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I've turned into such a B! (Vent)

Chrisandkate82Chrisandkate82
in June 2011 Moms

I am not sure if anyone else is experiencing something similar, but I just have to vent!

My MIL and DH's grandma have been driving me crazy since my LO was born.  We have had a family thing with DH's family every weekend since LO was born, and they are both absolutely smothering my baby everytime we are with them.  DH's grandma even tried to take LO away from me this weekend when we were at a wedding.  I was trying to change his clothes because it was an outside wedding and the temp had dropped, she kept reaching in the stroller trying to take him out.  I had to turn my body to block the baby until I was finished changing him and wrapping in a blanket.  Not once did she ask if she could have the baby when I was finished, she just assumed that she could take him from me.  They constantly pass him around and never let him lay down when he is sleeping, which I have told them that I prefer (he sleeps better and wakes up a happier baby).  They also act like they know my baby better than I do (stating that he isn't hungry, when I know he is for example).  Every time that we have a family event it has to be 7 or 8 hours long and both of us get completely worn out and then he is cranky for a day or 2 afterwards. 

The rational part of me says that I need to grow up and be happy that they care.  The unrational, new mom part of me makes me want to dramatically snatch my baby away from them and never go near them again.

 Ugh, gotta love a combination of lack of sleep, hormones, and in-laws.

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Re: I've turned into such a B! (Vent)

  • mamajanna28mamajanna28 member
    I completley understand this!  I had a total breakdown a few weeks ago when the baby had been crying for a half hour and I needed to nurse him but my grandmother kept telling me he was just fussing.  When I finally got him back from her she just kept gawking at me when I told her I needed to nurse him.  Like she expected me to just whip it out in front of her!!  Then she acted like I had insulted her when I told her it was time for her to head home.
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  • helenejrhelenejr member

    well if you are a B then so am I!!! my SIL who I  love comes over unannounced all the time and deliberatly tries to wake C if he's sleeping so she can cuddle him back to sleep - it drives me crazy!!!!! if he's sleeping let him sleep and ask me before coming over so i can tell you roughly what time he'll wake up..... it drives me bonkers!!!

     maybe just take some time out for yourself - have a weekend at home with your LO without the visitors!!!

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  • SFbride31SFbride31

    I hear you!  Reading all these posts makes me p!ssed b/c I can relate.  Esp. when people tell you they aren't hungry.  The first night N was home, he needed the breast every hour on the hour for comfort. I was explaining how exhausted I was and someone said, "Just tell him no."  A 2 day old? 

    My biggest issue is people hanging out in our living room for hours on end.  This used to be fine in our house, we are mellow folks.  But when I have to cover up to BF when I am still in the learning curve, by 6pm I get super emotional and cranky.  My in-laws are arriving in a half a week and so now I know what my needs are and my boundaries.  They are super awesome and will totally respect my wishes.  Though at this moment I am not super psyched about people around all the time.  I just want to hang out with my boobs out all the time.  

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  • Chrisandkate82Chrisandkate82
    Thank you so much for responding ladies! I cannot tell you how much better I feel about my frustration.  Hearing that other new moms wouldn't be/aren't happy with these situations makes me feel like I'm not crazy or over reacting.  Now I'm going to just figure out how to be a little more vocal so they understand that its not okay without being the B I feel like Stick out tongue
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  • afry2001afry2001
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    I hear you!  Reading all these posts makes me p!ssed b/c I can relate.  Esp. when people tell you they aren't hungry.  The first night N was home, he needed the breast every hour on the hour for comfort. I was explaining how exhausted I was and someone said, "Just tell him no."  A 2 day old? 

    My biggest issue is people hanging out in our living room for hours on end.  This used to be fine in our house, we are mellow folks.  But when I have to cover up to BF when I am still in the learning curve, by 6pm I get super emotional and cranky.  My in-laws are arriving in a half a week and so now I know what my needs are and my boundaries.  They are super awesome and will totally respect my wishes.  Though at this moment I am not super psyched about people around all the time.  I just want to hang out with my boobs out all the time.  

    First of all I just had DD on Monday via c-section. My in-laws werein town because they didn't listen to me when I said if she didn't common her own, the earliest they would induce was the 27th. So I am a overdue a cranky half the time they are here and in the hospital with a new baby, wearing a hospital gown that shows the world my goods, learning how to breast feed, and recovering from major surgery. They of corse came every day. I love my in-laws but it was just a lot to deal with. I understand how you feel. I wanted to take the baby into the bathroom and cry.
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