, but just remember that babies don't care what they do and don't have in life. As long as they have somewhere to sleep, parents that love them, and food to eat, they are all good.

... You'll probably get lots of stuff at your baby showers, so just try to get the big items out of the way first.

rkto · July 2011

the only thing I have done more than you is buy maternity clothes. If I didnt I would be naked.

I keep looking at strollers online but I have no clue what to buy and I still havent considered cribs. But all that is not important since the babys room is still piled high with office stuff and other items in great need of storage or garbage.

We need to clean our car inside and out and also our apartment. We are not ready at all.

I read a book on raising a baby and I still feel lost.

Fianschneid · July 2011

I'm sorry to hear about all that your family is going through.

Like pps, said, there is still time to get things together, even if you are due on October 1, you still have about three months to make it happen. Picking up items here and there is a great way to get ready. Throw a pack of diapers and wipes into the cart the next time you go grocery shopping. Do the same with a pack of onesies next time you're at Target.

Also like pps said, your baby doesn't need much. The cute stuff is just for us and your LO won't remember what the nursery theme was or if they pack-n-play matched the high chair. Just take care of the practical items for now and you'll both be okay.

LovieBear · July 2011

Im sorry about your mom!!! If it makes you feel any better I have not done any of those things either (except for buying a FEW maternity clothes items)

stabil19 · July 2011

My mom got diagnosed with cancer right before my BFP, so I can relate a little. My mom, however has completed her treatment and hopefully in the clear.

T and P going your way and for your LO's grandmother!

As for getting ready for LO, I am right there with you. We are not close to a name, I am wearing hand me down maternity clothes, thank God I have a sis and a friend close to my size! I have registered, but don't have anything yet. The baby's room is our storage right now. You are not alone!

You will get prepared. Just relax, breathe, and take one day at a time.

gwynethkate · July 2011

It's good to know I'm not the only one! I'm sure we will get there. It's just a little crazy. I think the whole nesting thing is in overdrive and I have this overwhelming urge to get everything all ready. Too bad I have to work and take care of everything else in life. Oh well. I'll get things together one way or another. Thanks for the words of wisdom and yay for the long weekend! Happy Independence Day!!

CalinsBride · July 2011

That is a lot to have to deal with. I'm sorry you're going through all that right now. PP are right, though, newborns really don't need much. Clothes, food, and someplace to sleep (which could be your bed, a pack n play, or upright in a carseat) and they're pretty much good.