"You Need to Find a Man" Vent

Re: "You Need to Find a Man" Vent

• GettinNervous

  June 2011

  My family tells I'm better off by myself! But a co-worker is always giving me the "true love exists" speech. She's a newlywed, so I just let her ramble. She even said, "You know when you find the right one." I replied with, "Yeah, but I thought I did. And half of the people that are divorced also thought the same thing." 

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• KatieGraceB

  June 2011

  GettinNervous:

  My family tells I'm better off by myself! But a co-worker is always giving me the "true love exists" speech. She's a newlywed, so I just let her ramble. She even said, "You know when you find the right one." I replied with, "Yeah, but I thought I did. And half of the people that are divorced also thought the same thing." 

  I love your answer! My family is obsessed with me finding a man too. It gets old really quickly. Every time my mom calls she asks how the dating life is going. Ugh, Mom, I'm taking 5 classes a semester, trying to find a job, and, oh yeah, raising my child solo. When do I have time to date? All in good time, but right now there are more important things to worry about. 
  

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• lou513

  June 2011

  I totally know what you mean!  How are single mom's supposed to find time to date?  I can't even find time to sleep let alone hire a babysitter and get all dolled up just to go to dinner with someone who isn't good enough for my little man.  Every time I try to vent or make a comment about something difficult that happened in my day with my son, my mom talks about how "when I marry that rich millionaire, everything will be ok".  I really do want to get married some day but I would prefer to have my family support me for wanting to give my son the best life I can and be dependent on myself rather than on an unreliable man.  There are definitely more important things to worry about right now!  Whew, I feel better already
  

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• KR1505

  June 2011

  Had to stop lurking for this one, this kind of stuff just drives me nuts!

  My family stressed the importance of being independent, getting a good job, making my own money, etc.  My bff's family is like yours though.  When she dumped her lying verbally abusive fiance, her grandfather told her "by the grace of God, you found a man who was willing to marry you, and you threw it away".  As if it would take a miracle to find a man who wants to be with her.  Her grandmother recently told her "you need to catch and keep a man", as if she ought to be laying snares out in the woods like hunters do.  Yes, my bff wants a husband because she wants kids.  She's not single for lack of trying.  She's had 2 fiances who turned out to be turds.  Better to be single than be with a loser just because some people think relationship=happiness.

  And considering bff's dad beat the crap out of bff and bff's mom, you'd think they would realize that having a man isn't necessarily a GOOD thing. 

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• UnderAtree member

  June 2011

  Not even a week after I officially left STBXH my best friend tried to hook me up with a guy she knew. Well when I finally met him within no time at all he was asking me to go get a room...um no thanks.

  Other then that no one has really bugged me, and I'm glad they aren't. I'm just not ready for that. But my mom has told me that when I am ready she will help me pay for a dating site haha.
  

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