Hi ladies!
I am so frustrated and impatient because I haven't had a prenatal appointment since the very beginning of June and my next one isn't until next Tuesday, July 5th but it seems like an eternity!! Your mind can do crazy things when you haven't seen or heard your baby in such a long time. Also, it's just been in the last week and a half that I started feeling the baby move so that was exciting but now it's been a few days since I felt anything. That, coupled with waiting so long for an appointment is about to drive me insane! I can't talk to anyone about it either because my mom gets mad when I worry about the baby at all, and my husband is out of the country right now and won't be back until August. Normally I would tell him all of this but he's not here and it makes my brain race even more. I don't want to worry because I don't want to put all of those negative thoughts out in the universe but it's so hard when I can't see or feel my baby, and I can't hear a heartbeat when I want. I am so grateful for this incredible miracle going on inside of me; it's so precious. How is it possible to be so intimately connected with someone, carrying them inside of you, yet feel so disconnected at times? I knew if I shared this with all of you wonderful women, you would understand. Thanks for listening! Sorry it's so long. Hoping the next few days fly by.
Re: Impatient for my next appointment... vent
I completely understand. It was a month between my last two appointments and I just couldn't stop my mind from wandering to the negative and I haven't felt that baby move yet.
My appointment yesterday went really good, the second she put the doppler on my belly the baby's heartbeat was loud and strong which made me instantly start smiling especially since last time it took her 3-4 minutes to find the heartbeat. Good luck at your next appt, let us know how it does!
I understand it's hard to wait, but it's completely normal to only have appointment every 4 weeks until you switch over to every 2 weeks, then weekly appointment.
My last appt. was June 8th and I don't go back until July 6th. I haven't felt movement at all yet, but I'm doing my best to remain calm until the 6th.
Just try to be happy you haven't had to go in again because of a problem
I know it is hard, but 99% of doctors in a normal pregnancy only see you once a month until you are much further along.... it sucks, but almost all of us are dealing with it.
And it makes it harder because there are a lot of gender u/s and all that stuff being posted right now.
I hate the month long wait for appointments! It seems to take forever. Just try to relax and tell yourself that the odds are in your favor to have a healthy baby. Easier said than done, I know!
I finally bought a doppler just for this reason. I am a worrier, even more so after three losses,and I don't want to worry. The $60 has been so worth the peace of mind.
I know that it's really hard not to worry in between appointments. The time just seems to drag in between. When I got to 14 weeks, I got excited because I thought I had an appointment that week, then look at my calendar and almost cried when I saw it was another two weeks to go. I just keep reminding myself that it means the baby is healthy and normal. I also bought a doppler so I can check the heartbeat when I'm feeling especially anxious, and that has been a lifesaver.
And if your mother gets mad hearing all your worries about the baby, then just come tell them to us- I'm sure we all have very common thoughts here.
Ella born 12/21/11
Between my first and second appointments I went 6 weeks because of vacation/work/call schedules and then I scheduled my third appointment 5 weeks out so my DH can come to the a/s. So for me it is longer than most people, but I do a little countdown in my head that gets me excited.
I go weekly now...but not for fun reasons.
I miss my once a month appointments. Now I am rushing to schedule time off work etc because of my hour commute back home and to the dr.