Anyone more scared for the arrival of #2?

SoCaliAli · June 2011

When I was counting down to the end with DS I was really nervous about labor and delivery and becoming a parent. This time I am not so worried about L&D, but I am really nervous about having two. I felt so calm before DS and I feel terrified this time around.

I know things will all work out, I just can't get over this pit in my stomach.

I guess there was really no point, just a rambling vent. Thanks for listening.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · June 2011

I feel the same way, too. How am I going to balance giving DD all the love and care that she needs while taking care of a newborn? Like you said, I know it will all work out but it still scares the crap out of me when I think about it for too long.

Sarahbear621 · June 2011

You are not alone. I'm nervous too. DS will be 15 months when DD is born and i'm nervous about DS not getting enough attention etc. I'm also nervous that bedtime/ nightime is going to be a nightmare the first few months- we live far away from family so there is no one to help etc. I know the first two years are going to be ruff but hopefully after that everything will be a breeze.

It seems most people with 2U2 find a pattern quickly and once it is established everything falls into place.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2011

YES. ESpecially since every stranger I met would talk about how horribly difficult my life would be. What I thought 2u2 would be and the reality were totally different. It was about a million times easier than I anticipated. Everyone told me that my #2 was going to be really difficult because my first was an easy baby/toddler, but my DD is even easier than my son was.

rosesandpeonies · June 2011

yup, and it is tough but its doable and it does work out. Not sugarcoating anything because it isn't a walk in the park, but you will find many wonderful things in with the tough times...I promise. Im on the other end and I am still here

t.bird · June 2011

i was worried about exhaustion & dealing with 2 children that need me 24/7

and it was exhausting & challenging & i cried- ha. but you make it work. you have to right?

howleyshell · June 2011

TERRIFIED.

Shaking in my boots.

With #2 there is no romantic notion of the newborn stage... you KNOW how bad sleep deprivation sucks and you know how hard it can be.

I think what you're feeling is normal.

Hang in there!

It goes by fast.

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KingRay09 · June 2011

Thank you for writing this post. I thought I was the only one who felt this way. My DD is 11 months old and still doesn't STTN and gives me a run for my money most days. Last night I broke down and cried because I felt so overwhelmed and DD #2 isn't even here yet. Sigh.

SoCaliAli · June 2011

t.bird:
i was worried about exhaustion & dealing with 2 children that need me 24/7

and it was exhausting & challenging & i cried- ha. but you make it work. you have to right?

This is what I keep telling myself to calm myself down. It will work out, because there is no other option.

jmlushbough · June 2011

I alternate between terror and denial... Yikes!

But then I look at my Mama friends and the other women I know who've done this before me, and I find strength in seeing that they are not only surviving, they're happy and healthy! Heck, some of them even have three or four or five kiddos!

Maybe this is naive, but I think just like with #1, there will be challenges and tough times, but there will be so many rewards and sweet times, too.

LJR 84 · June 2011

Yes!

I'm less nervous in that I know what to expect. With #1 we really had no idea what we were in for. It will be a LOT less stressful leaving the hospital with a newborn this time.

I'm just nervous about how the whole dynamic will work with 2, how DD will react, how I'll handle being exhausted, etc. DD just started STTN! I'm hoping this lo will be a better sleeper.

We will all survive!

kagl04 · June 2011

KC_13:
YES. ESpecially since every stranger I met would talk about how horribly difficult my life would be. What I thought 2u2 would be and the reality were totally different. It was about a million times easier than I anticipated. Everyone told me that my #2 was going to be really difficult because my first was an easy baby/toddler, but my DD is even easier than my son was.

Thank you for saying this! I feel like everyone thinks we are crazy for having our kiddos 14 months apart! It makes me feel like I should be really worried... Feels good to hear we aren't/weren't the only ones getting stupid and unnecessary comments.

But YES! I am terrified of DS coming. DD is just about 11 months old. She just started STTN. I love me sleep now and by no means want to be sleep deprived again! I also worry that she will need to fend for herself a lot and that I won't give her the extra attention she wants/needs. With DD I was blissfully unaware of how our lives would change, now with DS I know what it will be like (for the most part) and it scares the crap out of me!

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