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la79al
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Infant and toddler for sale....cheap!
la79al
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Okay, technically I guess DD1 is a preschooler but still... I feel like I am going insane. Things seem to go okay during the day. It takes forever for us to leave the house, and we are always late, even when we try to leave 15 minutes early. Someone is usually in need of a bath/shower. The house is never clean. The baby whines. A lot. The bigger one is in a 'no' phase. The real issues however are at bedtime. DD2 is in bed with me. She nurses to sleep and wakes up 3-6 times to nurse back to sleep. DD1 sleeps in her crib in the bedroom next to mine, except for the 2-4 times a night she wakes up crying, screaming and kicking. I can not figure out how to successfully get them both to bed at a reasonable time. If I put DD2 down first, DD1 freaks out at bedtime, screams and cries and wakes DD2 up. Then DD2 is generally up for a few hours. I usually can not put her back to sleep due to the noise that DD1 continues to make. The other option is to just let DD1 stay up until she is so exhausted she goes to bed without a fight. DD2 does not usually take a decent nap during the day so she is definitely ready for bed first. I need to figure out how to get DD1 up about 45 minutes earlier in the morning and DD2 needs to get up about 2 hours earlier. I don't know how this can possibly happen without an earlier bedtime. Then there is the fact that DD1 will stand in her crib, look out the window and scream 'I want to catch lightning bugs'. And she does this even at 3:30 a.m. so there is not a whole lot of reasoning with her. I'm not even sure where to start fixing this mess. I would like to move DD2 to her crib but she shares a room with DD1 so I think I'm screwed in that area.
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Re: Infant and toddler for sale....cheap!
Maybe...and this is a BIG maybe....your DD1 is worried she is missing out on something and thinks you and DD2 are having a party in your room without her at night...I would try putting them both down in the same room and see what happens...they may do ok..it doesn't sound like it could be much worse than it is now...
And if sharing a room is a giant fail....maybe setup a pnp (or even temporarily move DD2's crib into your room if there's space) for DD2...get a fan/white noise machine/something to drown out the screams of DD1 and try putting DD2 down for bed first in your room in her own crib/pnp and then give DD1 all your attention for a special bedtime routine that is just for her and includes whatever you usually do plus maybe a special book/puzzle/quiet activity.....and then once you put her in bed, keep her there...if she wakes up screaming at 3:30 I would go in once to remind her its still bedtime and she needs to go to sleep and then leave the room...
And absolutely try an earlier bedtime..GL!
#1 - HUGS to you
I would start to work on DD2 and get her squared away. Do you really want to co-sleep with her? I would move her to a crib (even if its in yoru room or another room) and then work on elimnating all those night feedings. There is no reason she needs to eat 3-6 times a night.
While you are dealing w/ her, set DD1 up w/ a show in your room/in the living room or can your DH help out? And, then once your younger one is on a better schedule, you can deal w/ the older one.
What time is everyone going to bed? Seems to me like the LO should be going to bed around 7:30 and maybe your older DD can go at 8:30?
Can DD1 sleep in a room on her own? Or is there no space in your house? In your ticker it says she's over 3 but it seems like she is still in a crib? Maybe it's time to transition her to a big girl bed in her own room. What time does she go to bed?
We have a pack-n-play in our room for DS. He wakes up only 2x a night to eat. We swaddle him and he likes that. I think by having DD#2 in your bed whenever she senses you she wants to nurse. Whereas if she had her own space she might not do that.
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