Is pregnancy making me totally irrational?

laurelnikki · June 2011

I'm so mad at everyone. My mom I have been asking her for weeks to go to lunch with me or go to the mall and she is always making up some excuse as to why she can't (I have to clean, I don't like going places).

Well today my sister told me she'd go get lunch and possibly mall with me after work (I've been dying for chicken nachos at this restaurant and tired of being by myself) Well of course she decides she can't because she is going to dye her hair instead (she works at a salon and can do it any day) and I told her that tomorrow I have to go to the oral surgeon and get two teeth extracted and wont be able to go out to eat, etc for a while.

So I flipped out on her and my mom for both just being selfish. I'm not asking that much just for SOMEONE to spend some time with me (I'd pay, drive, whatever) I'm so tired of being a b**** and I feel like I wouldn't have to be one if people would just stop ignoring me!!! Am I being irrational? Because right now I'm so pissed and don't even want to talk to them and wish they weren't throwing me my baby shower either cuz now I feel like I have to be nice to them regardless of how they treat me.

GBTeacherLady · June 2011

That's a tough one, you can't force anyone but I know I would feel lonely and frustrated. ((hugs))

Cobra11 · June 2011

Without even reading your post, I can almost promise that by now we're all being irrational. But I totally understand your frustration as I am also very bored and lonely and everyone seems to think that pregnancy is synonymous with the plague.

sharinfaith · June 2011

i agree with PP, irrationality is conquering all of us...i also think, though, that people do avoid pregnant women, for one reason or another. my best friend in the world won't even return my calls at this point and i'm on the verge of telling her not to worry about calling me ever.

i wouldn't take it too personally, maybe invite your mom and sister over for dinner? or dessert even? or a movie night? or even don't talk to them for a week, let things cool down, and come back with a better perspective...

jennypenny1014 · June 2011

Now dont take this the wrong way, and this may be MY hormones talking (and I also might get flamed to hell for it), but I think you're being a bit of a preg-zilla. I understand what it feels like to be lonely and want to spend time with others, but by b!tching out your family and holding resentment toward them to the point where you dont even want to have your shower cause you'll feel obligated to be nice to them is the quickest way to drive them away for good. All you're doing by acting bat sh!t crazy is causing a rift between you and your family that's going to take months to mend...and sure, you can blame the hormones all you want, but that doesnt change the fact that the more you scream at them for being selfish, the more they're gonna resent you because you're acting just as selfish as you seem to think they are being. Not to mention that it makes you look like a spoiled little girl that is throwing a tantrum because she's not getting what she wants

Did you ever think that maybe they're canceling on you/making other plans because they dont want to be around you because of how you're acting?? You really have to take a step back and learn how to entertain yourself. If you're in such desperate need to be social or around other people, why dont you try going to a Starbucks, getting some tea, sitting outside/inside/whatever, and try striking up a conversation with someone? And dont you have friends? Or are your mom and sister your only chance at any social interaction??

If memory serves, you're the one that's bipolar but not taking meds right now, right? You should really think about calling your doc and seeing if there's some sort of safe mood stabilizer you can take to help control your emotions. I would also reconsider posting your vents on here if it's gonna be the same sh!t day in and day out, cause this is almost identical to the previous post you had about being lonely and how you drove to your mom's house and screamed at her for not wanting to hang out with you. If I were on the other side of that random rage, I'd probably start canceling plans/making excuses too. If you're bipolar, and you know what's wrong with you, then try to do something about it instead of screaming at your family for not giving you attention.

BK33 · June 2011

irrational.....NO......extra sensitive.....SURE. It's to be expected so don't feel bad. I am lonely and bored too. I feel like I'm just sitting around waitng for this baby to come. I live so far away from all of my friends and family and whenever I try to organize a get together, my friends flake out. It hurts my feelings but what can I do? Pretty soon we will be the ones with no time! Wink

laurelnikki · June 2011

Wow thank you to all you bumpies who also get a case of the crazies lol. Oh and thanks to those of you who are not trying to judge or start unnecessary drama about who you THINK I am or talk about my past and my family relationships or medication that you know nothing about.

BK33 · June 2011

jennypenny1014:

Now dont take this the wrong way, and this may be MY hormones talking (and I also might get flamed to hell for it), but I think you're being a bit of a preg-zilla. I understand what it feels like to be lonely and want to spend time with others, but by b!tching out your family and holding resentment toward them to the point where you dont even want to have your shower cause you'll feel obligated to be nice to them is the quickest way to drive them away for good. All you're doing by acting bat sh!t crazy is causing a rift between you and your family that's going to take months to mend...and sure, you can blame the hormones all you want, but that doesnt change the fact that the more you scream at them for being selfish, the more they're gonna resent you because you're acting just as selfish as you seem to think they are being. Not to mention that it makes you look like a spoiled little girl that is throwing a tantrum because she's not getting what she wants

Did you ever think that maybe they're canceling on you/making other plans because they dont want to be around you because of how you're acting?? You really have to take a step back and learn how to entertain yourself. If you're in such desperate need to be social or around other people, why dont you try going to a Starbucks, getting some tea, sitting outside/inside/whatever, and try striking up a conversation with someone? And dont you have friends? Or are your mom and sister your only chance at any social interaction??

If memory serves, you're the one that's bipolar but not taking meds right now, right? You should really think about calling your doc and seeing if there's some sort of safe mood stabilizer you can take to help control your emotions. I would also reconsider posting your vents on here if it's gonna be the same sh!t day in and day out, cause this is almost identical to the previous post you had about being lonely and how you drove to your mom's house and screamed at her for not wanting to hang out with you. If I were on the other side of that random rage, I'd probably start canceling plans/making excuses too. If you're bipolar, and you know what's wrong with you, then try to do something about it instead of screaming at your family for not giving you attention.

that is quite possible.....geeesh

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