2nd Trimester
Do you know what comment pisses me off the most?
"Were you trying??"
Umm.. Why does it matter? Really?
This is our 2nd and we are younger (24) but my HUSBAND and I are VERY excited to be expecting another little guy. UGH.. I've had quite a few people ask me this and I want to punch them in the face!
Vent over. Thanks.
DS #1 - 11.25.09
DS #2 - Due 11.2.11
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Re: Do you know what comment pisses me off the most?
Yes so annoying. We both graduated from college, my husband is in his career (I stay home) & we own our home that we are raising our family in.. SOOO, I don't get why people give a crap and especially have the balls to ask!
Glad people have been in the same boat because today when I got asked I almost exploded.
ETA - today was like the 100X! UGHHH
I got this comment from a woman who I had just met through a mutual friend. Turns out that she and her BF (now DH) had a bit of a surprise baby a year before. She followed up with a light hearted "Darn you people who get pregnant on purpose!"
Her question was out of line but it was hard for me to take it too personally.
Burned by the Bear
Hahaha, that's funny. But until you said that, I never noticed that your "husband" had breasts until now, lol.
BFP #1 3/13/13, MMC 4/17/13, D&C 4/19/13
BFP #2 8/7/13, Beta at 4w6d = 3,796
Must be an age thing then because I'm in my late 30's and no one has ever asked me that! I guess they assume I must be racing against the clock! LOL! Instead I get the, "You're not thinking of going for a third baby, are you?" as if it would be a bad thing if I had a third baby since I'm almost a senior citizen! Ha!
Bottom line, people say the stupidest things to pregnant women and think it's okay.
ROFL!!!
Seriously though, what an ABSURDLY IMPERTINENT question!! I, personally, have not been asked that one, but that may be because I'm very free with the information that we got pregnant "on accident" when I forgot my birth control when we went on vacation. We had planned on waiting a few more months before starting to try, and we decided, what's a few months in the scheme of things? Plus, vacation sex rocks.
It's like asking someone how many times they had sex before you got knocked up. Is that really something you want to know?!
MY BOSS ASKED ME>>>>>>mind you we are not especially chatty..I said..well we weren't exactly NOT trying.
ummmmmm, too personal
OTOH I am a teacher with a Dec EDD and I think she was tying to figure out if I was being a "good catholic" (we go to the same church) or trying to weasel time off in the middle of the year (she perfers babies born in summer..duh...)
This is the single most irritating question that people ask! And, I'm with you...why does it matter?!?
FWIW...I'm 34, DH is 39 and we've been married for over 11 years and we still get asked this question. I just want to say we decided to try getting pregnant instead of preventing it to "spice up" our marriage.
Sheesh!
it never bothers me...
but maybe because we weren't trying? Although people assume we were since my 2 bff's are knocked up too!
LOL. This whole thread had me LOL. This is awesome. My friend and her wife had invitro for their sons and she tells a hilarious story about how, during her pregnancy, she was being measured and the doctor she saw that day (obviously not HER doctor) kept trying to tell her that she as wrong on her conception date due to how the baby was measuring. My friend kept insisting that she knew exactly when it happened and the doctor began to lecture her on how "it's often miscalculated and people think they ovulated at certain times and had sex at certain times, etc..."
My friend got so annoyed she goes, "Have you not even looked at my chart? I'm gay. I think I pretty much know the exact MINUTE my wife and I conceived through INVITRO!"
Needless to say she hasn't seen that doc sense, and the story cracks. me. up.
I am 26 and I get this question ALL THE TIME. When someone asks, I tell them " No, we weren't trying" because its true lol. I then get the response "Oh well this must be quite a shock for you and your husband... are you sure you are ready for this?" (mind you this is coming from people who dont know us). I respond "Well we are ecstatic because we were told we would never be able to have a LO of our own and we are very capable of handling our LO"
It irks me a little when people say that but all that matters is that my DH and I are very ready for LO planned or not
I LOVE this and will be stealing it from you! We are married, in our late 20's, and own our home. I don't understand why we would get asked this silly question so often.
He was shocked, and said no... It was so worth the look on his face.
I get this question A LOT b/c my LOs will be only 14 mos apart. To which I typically respond, "Well, I know how babies happen."
We weren't trying not to, lol. We wanted to be pregnant by the end of this year and I've had a miscarriage in the past and wasn't sure if the m/c was a fluke or the healthy happy baby was, so we started thinking about another baby early.
We ended up getting pregnant in January and my mother's response when I told her we wanted to get pregnant sometime 2011:
"Well, you know there are 11 more months in the year!" Lol. Thanks, Mom. I'm an engineer, I can do math.
I will never understand why my sex life automatically becomes everyone's business when I get KU. So what if we were trying? So what if it was a happy surprise? Why does this person need to ask? What business is it of theirs?!
Yes, I was trying, but does it mean anything to anyone but us. If it was a surprise I would still be just as happy about it. I don't get it...
The question irritates me too. When I broke the news at work, a lot of people and even customers asked me if we were trying. We weren't activley trying but we would accepting if we got in the heat of the moment and the result was a baby.I just tell them it happened a little earlier than expected, but we're still very happy and excited.
What drives me crazy is why would they want to think my baby was a mistake if we weren't really trying? Babies are blessings not mistakes, whether you were trying or not.
This. Why do people think just because you're pregnant that it is appropriate to ask about my sex life? Just because I am blessed with being pregnant, doesn't mean I'm going to tell you about super personal things!