fear of trying for number 2 clicky poll

WearingRed · June 2011

Just wondering[Poll]

Scout05 · June 2011

SS - I don't know if it's "fear" exactly. It's more weariness of the TTC process, what it entails for us, and of going through another high-risk pregnancy (complete w/ Lovenox injections and killer m/s), only this time with a young child. I worry about m/c, of course, I'd have to be simple-minded given our history not to worry about that. I do not think I could handle another loss. I don't fear it, I just know it would be the end of any future discussions about children.

At best, I have one more prengncy in me, MAYBE. Whatever that means and however that ends.

I don't know that I will ever be willing to take that much of my emotional reserves, physical time and attention, and finances away from DD. I know for sure I'm not willing to do so anytime soon.

WearingRed · June 2011

Glad to see I'm not alone in my fears.

JaimieLee · June 2011

I am definitely scared. We have to do IVF w/pgd. Besides the whole process (which kinda scares me but I will get over it), I am scared it won't take. Insurance, grants, nothing will cover the expense so it will be totally out of pocket (20k). We can't afford to keep doing it. I am also scared to death to have an "oopsy" baby on our own, if the baby were to have CF we would have to make some tough choices that frankly, I don't want to even think about. Certainly cheaper to do financially but the emotional cost would be worse, I assume. Ugh. Somedays I wish I was a genetically normal FH.

knelli · June 2011

I don't know if I am afraid per se.... but I have been dragging my feet because I just cannot "picture" another pregnancy/child in my life right now. Originally we said we were going to start trying for #2 in Jan '11... it is June and I finally told DH we can try next cycle because I know he is getting irritated with waiting.

mamaholic · June 2011

I'm not exactly scared as much as not sure we're ready. DD is still so much the center of our world that I feel like I want to give her a little more time to have just DH and me. We will likely start TTC again when she is a little older she'll be in preschool. That way I can give LO2 somewhat of the same attention we have DD.

damabo80 · June 2011

Mighty Mouse here. The fear of being 60 years old and only having one child scares me way more than another PG, another loss (can't win the race, if I don't enter), another cycle, another birth, another NICU stay, another newborn, etc.

We'll keep trying until the IF insurance runs out. We have 6 IUIs, 1 IVF and 1 FET to burn through before we think about throwing in the towel.

magdalina.h · June 2011

SS. I'm afraid of another high risk pregnancy and having another late loss with Lucas. I'm also afraid of my mommy guilt being even worse than it was when we decided to ttc #2

nicobean1 · June 2011

Not afraid of the pregnancy so much as after the child is here and how it changes the rest of our lives forever.

mrstyson03 · June 2011

magdalina.h:
SS. I'm afraid of another high risk pregnancy and having another late loss with Lucas. I'm also afraid of my mommy guilt being even worse than it was when we decided to ttc #2

Basically this for me too. I spent the entire pregnancy in fear. It was soooo stressful. I'm just not sure I can deal with that, the guilt, and everything else again.

erinkate23 · June 2011

LOL, you need to add an "afraid of absolutely everything" button.

Afraid I won't be able to get PG

Afraid if I do, I'll lose the baby

Afraid my body won't be able to handle the PG

Afraid I won't be a good mommy with a huge belly

Afraid of being a crummy mommy to my toddler because I'm too busy.

....but doing it anyway!!

Yeah, that about sums it up.

flutepharm87 · June 2011

I'm not afraid, just not ready. With 3 month old twins, I don't think I could be pregnant and take of them right now. What I'm really terrified of is getting pregnant with multiples again. I know that ID twins are a "genetic fluke" of sorts, but having 2 sets of twins (or twins + higher order multiples) honestly keeps me up at night! I guess it's just that after seeing/experiencing how hard twins are, I really don't have the desire to replay it with the boys on top of it. Not yet, anyway!

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