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Potty Training, accidents on purpose?

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Sorry if this is long.  To start off, DS is just shy of three.  I tried starting potty training a few times in the past, but he was definitely not ready (kicking and screaming every time he was made to go to the potty and had no successes).  

We prepped him for starting training after we got back from vacation a week ago and he was definitely ready.  I had him go to the potty every half hour and after four trips he peed in the potty.  After that he was hooked.  He told me he had to go or would go by himself just about every time.  It lasted about 5 days with only one or two pee accidents a day (he tries to poop on the potty, but no success).

Now he's not telling me he has to go and when I ask if he has to he says no.  I have him go anyway and he goes.  When I let him go a little while to see if he'll tell me then he just wets his pants.  Today I've asked him a couple of times if he needed to go, gotten no for an answer, and before I can even get him to the potty he starts wetting his pants and laughing.  It really seems like he's doing this on purpose.  I'm trying to not give any reaction, but it's hard not too.  Has anyone been through this?  Any ideas on how to change it?  I appreciate any help.

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  • cotnercotner

    Yep - make him clean up the mess.  DD was doing this and when I had her help clean up she cried like it was the end of the world.  I had her hand in between my two hands wiping up the floor.  I knew she did it just to upset me, so I told her if she did it again she would have to clean it all up with no help from me or DH.  She was horrified that she had to touch pee (though she never even touched it) and has not had an accident since (about 6 months ago).

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  • LisiLynnLisiLynn member
    There is a method that I used called the 3 day potty training method or something like that. You can google it. Its an ebook that a Mom wrote and you pay to download it. It is Awesome! One of the keys is never asking your child if they have to go potty because you don't want them to be able to give you a yes or no answer. You simply ask them if their underwear are dry and praise them if they are. If they aren't, you just change them with no fanfare. Oh, and there are zero diapers used with this method. I think that makes the biggest difference.
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  • C.squaredC.squared member

    DD did this for a while too.  It was about 3-4 months after she was pretty much daytime trained.  She would actually laugh at me and it was SO hard to not react.  There were some times I had to just walk away for a minute.  She was really just looking for a reaction, though.  When I stopped reacting, she stopped deliberately peeing in her pants.  I would make her stop what she was doing (playing, drawing, etc.), go potty, put her wet clothes in the laundry, clean up any mess, wash her hands, find and put on dry clothes, and then go back to what she was doing.  I found that she reacted better if I said "you tell me when you have to go potty, ok?" instead of asking her if she had to go.  Kind of put the control back in her corner - I could be a "nag" and keep saying "you tell me when you have to go" without actually asking her and giving her a chance to say no.  It got really bad for about a week and we started taking things away from her when she'd deliberately pee (I'd put the toy on top of the refrigerator so she could see it and not play with it).  That lasted about 2 days and she got tired of it, woke up one day and hasn't had an accident since.  GL - it is SO frustrating and I hope it gets better for you soon!

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