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December 2011 Moms
Jillylauk
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Team Green Pressure
Jillylauk
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I am the last one in our families on both sides to have kids and everyone found out the sex of the babies prior to birth and I do not want to find out. I ruin EVERY surprise. When I was little I would unwrap and re-wrap my Christmas presents. This is the one surprise in my life I want so much. My mother and sister are pressuring me to find out.My mother always says " Turtles and Ducks that is all you will get for your shower" and " I hope you like yellow" and "I haven't bought anything for you yet because gender neutral stuff is ugly". So I went for my monthly appointment yesterday and the heartbeat was 160 so you know the wives tale over 140 it's a girl. I refused to tell my mom the heartbeat because then she will just assume it is a girl........ I told my mom if she wants to know the sex of a baby she should have one lol. I am sticking to my guns on this but it is just really frustrating and annoying. Anyone else feeling the same pressure and how are you handling it?
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Re: Team Green Pressure
Sorry you are getting so much pressure about this. My family would LOVE to know. My younger sister keeps telling me how annoying it is that I won't find out, and she even asked me if she could find out even if I don't want to! (My older sister was team green with her children, so she completely understands where I'm coming from) DH's family just thinks it is a little strange. My SIL found out the sex of all three of her babies. She went in to her a/s with her names picked out and as soon as they told her boy or girl she began referring to her child by name. She finds it very bizarre that I am not doing the same. I just laugh it off, and try to enjoy it (a little) that I am driving everyone else crazy.
Well, she is right, I HATE gender neutral stuff, and people will get clothes, whether you know the gender or not...
BUT it is rude to pressure you to do something you don't want to do. If she assumes it is either gender by the heart rate, tell her to keep her reciepts!
I am not having the exact same problem but still, there are issues. We haven't decided if we are finding out the sex but I already have people (my mother and sister) begging me to find out.
I actually prefer gender neutral stuff and would be getting everything gender neutral except perhaps some clothes, even if we do find out the sex. Stay strong and good luck!
We got some pressure, but I always just said "When you have/had your baby you got to/will get to choose to find out or not. I hope people restpected/will respect your decision and you will respect mine." Honestly, it shut them up. It's a little b!tchy to say, but really, so are the comments most time.
Team green is a choice you shouldn't have to defend, same as you shouldn't have to defend your decision to find out the gender either. IDK why everyone gets their panties in such a bunch about either decision.
And there are REALLY cute GN things out there.
We weren't team green with our first, but kept it a secret from everyone mostly because I went to my best friend's shower and she got more pink blankets and newborn clothes than she ever used, and got almost no necessities. We kept it a secret, and sure we got a few green or yellow clothing items, but most people stuck to the registry since they didn't know.
We were Team Green with our third, and LOVED it! Don't let anyone sway you if you want to stay that way. It's YOUR baby, and they just have to get over it! We are team green again, and I'm so excited. I wavered a little because we'll need a new carseat if we have a boy, but I think we're just going to buy a carseat anyways. It drives some family members crazy, but I don't care. it's not their baby.