I knew going into the appointment it wasn't going to be good, but it still hurts hearing it from the doctor.
He basically gave us 3 options:
- He wants us to get a second opinion from Dr. Yazigi at Shady Grove. The reason he suggested them is b/c they offer a money back guaranteed program. Depending on how much the phone consult cost we might at least do the consult, but DH and I both agreed this probably wasn't an option for us. I think it something like 6 cycles for $20k w/ 100% back if you don't take home a baby. I mentally can't do IVF 6 more times.
- Go back to IUI using DS. We would aim for 4-6 mature follies. Surprisingly DH is all on board w/ this option, but I still wish we could fix his sperm. For this IVF his morph was up to 4%, but his final count was only about 40k. I wish we knew why it was getting worse and not better since he is on Clomid and HCG.
- Donor Egg - RE isn't ready for me to give up on my eggs. He finds it hard to believe that at my age (28) w/ perfect lab work that my quality should be so bad. That is why he wants us to get a second opinion.
- I know I said 3 options but I'm throwing in my option and that is adoption.
Our plan at the moment is to call Shady Grove and see how much the phone consult is. If it is reasonable we will see what he has to say and get a pricing sheet to see if we might reconsider that option. In the mean time I'm going to call my nurse to see what we need to do to get started searching for DS. We will do 3-4, I'm thinking 3 IUI's w/ DS and then we will think about DE or moving to adoption. I wish we could start the adoption process while going through our other options, but I don't think that is an option w/ the agency we will use.
After 3 years of infertility we were blessed with twin girls through private infant adoption.
Forever our's October 17th 2012