lately i've been having this terrible fear/feeling that i won't love #2 as much as i love DD. before i had DD, i knew i would love her, but i never knew how intense and overwhelming it would be. anyone who already has children knows what i'm talking about. and i love her so much, that i can't imagine loving another person this much...i just can't wrap my head around how i could possibly have this much love equally.
so my fear is, what if #2 gets here and i don't love her as much? or love her the same? what if i always love DD more and favor her?
this mays seem crazy, but it's a real fear i have right now. it actually makes me emotional to think about because i feel so guilty and awful to even think it.
Re: ridiculous fear that i won't love #2 as much...
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
My mother loves to tell me the story about how my dad was freaking out when my mom was pregnant with me because he didn't think he could love me as much as my sister. Now I'm absolutely positive that I'm his favorite
Remember how overwhelming and shocking it was when you had your first LO. You didn't know you could ever love someone that intensely and completely. Well, this time you'll be shocked too. Only it will be by how much of that love you have for both of your babies. Don't worry
thanks girls! this is all just what i needed
i'm hoping that once i see her, all my fears and worries will go away!!
i feel this way too! it's just good to know we're not alone!
Totally normal and nothing anyone says to you will take that fear away until #2 is born and you see that it is all okay. All I will say is just you wait and see when they start interacting together....it will melt your heart and you will not even believe you had any doubts in the first place
This too is a very common feeling/thought. Just keep in mind that it is the 2nd or even 3rd that will NEVER get the same attention as you gave #1. It is just impossible because now you have less time for each. Keep in mind though that they will now have each other which is just absolutely amazing to watch!!!
OH that is a different subject all together...and I don't know about anyone else but I DO love my little baby girl, maybe not more, but certainly different, plus my stepson is in another state and we only see him once a year, and he is 14 and my daughter is 2, so it is totally different.
I'm the second child and I promise my parents love me just as much as they love my sister...if not more