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Has your DH adjusted? (mini rant)

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DD is our first LO. DH has so not adjusted to being a parent yet. He gets frustrated when I ask him to be quiet at night when LO is sleeping (like 10/11pm, never during the day). The same thing when I tell him we need to leave a friend's house/party so that LO can be put to bed (usually about 9pm). He thinks LO should adjust to our lives and not the other way around. DD sleeps through the night. I don't want to mess with that and have explained that to him. He just doesn't get it.
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Re: Has your DH adjusted? (mini rant)

  • QuintonsMummahQuintonsMummah member
    Does your DH go to DR's appointments with you and LO? I had to bring FI to a few of them and ask the DR a few questions so that FI would understand that it wasn't just me making stuff up. i.e. washing bottles thoroughly and sterilizing them....FI just thought it was fine to rinse stuff off. 
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  • ekc29ekc29 member

    I can relate....DH said the same thing...."the baby will adjust to our lives and not visa versa".  Well, he is slowly finding out that baby comes first and we do have to adjust some areas of our lives to accommodate her.   He was the same way, "we will not be quiet when she is sleeping" etc.

    But he has her alone two or three evenings a week while I work part time, so he is starting to realize what it takes to take care of a LO.  And yes, you do need to adjust your lives to give LO what she needs.  He is coming around and it is an adjustment.  

     Does your DH spend any time alone w DD?  

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    imageQuintonsMummah:
    ......FI would understand that it wasn't just me making stuff up. i.e. washing bottles thoroughly and sterilizing them....FI just thought it was fine to rinse stuff off. 

    Haha....my H used to think it was ok to just rinse them too! I always just take care of washing them myself now! 

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    imageQuintonsMummah:
    ......FI would understand that it wasn't just me making stuff up. i.e. washing bottles thoroughly and sterilizing them....FI just thought it was fine to rinse stuff off. 

    Haha....my H used to think it was ok to just rinse them too! I always just take care of washing them myself now! 

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  • rmm17rmm17 member
    the comment about your DH not wanting to leave friends' houses early could have been my DH.  He thinks it appropriate to have a baby at a party with a bunch of drunk people until midnight.  He thinks i'm overreacting when i stay home instead of taking Ace places like that.  Ugh.
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  • Pennilyn NovusPennilyn Novus member
    It took my husband a couple day trips out with DS to realize that we could no longer go somewhere and just hang out for hours and hours on end.  And that everything revolves around naps, not the other way around. 
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  • meheron80meheron80

    My H has been amazing adjusting when I am close by but the second that I am gone and he doesn't have a quick "out" when the baby gets overwhelming he is anxiety ridden and easily frustrated.  The nights he is home and I am gone he wants to: Do dishes, laundry, dust, cook, take care of baby, watch TV, nap, relax... Ya babies don't allow that.  She wants fed, played with and to nap on dad so all his "plans" go out the door and he hasn't been able to adjust to that. 

    (Yes ladies my H cleans ... now doing outside work, that is a different story)

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