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Wanting to be pregnant...
So my dh and I have been married for 7 years and together for 10 years now. When we met he had a daughter from a previous marriage that he got to see alot. He told me when we were dating that he would like to have one more chid but that's it...ofcourse at the time with no children I agreed. 10 years later here we are now with one child, my ds who is amazing. My ds is 2 1/2 years old and has been a very difficult child. From one month old he has had severe immune difficency problems and has been very sick. The first year he was alive he was in the hospital 6 times, went to the emergency room 27 times...is still on countless medications and didn't sleep more than 15 minutes at all until he was 15 months old. Now thank god we have gotten to a comfortable routine of medications that keep him somewhat healthy. Now we are moving into the terrible 2's with tantrums, NO's and meltdowns about every 10 minutes throughout the day. Despite all of this I really want another child and ofcourse my husband does not...at all!!!! He reminds me of our talk when we were dating to which I tell him that I have changed my mind. We definately cannot afford another child right now but even if we could he is determined to say NO. We are in counseling and have been for a year to try and cope with all the hard times we went through with ds. I know that my dh is scared that if we had another one it would push us apart again. We are finally getting back to ourselves and making time for eachother and settling into a routine. I know that I should and I am thankfull for my ds but I can't help but want him to have a sibling. I am an only child and it sucks! I guess I just need to deal with it...for now it doesn't look like my husband will budge. It sucks!!
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Re: Wanting to be pregnant...
If you cannot afford to have another baby, don't be upset with your husband for not wanting another baby.
Second your son does have a sibling or does your DH's daughter not count.
Edit because I left out "afford to"
I was annoyed by the only child comment, and I type too fast when I am annoyed.
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You agreed to only one child. You can't be mad at your husband because you changed your mind and he didn't.
Also- it doesn't sound like adding another child would be good for your DS' medical conditions.
I stopped reading close to the bottom. I missed all of that.
BTW I had siblings and it sucked. I guess it is a grass is always greener approach.
I feel the same way about my youngest brother. He is my brother no matter what.
Maybe it's just me but FFS, you're in therapy right now AND you fully acknowledge that you a) can't afford another kid and b) agreed to only having one child beyond your SD? Seriously? Get a grip. You don't need another child, you need a reality check.
Paragraphs please.
And bringing a child into this world takes two people and so should raising them. If your husband is not on board, then that's your answer.
And a return key.
This made me giggle for more reasons than one. I haven't heard it called a return key, since I took computer lab in the 1st grade. Ah, old school key boards and typewriters.
Haha! My mac says "return" in big letters and enter in smaller letters up top. So I always call it "return" when looking at my laptop - but you're right it does make me think of a typewriter too.
Really!? I have mostly windows products. I didn't know Return keys were still around.
A. You can't afford it
B. Your H is still going on the plan you both made
C. Is your child's condition genetic? Not that it really matters at this point b/c A & B