rude family's remarks

balihaigirl · June 2011

we have told all of my family that we are expecting another little one. pretty much every family member so far has said "i hope it's a girl".

really? why do people care so much? and why do they feel the need to share this with us? i don't understand why everyone thinks that it's ideal to have one of each. we would be perfectly happy for this LO to be another boy.

and now i'm really going to know how they all feel if we have another boy.

for the record, both dh and i would welcome either a boy or a girl. i'm not picky, i just want another baby.

kms34 · June 2011

My FIL is like that too. He keeps saying "sister, sister, sister" to DS. Dude, nothing any of us do controls what sex this baby is

I know my DH would like a girl but we'll be thrilled with either. Like you, we just want another baby!

anardi · June 2011

People just can't help themselves. I was actually surprised that most people in my family did not say "i hope it's a girl". They all said it the first time.

I'm sure they will be happy either way, but I understand how frustrating it is.

MrsKilduff · June 2011

My family wants us to have a boy, and my mom wants us to have another girl. Obviously we don't care. I'd be lieing if I said I didn't want another girl only because we can reuse everything and the baby would be born the same time DD was, making all clothes work! Also, they will be sharing a room and DD's room is pretty girly these days. lol

Jess.O · June 2011

I'm sorry. I think people just have no idea what they're saying at times. Are you guys planning on finding out the sex? If so, you can just torture them when you find out by knowing and not telling them. Stick out tongue

ladybuggirls99 · June 2011

We've only told my sil who said, "Wow, maybe it will be a boy." When we tell everyone else, I'm going to say that we're hoping for another girl. I just don't want to put up with all the comments about how hopefully it will be a boy. I'm thankful for my healthy daughters, and hope that this baby is healthy too...regardless of gender.

JessieJH · June 2011

LOL- I think that reaction is often just the family finding a way to be more involved. At this stage there is so little to talk about (unless you involve them in the gory details)- so it's fun to speculate on if it's a boy or a girl. I'd try not to hold it against them and I'm sure they didn't mean to be rude or hurtful. The intent was likely just to join in the excitement!

StephCripps · June 2011

i've been getting the same thing.. cause there would be one of each.. but to be honest I'm hoping for another boy... as I'm NOT a girly girl and don't think i'd be very helpful in putting on make up and doing her hair and stuff...

skooterblenny · June 2011

JessieJH:
LOL- I think that reaction is often just the family finding a way to be more involved. At this stage there is so little to talk about (unless you involve them in the gory details)- so it's fun to speculate on if it's a boy or a girl. I'd try not to hold it against them and I'm sure they didn't mean to be rude or hurtful. The intent was likely just to join in the excitement!

I agree with this. Perhaps a more tactful approach would have been "Do you think it will be a boy or a girl? Any intuition this time?" rather than "I hope it's a boy/girl." They mean well. For example, if my grandpa said he hopes it's a girl cause he already has 4 grandsons, I will say "well my intuition tells me it's a boy so I hope you're ready for a 5th grandson!" and shrug it off. How can anyone NOT love another baby in the family? Obviously that isn't what he means by it, but it may come off that way. please try not to stress over it and next time try to guide your response to what you want them to talk about (like intuition/gender prediction/something totally different) in a kind manner.

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