Definition of obnoxious on FB

laney75 · June 2011

Someone I know recently posted on FB that she can get back into her pre-pregnancy jeans. (she is less than 2 weeks postpartum). I am happy for her that she is already slimming down in that area, but why in God's name would you announce that on FB? I think that is totally obnoxious! It just seems so insensitive to all those women (many of us) who aren't back to their pre-pregnancy sizes so soon. I just don't understand why people share stuff like that.

MamatoJackson · June 2011

I was back into my pre-preg jeans within a week! Granted, I'm a size 20.

rofl....

laney75 · June 2011

MamatoJackson:
I was back into my pre-preg jeans within a week! Granted, I'm a size 20.
rofl....

LMAO... I know... and for the record I have no idea when I was back into my jeans. I've one year post partum and am happy with my weight and size but... I guess it just seems really tacky to announce something like that to me! And as you can imagine, yes she is like a size 4 or 2, not sure.

MrsBalletStar05 · June 2011

She's posting because she is proud. In fact, she is probably bragging - because if you fit your pre-preg jeans after 1 week, you didn't physically do anything to make that happen - it just happened on it's own.

BUT (and I'm sorry this sounds *mean* I don't intend for it to) why let someone else's life and situation bother your own? Don't feel put down by it.

susanmosley · June 2011

is this that same pesky SIL, laney?

laney75 · June 2011

MrsBalletStar05:
She's posting because she is proud. In fact, she is probably bragging - because if you fit your pre-preg jeans after 1 week, you didn't physically do anything to make that happen - it just happened on it's own.
BUT (and I'm sorry this sounds *mean* I don't intend for it to) why let someone else's life and situation bother your own? Don't feel put down by it.

Yes you are right. I tend to be overly sensitive. I know it certainly wasn't directed at me, or really anyone. These things tend to rub me the wrong way. I just... don't like when people brag or are boastful. It's my issue I guess.

MamatoJackson · June 2011

laney75:
MrsBalletStar05:
She's posting because she is proud. In fact, she is probably bragging - because if you fit your pre-preg jeans after 1 week, you didn't physically do anything to make that happen - it just happened on it's own.
BUT (and I'm sorry this sounds *mean* I don't intend for it to) why let someone else's life and situation bother your own? Don't feel put down by it.
Yes you are right. I tend to be overly sensitive. I know it certainly wasn't directed at me, or really anyone. These things tend to rub me the wrong way. I just... don't like when people brag or are boastful. It's my issue I guess.

It can be offensive sometimes. Bear in mind, oftentimes people who brag are trying to reassure themselves about the topic at hand or about something else that you might be unaware of.

MrsBalletStar05 · June 2011

MamatoJackson:
laney75:
MrsBalletStar05:
She's posting because she is proud. In fact, she is probably bragging - because if you fit your pre-preg jeans after 1 week, you didn't physically do anything to make that happen - it just happened on it's own.
BUT (and I'm sorry this sounds *mean* I don't intend for it to) why let someone else's life and situation bother your own? Don't feel put down by it.
Yes you are right. I tend to be overly sensitive. I know it certainly wasn't directed at me, or really anyone. These things tend to rub me the wrong way. I just... don't like when people brag or are boastful. It's my issue I guess.
It can be offensive sometimes. Bear in mind, oftentimes people who brag are trying to reassure themselves about the topic at hand or about something else that you might be unaware of.

True dat!

susanmosley · June 2011

IMO, & I certainly have my own issues, the only reason you post that on FB is so that people will tell you how great it is & compliment you. And the only reason you need that is because you are unable to fulfill that need internally....& that is a bummer.

laney75 · June 2011

susanmosley:
IMO, & I certainly have my own issues, the only reason you post that on FB is so that people will tell you how great it is & compliment you. And the only reason you need that is because you are unable to fulfill that need internally....& that is a bummer.

You may be right. I really don't know how she thinks/feels. I do not want to make her look bad when she is postpartum and probably having crazy emotions. I just found it super tasteless. Regardless, it isn't my business and really doesn't affect me right?

karatechrissy · June 2011

Ya, a lady I know did that. I wanted to reply 'that's bc you weighed 300 lbs when you got pregnant in the first place, no one even could tell you were pregnant even at 37 weeks'. Then I remembered I'm not 12 so I ignored, but it was annoying none the less.

WhitePicketFence · June 2011

Eh, she just sounds proud IMO. I don't think she necessarily meant it to brag or to make others feel bad about themselves. Heck, I wish I could have fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes that quickly after having DD! As it turns out, I was still carrying around 10 lbs. of baby weight when I got pregnant the second time.

hellopoppyseed · June 2011

I had a friend post the exact same thing. It is in poor taste. When you know something is a struggle for many people, you shouldn't publicly announce how it's super easy for you. No one who is known to have money would write, "we have more than enough money for Christmas presents this year." that would be in poor taste since many people struggle with this. I do agree she probably has self esteem issues.

JennaHope · June 2011

I'm also leaning towards she's proud. It took me 6mos to lose the weight with DS but with DD it took 2wks. Not that I posted it but I was thrilled that it happend so quickly. She's probably feeling the same way.

MommyMich · June 2011

I don't think this is a big deal. I say good for her! I would be proud too if I got into my prepregnancy clothes that quickly. If you don't want to hear about it and can't feel anything but negative upon reading about her "accomplishments," then remove her as your friend or hide her from your stream. The great thing about FB is that you can choose what you have to see and don't. I have hidden many a person that has crossed the line with their political agendas or personal interests (such as legalizing marijuana for autistics) and I'm sure a few people hid me when I was raising money for the March of Dimes.

laney75 · June 2011

hellopoppyseed:
I had a friend post the exact same thing. It is in poor taste. When you know something is a struggle for many people, you shouldn't publicly announce how it's super easy for you. No one who is known to have money would write, "we have more than enough money for Christmas presents this year." that would be in poor taste since many people struggle with this. I do agree she probably has self esteem issues.

You hit the nail on the head. I would be proud of myself too. But I certainly wouldn't share that on FB when I know it is a struggle for most women. But I guess that is what FB is for right?

DevonPow · June 2011

Eh, I would post it, too, if I was back in my old size that soon. Even though some of it is most likely genetics, how do you know she didn't work her butt off while pregnant to help make it a much easier loss post baby? She has a right to be proud. I certainly posted when I lost all my baby weight, and for other things that I worked hard for. I do not have self-esteem issues - I just have a lot of friends that share the same interests and goals as me, and we encourage each other.

axr8111 · June 2011

Give her a break. She just had a baby and has crazy pregnancy hormones going through her system and finally found something to be excited about during a very sleep depriving isolating time.

Not sure I see it as that big of a deal. When people post things, I don't say...hey that makes me feel bad because I don't have it or haven't done it. Instead, I truly think...yay! Good for them! Personally it's way less annoying than that person who posts something negative every single day on their FB page. BLAH.

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