So this is our third loss in six months (12 weeks, 6 weeks and 6 1/2 weeks)....obviously our problem is not with conception. I feel like I'm numb this time because I have been expecting a loss ever since our surprise positive pregnancy test two weeks ago, but I was still completely shocked when I saw nothing on the ultrasound today after seeing a heartbeat just yesterday. How does that even happen? Now our doctor is referring us to a reproductive endocrinologist for repetitive pregnancy loss. I am from a family of three generations of only women who have babies like they are going to wal-mart?.labor is only three hours max, epidurals are out of the question. How can I be having this much trouble? Thankfully we were sure not spread the news this time. I?m not sure I could handle ?the look? from all of my pregnant friends after our third loss. I?m sick of being the pitiful friend who just can?t make it work. It may suck, but I much rather cry alone to my husband after every baby shower, birth and birthday than go through the struggle publicly. Is the third loss the onset of bitterness?
Re: third loss....seriously???
I know how you feel to see the heartbeat one day and nothing the next. The very same thing happened to me. It still boggles me as to how it could have happened.
I hope you are able to find success with this new doctor and I am so sorry for your losses. *hugs*
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I am so sorry for your losses!
I experienced my second loss in just a 5 month period about 2 months ago and booked an appointment with an RE because we were really feeling doomed. My DH and I met with him a couple of weeks ago and I go in for my bloodwork on the 3rd day of my period which is this coming week. I then go in for further testing after that.
Like you, we are able to get pregnant but just can't seem to sustain life for very long After meeting with the RE I can tell you that there is still lots of hope.
My RE told me about a patient of his that had 7 consecutive losses before she went to an RE (I can't imagine) and now she is in her 3rd trimester I really hope it doesn't have to get to that point but miracles happen every day!
Hopefully you will feel like you have a plan like I do after your meeting with your RE. In the meantime, please know that we are always here to listen.
I am so sorry for your losses. It has to be hard to see your family have so many children so 'effortlessly'. Maybe if easy labors run in the family then when you DO get your take-home baby, you will be blessed with a lightning fast delivery too! I'm totally making a stretch for something positive here, but hang in there. I hoe you get some answers soon and can move on and heal from all of this.
hugs
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Married 05.27.07
BFP#1 - 07.07.09 | EDD 03.14.10 | Truman Anthony born @38w 03.01.10
BFP#2 - 03.24.11 | EDD 11.29.11 | missed MC found @9w 04.26.11 | D&C @16w 06.13.11
BFP#3 - 09.17.11 | EDD 05.29.12 | It's a girl!!!
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**my labor buddy is Sweepie412**
BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!!
BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
My chart.
Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
Oh my gosh, I feel your pain so much!! I have also had 3 consecutive losses in the past 12 months!! It is just awful. I think the pain does get better (my last one was in March) but the worst part is whenever I find out someone is pregnant (co-worker, friend, SIL) i feel like I have been punched in the gut. The most awful part is that I want to be happy for them. Ugg! Please let me know what happens with your testing. I just switched doctors and had RPL blood work taken. I go back at the end of July to get the results.
Praying for all of us ladies!!