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Babies at Weddings???? WWYD?

katkat74katkat74
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To bring or not to bring? 4 month old at a formal Sunday night wedding? We have to travel for this wedding (five hour drive) and I'm not sure I am ready to leave my LO overnight. What would you do?
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  • Natalie_mayNatalie_may member

    I wouldn't.  I'm in a wedding in 2 weeks and my mom is staying at my house to watch the boys.  If you really don't feel comfortable maybe get two hotel rooms and bring a sitter?  Formal weddings aren't the place for babies IMO. 

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  • mommyjenny257mommyjenny257
    DS has been to two weddings in the last 3 weeks.  However, none were formal.  Also, he is an amazingly quiet baby and no one even knew he was there, except that several people wanted to hold him and gush over him.  Both brides knew I was bringing him, and were totally ok with it.
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  • skioskio member

    Are kids invited? Make sure the baby is welcome before making your decision.

    I would bring her if it was a close family member - our family has lots of kids and all our weddings are kid-friendly events. But friends' weddings are generally more social events for catching up & letting loose in our circle. We'd be thrilled to leave C with a grandma and hit up a friend's wedding if it was local. However, I don't know that I'd go to a wedding five hours away without her. I EBF and while she does take a bottle, she sometimes throws a fit about it. I'm not ready to leave her overnight. Can you bring along a babysitter?

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  • jayellekayjayellekay member

    I totally did, and I don't regret it. :-) But, I will say I have an angel of a little girl, and she never made a peep. DH and I were both in the wedding party, and Zoey was 10 weeks old at the time. It was an outdoor (but still formal) wedding, and we kept her in her stroller during the ceremony. A friend sat next to her and had a bottle ready in case she woke up, but she slept the whole time. Once the ceremony was over, it was no big deal if she fussed a little, because of all the noise of the reception, no one would have noticed, but she barely did anyway.

    If you have a fussy or very active one, I'd maybe reconsider. We didn't have much of an option--the wedding was in a different state, and I wasn't about to leave her with a babysitter I'd never met, but it turned out great nonetheless.

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  • ekc29ekc29 member
    imageskio:

    I would bring her if it was a close family member - our family has lots of kids and all our weddings are kid-friendly events. But friends' weddings are generally more social events for catching up & letting loose in our circle.

    This exactly.....my dad is getting remarried in nov and we will be taking B w us, only because it's family.  if it was a friend's, no way.

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  • starlily313starlily313 member
    We've taken LO to a formal banquet and will be taking her to a friend's wedding next month. She was invited to both & does well in public, so it's not a source of concern for us.
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  • nene82388nene82388
    No way jose. We are going to my husband's best friends wedding next weekend and A is staying at my dads. H is the best man so I would pretty much be taking care of her by myself. Plus it's a great time to get out and have fun without having to worry about her. I am nervous about leaving her overnight (actually 2 nights) but whatever I trust my dad completely so I'm not too worried.  Heck we are even driving 5 hours extra to leave A at my dads.
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  • JayleaJaylea
    You said this is your wedding, right OP? I'd definitely bring him to your own wedding!
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  • GreenFlamingo7GreenFlamingo7 member

    imageJaylea:
    You said this is your wedding, right OP? I'd definitely bring him to your own wedding!

    Agreed!

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  • jolynn326jolynn326 member

    imageJaylea:
    You said this is your wedding, right OP? I'd definitely bring him to your own wedding!

    I thought the same thing at first, but I'm pretty sure the "ours namely" referred to the baby...

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  • 2bejunebride062bejunebride06 member
    I definitely wouldn't bring a baby to a ceremony.  Maybe the reception, but probably not even that.  We traveled to several weddings when DD#1 was under a year old and we either left her with MIL or got a sitter.  Several times we were told by the bride or groom that DD#1 was invited to the wedding and they would love to have her there, but politely declined.  I could kinda see the relief on their faces when we declined.  DD#1 was a very active and noisy child so I didn't think it was fair to the bride and groom to have her there.  Even though DD#2 is the polar opposite (super quiet), I still wouldn't do it. 
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  • JnDbaby4usJnDbaby4us member
    A five hour drive is tough enough with a 4 month old, but with my five month old, we have done 3 weddings and two bridal showers in the last two months.  The weddings were DH step-sister, DH brother, and my first cousin.  She is a quiet baby, who made a couple of loud squeals but overall, I say just be prepared if you would have to take your LO out to the foyer during the ceremony.   

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  • erbearerbear member
    The real question is was your baby invited? If not, no way. That's just rude. Even if kids were invited, I think I'd leave mine home or bring a babysitter and enjoy myself
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  • Wufroggy79Wufroggy79 member
    I think you should give the bride or groom a call or email before you decide to bring them. It's really their day and their choice.
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  • katkat74katkat74
    To clarify--it is a family member who is getting married and they have been open about bringing our baby...not really saying yes or no.
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  • Firedancer1013Firedancer1013
    imageNatalie_may:

    I wouldn't.  I'm in a wedding in 2 weeks and my mom is staying at my house to watch the boys.  If you really don't feel comfortable maybe get two hotel rooms and bring a sitter?  Formal weddings aren't the place for babies IMO. 

    I'd do this.  But DS goes from zero to velociraptor (spelling?) in about 10 seconds, faster than I can exit a room if needed. 

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  • ABizzityABizzity
    I wouldnt take LO to a formal evening wedding.  I would def take him to a more casual casual daytime wedding though.  Get a sitter or opt out would be my advice. 
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  • AimeeL85AimeeL85 member

    I wouldn't.  Despite it being a special occasion, a 4 month old should be in bed long before a wedding reception would end. They can't enjoy it and it would only be a disruption to their routine, which can be very upsetting for babies.

    Also, if the bride and groom haven't said yes or no, I'd wonder if they'd prefer you not bring the baby but are afraid to hurt your feelings.

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