Do you "party" with your relatives/family?

DavezWife · June 2011

So my mom has 3 (not much) younger brothers. They all live in a small rural area 3 hours from us. Farmland, horses, they all work in construction together. All 3 brothers have 2-3 kids each, most are boys, late high school, give or take 5 yrs.

The brothers have always been "good time, beer drinkin', motorcycle ridin', woot! woot!" kind of gang. Rarely trouble, just enjoy "working hard, playing hard" lifestyle. They're good people.

However, the past year or two, I've noticed more and more grad parties, FB piks, etc that involve their 19 yr old, his buddies and their girlfriends, and Mom & Dad.... all gathered around the bonfire and keg together. (all the kids, not just one brother's)

Again, they all seem to be fairly functioning "responsible" teens and adults. (this isn't a family of raging problem drinkers/smokers) I'm just surprised how many times the kids and parents seem to party together.

Norm or odd? I'm trying to decide if I'm jealz. lol.

Nicole. · June 2011

Do I? No. We live about 1 1/2 hours from both of our families (who live about 30 minutes from one another) but BOTH of our families party/get together ALL.THE.TIME. When we visit DH's family and go to have dinner with "his parents" that includes about 25 other people- no lie. Same for my family although mine is a bit smaller- it's probably 15 or so. We try to be as involved as we can, but we're both so busy that it's hard to make it down all the time.

Although, still not decided if it's odd or not- it's definitely the norm for our families! Even odder- it's like that for both of our parents sides- my mom and dad's sides are like that and so are DH's...

Happycouple · June 2011

In my 'world' I would consider that NOT normal. I did not 'party' with my parents when under age, nor did DH, nor did any of our close friends. As grown, legal drinking' adults, I have had a drink or two at dinner etc with my family, multiple drinks at dinner with DH's family. DH's family and parents drink more than my parents do. Nothing too crazy, but i have def seen my FIL heavily buzzed before. My Dad and DH's Dad have had a beer together before. With all that said, Ive never put any pics on FB of all of us 'patying' unless you count Thanksgiving around the dinner table!

I think in some areas and some families, this is totally normal and common. I pass no judgement.

kimarino13 · June 2011

Yep! Well, we used to. We'd have bonfires in the backyard and sit around and drink with my parents and younger brothers and their friends. Now our "partying" consists of margs and a beers in the backyard over a lunchtime BBQ.

armywife76 · June 2011

A couple glasses of wine at dinner or around the firepit...ok. On the rare occurrence that we go out? Hellz no. Not that my parents would want to join us buy just sayin'. To each his own, though. I know plenty of people that do.

Nicole. · June 2011

Ok, so as I'm reading other people's responses- I feel the need to clarify (not really sure why, though) but by "party" I didn't mean drink with them...I was more focusing on hanging out with family as friends/social network. Totally misunderstood. Both of our families are pretty "traditional" in the drinking once your 21 and only once you're 21.

DavezWife · June 2011

yeh, we have social occassions where we have dinner, drink wine, etc. and then when with my dad's large group of siblings, we hang out, have pizza or cook, sip and "shoot the chit"....

but this just seems like what teens/young adults would be doing, but their parents just happen to be there, too. A lot.

lol. I can't imagine getting smashed and lit up with my parents. Much less on a regular basis.... this weekend it was the "whole gang" at a music festival. All camping, gettin' their 'drank on, etc. together. Part of me was like "ahhh, fun!" and then I was like, wait... Auntie Dee did WHATTTT????? WTF? But they're all really fun and cool people to be around, so maybe it works better than I thought. ha!

kimarino13 · June 2011

I think you just have to have the right family dynamics. For us, there's nothing better than going to the fair as a family every summer and every one of us getting plowed on several beers/margaritas. But we genuinely consider our parents our best friends. I am well aware that this is not the norm, but it works for us.

cjsbdl · June 2011

No, but my family is Southern Baptist.

skoorbnibor · June 2011

very normal in my family. Not in my husbands family

laura&dan05 · June 2011

Yes, but we're very close with our families.

naflmj · June 2011

Now that I am an adult, yes we do but I wouldn't say on a regular basis. We have a large family and we spend a lot of time at our beach house in the summer "partying" together. Rum punch on the beach, continued beers on the deck at home, etc. The older teenagers may have ONE drink on the porch but that is about it.

dundasgirl · June 2011

Well 19 is legal in Ontario...So having 19 and older drinking would be totally acceptable around here.

In my family though? Alcoholism runs deep in the roots of the family tree so there was never ever any drinking at family functions. NONE.

Now that my generation is in their mid-twenties/early thirties, the cousins will have a couple beer at a BBQ in the summer....but it still feels so strange to me after the situation growing up.

On the other hand, DH's family are beer drinkin' folk. There is always beer involved! LOL

MrsKolasa · June 2011

I don't know if it's the norm, but we definitely do. Matter of fact, I was just partying with my parents on Saturday. Then again on Sunday at a cousins grad party when my aunts/uncles/cousins/siblings/parents all hung out afterwards and had a few beers.

We are just an all around good time ;-)

SeaSoul · June 2011

Nope. I drink with my parents in a more sophisticated way, I guess you'd say, but we don't "party." I know some families who do (and did even at a younger age), and it seems weird to me.

LisaMarisa · June 2011

Yes. This weekend was my brothers college graduation party. He had about 20 of his friends there plus our family. There was a game of flip cup going on that included an equal number of each. Since I have the little ones, we left kind of early (9ish) but my parents were up partying with the "kids" until 1 (the kids continued until 4).

In April, we had a girls weekend at the NJ shore with aunts and cousins. We had so much fun and there was a lot of drinking done! We had a scavenger hunt and introduced the older generation to some new games which they loved. Good times!

My parents generation is just a lot of fun. Both of them have a lot of brothers and sisters and they all know how to have a good time. But they're not trashy about it if that makes sense. Like you said, work hard, play hard. My mom doesnt curse, and especially not in front of us kids, but she'll get into a game of flip cup or beer pong. It's fun! And I'm lucky because my mom is my best friend.

skoorbnibor · June 2011

To clarify, we dont get rip roaring drunk with our families, but we love hanging out with them

emiannie · June 2011

skoorbnibor:
To clarify, we dont get rip roaring drunk with our families, but we love hanging out with them

We hang out and a lot of times there is a lot of alcohol involved. Before we were in college we didn't drink with our parents, but after that they knew we were drinking at school so what difference did it make? Our family has a great time. We don't get smashed, but we have a great time and are tipsy sometimes.

In the country, where we are, it's far more normal for families to get smashed together after a hard day's work on the farm. I see nothing wrong with it at all. They're all responsible adults and don't drink & drive or anything.

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