Toddlers: 24 Months+

Really bugs me RE: Potty training promises

A friend of mine has been trying to potty train her DD for a yr now. She's almost 3 & could care less. The friend has tried a zillion ways but always ends up yelling at her DD about it. Then she made a deal, made a big deal about it for a couple of weeks - if she potty'd they'd buy her a certain toy. Well, they bought it for her anyways & she's still in pull ups not using the toilet.

I try so hard not to make deals that I won't follow through on. Now her DD, even though she already knew, knows it doesn't matter.

Re: Really bugs me RE: Potty training promises

  • shannmshannm member
    I don't know why people don't realize that they make it so much worse than they need to by doing this.  Deals are not going to work.  To me, the pull-ups are a deal.  She needs to ditch the pull-ups and mess in her pants.  Then she will get it.
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  • My friend used to do this.  Not just with potty training but everything else.  And she wonders why her 21 year old is a major league brat.  She taught her absolutely nothing about actions and consequences.  oh wait, she taught her that she can be really bad, not listen to anyone, and still get everything she wants. 
  • I make deals with DD all the time... but we stick to them.

    It's worked wonders with her potty training, when she lost interest. We started by offering her something small (M&Ms) just for trying. Then graduated to she got a small toy every time she actually went, no longer got anything for trying. Now she gets stickers every time she goes, and when she gets 5 stickers she gets a toy. Kinda weaning her off of the prizes, KNWIM?

    The biggest thing for me, and that I ask of anyone who watches her, is I don't mind if they say things like that, as long as they follow thru.
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