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OctGirl80
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NBR: How would you handle this? re: "friend"(long)
OctGirl80
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I posted this on May 6: "I became friends with a girl I went to school with a couple years
ago. She became pregnant while we were in school. I threw her a small
class shower. We would have dinner together (night classes) and hung
out a few times outside of school. After we graduated, we still got
together every so couple weeks or so. Bit of backstory: she was 37,
didn't really want kids, was annoyed by all things pregancy/child
related and didn't mind telling people how she felt. Then she got
pregnant. When she was 6 months along, I found out I was pregnant. She
congratulated me, etc.
Her LO was born back in
September and I visited her about a week later. We got together 2 or 3
times after that. I realized she had a new LO, but it seemed like she
just didn't want to make an effort to get together since she was going
to 2/3 new mom groups a week. I chaulked it up to her having a LO and I
didn't yet and she needed to connect to other moms. I was ok with that.
I had my LO in February and we put it on FB. She sent me a FB message saying congrats and saying we should get together and let her know when I felt up to it. I sent her a reply back a week or so later asking when she was available. I never got a response back so after a while I sent another. Still nothing but she posts about all sorts of stuff she's doing with her LO and tons of pics so I know she's still on FB. LO is 2 1/2 months and she hasn't made any effort to see her. I feel disappointed because I thought we were becoming good friends before all this."
We just got back from a week at Disney and She had sent me this message. "Hi M, went to look u up to post on ur wall and see pics of the
baby and realized we were no longer friends on FB.. Not only are we not
'friend's' but u blocked me.. Just wondered what I did to deserve that
ESP when your obviously still 'friend's' w/ other ppl from school."
I had removed 2/3 weeks ago from my friend list because I still hadn't heard from her and DD was 4 months. She isn't blocked I just have my privacy settings really high so that people can't find me if they aren't "friends". As for the other "ppl from school", it is 1 girl only and when I posted a couple months ago about how we had to put down our cat, she wrote me a very nice condolence message, and actually does keep in touch a bit.
Just wondering someone else's thoughts as I am really put off that she wrote that when I haven't heard from her in so long. (Also that she places such a high value on FB)
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Re: NBR: How would you handle this? re: "friend"(long)
Tell her exactly this:
I had removed 2/3 weeks ago from my friend list because I still hadn't heard from her and DD was 4 months. She isn't blocked I just have my privacy settings really high so that people can't find me if they aren't "friends".
The rest of it is none of her business as to who you are friends with.
I would tell her just what you told us.
How you felt regarding your relationship or lack there of and how you feel about your privacy on facebook.
Because I have a value on privacy. If some one is not a friend, why would I want them to have access?
I only have about 60 friends. People that are either family or friends, but that I stay in contact with. I think it's odd that some people have several hundred "friends" or friend people they don't/barely know.
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