Pregnant Friend - is this weird?

MrandMrsAndrews · June 2011

So my friend is due September 21. Here is the weird part - when people ask her how far along she is, she says a couple weeks ahead of what she actually is. Today, she went to a sale with me and we met my MIL there. My MIL asked when are you do? She's like - August.

Why is she saying stuff like that? It doesn't really bother me, I just think it is weird and was hoping someone could give me some sort of idea as to why she would say things like that.

BinksMomma3016 · June 2011

That is weird, do you think her EDD changed??Prob not that much. I know sometimes I say December, because I feel like I look so big for only 14 weeks. LOL and it helps with the comments, is it twins, etc. I would never say November though. That is weird...hmmm

MrandMrsAndrews · June 2011

BinksMomma3016:
That is weird, do you think her EDD changed??Prob not that much. I know sometimes I say December, because I feel like I look so big for only 14 weeks. LOL and it helps with the comments, is it twins, etc. I would never say November though. That is weird...hmmm

No, we are definitely close enough that I know her due date hasn't changed. And she has posted on her fb that she is due 9/21. I just don't understand. But I don't want to upset her by asking since it isn't really a big deal - but I really just want to try to think of why she'd do it! She is not "big" for her pregnancy or anything.

She is definitely one of those people that likes getting attention - but I don't see why she would say she is due a month earlier than she is would get her more of it?

BinksMomma3016 · June 2011

That honestly was my second thought, that she just likes the attention of almost being due or something. July starts this week so by saying August, maybe she feels more special or something. Sounds like she ia an AW. lol. I dont see how that is amnymore special but who knows how ppl think. Next time she says that you should giggle after the person leaves and say "I always notice you say that, haha, why do you do that".

katelynssweet · June 2011

Next time your with her and this happens. Say, " I thougth you were due Sept 21st?" See what she says. That's what I would have done. Seems very strange to me...

NoodleM · June 2011

If you are close enough to know her due date has not changed, and that she does not have a scheduled c section in Aug due to being high risk, then you should be close enough to casually ask why she tells people something different.

I would ask, or else it'll keep bugging you!

alyss0nl · June 2011

Does she have a big belly? I know it sounds weird, but maybe she feels self conscious of her size and how far along she is. I tell people I'm 18 weeks and they don't believe me. LOL They think I'm only 14 or 15 weeks along. It might be something like that.

HappyAardvark · June 2011

Haha, when people ask when I'm due, I've been saying "3 more months," because October sounds so far away! And I'm due 10/1, and think I look pretty big and don't want people to give the side eye at how big my belly is if they're thinking more like the end of October, LOL.

Snorkel30 · June 2011

I'd just ask her in a light way, not like all dead serious. Just be like, haha, what? You're not due in August, you're due in September. i would have even said that when my mother in law asked and she answered august. I would be like, "What? I thought it was September?" It is really weird and I'd wanna know, so I'd just ask. I don't see how that would upset her by asking.

Kitty Holland · June 2011

I'm also pretty vague and don't give exact dates because I've had people comment on how big I am. So I say that I am over 6 months.

kvwoodard · June 2011

BinksMomma3016:
That is weird, do you think her EDD changed??Prob not that much. I know sometimes I say December, because I feel like I look so big for only 14 weeks. LOL and it helps with the comments, is it twins, etc. I would never say November though. That is weird...hmmm

I do the same!

As far as your friend goes, who knows. You should just ask her!

foxc1984 · June 2011

Is she having twins? Because they would be delivered in August but they dont change your edd. I find when people ask how far along you are it can really confusing, because you are really pregnant for 40 weeks or 10 months sometimes the math doesnt add up i.e. I am 25 weeks or 6 months pregnant but I still have 4 months until my due date.

DiscusCoach · June 2011

I calculated (for both pregnancies) an EDD a week or two ahead of my doctor's due date so, for a while, I went by mine. I stopped doing that after the big US.

Is it possible she knows they are taking the baby early. There are tons of conditions that would cause that. Maybe she is afraid to tell anyone.

Maybe she can read the future?

blu-eyedwife · June 2011

HappyAardvark:
Haha, when people ask when I'm due, I've been saying "3 more months," because October sounds so far away! And I'm due 10/1, and think I look pretty big and don't want people to give the side eye at how big my belly is if they're thinking more like the end of October, LOL.

This is why I always tell people "first week of October!" I don't want them thinking I'm huge for an end of October baby!

Cherryblossoms07 · June 2011

She knows you know the actual date so it is not like she is trying to pull the wool over your eyes and she knows you know the truth when she says these things to others in front of you. So, I would just ask her why she is telling people a different date, but I would not make a big deal out of it in front of any one. Personally, I would just assume that she had some hurtful comments made about her size and how far along she is.

I am always very vague about my due date because of this. When I was pregnant with DD I got a lot of comments about how I looked big for how early in pregnancy I was. I started telling random people that I was due earlier than I actually was to get the comments to stop.

Vasana · June 2011

I have never made it to my due date, I would not feel like I was dishonest if I said a month earlier than my due date. In fact when I say my due date I get the twins comment, I should follow your friends example....

SheLovesMrHip · June 2011

Very odd, and that would bug me. I'm a dork, and would call her out, but thats just me.

myeshabride · June 2011

katelynssweet:
Next time your with her and this happens. Say, " I thougth you were due Sept 21st?" See what she says. That's what I would have done. Seems very strange to me...

That's funny and I would totally do that...LOL! Yes

elizabethadas8 · June 2011

i had the same problem, kinda. i found out i was pregnant and then a couple weeks later she also found out she was. Her BF acually was the one lying about her due date, not her. because he wanted it to be a competition so he was trying to say he was like farther along, which we didnt care whatever. I talked to her a couple days ago and shes like 5wks behind me. Part of it, it's their secound so i think he wanted to try to steal the spotlight cause it's our first.

MySallyGirl · June 2011

alysson.lawless:
Does she have a big belly? I know it sounds weird, but maybe she feels self conscious of her size and how far along she is.

This

cecilyandgautam · June 2011

2 of my friends just delivered a month early - both were due end of June, delivered end of May. It's probably just a coincidence but it has me thinking that even though I'm due the 3rd week of December, maybe I'll end up with a Thanksgiving baby instead of a Christmas baby. Also, when I had to go into a different clinic for something, they said my baby is too big for me to only be X weeks along so they gave me a different due date. Maybe your friend is getting conflicting estimates?

Maybe your friend is just anticipating what's possible or maybe the women in her family have a history of delivering early. Ask her - maybe she's worried something could go wrong but just hasn't been talking about it directly.

charityragland · July 2011

I think that she may be anxious for the baby to be here. I know that when people ask me when I am due I say August 15th, but I am hoping to go early. Haha. I think that is what she means when she says August. But I have to agree with the attention thing too. She could say that because she may want the Aw factor from some people.

If you two are really close you could just ask her and see what she says about why she says that instead of September. But, pregnancy makes some people a little crazy sometimes. Haha

MustanGTbaby13 · July 2011

You should probably let her know that it will be a piss off later on when August comes and goes and there is still no baby...and baby are calling/texting/emailing/facebooking constantly asking if that baby is here yet!

Yellowwoman · July 2011

I promise I'm not your friend incognito

(since we are in the same area and my due date is close to hers!!). However, I hate when people ask me when I'm due and/or what I'm having--I just feel like it's really none of their business. If they are my family or close friends, I have already told them. I feel the same when people ask me my child's name--it just isn't their business. Maybe I seem rude, but as a former law enforcement officer, I've seen too many things in my life to share indiscriminate information with people. Perhaps your friend feels the same? Just another perspective to consider!

thcitynengland87 · July 2011

I think it's a little weird, but I'm sure you could just ask. When people would ask me, I'd tell them "He's due at the end of August, but I'm really hoping for him to show up sooner"

sweetie41305 · July 2011

I always say I'm a little farther along than I am because I feel like my belly is big. I only say I'm a week or 2 farther because I don't want people thinking I'm too fat or something so I just stretch it.

violettbird · July 2011

I always tell people end of July, beginning of August.

My due date is August 6 according to the 18 week ultrasound - (I calculated August 2 from the get-go)

I say end of July because no one in my family has carried to term (my mum has six babies, all 36-38 weeks, my dad's sisters all had babies in this same range). It is both sides of the family, and I want the freedom to have the baby a bit early - I started mat leave July 1 because as far as I am concerned, baby is go time now.

Of course because I am being cautious baby will come 2 weeks late : p

violettbird · July 2011

oops, not sure how I ended up on 2nd tri board sorry folks

selvagec · July 2011

not really, first of all the doctors did an ultrasound very early ultrasound on me because they expected a miscarriage. the ultrasound said that I was 5 weeks pregnant when I knew I was 8. based on period, ovulation and the times that my husband and I were intimate. in anycase I knew I was due earlier than the date they gave me so being unsure of when I was due I was saying 2 weeks earlier then I found out that they were going to take the baby earlier than that based on his size so rather than saying the end of that month I was telling people probably the month before. sometimes they are just that wrong.

Orual · July 2011

I had a friend who did this with strangers... She felt that being in the last month got her better treatment, better seats in restauraunts, faster service, got to cut the line at stores, extra attention ect. So she spent 3 months moving her due date around.

I agree with PP I don't like complete strangers knowing specifics, when they ask my daughters age I tell them a very general age, don't like telling strangers her name, and all of that. When I was pregnant with her when people who didn't need to now asked about my due date I just said later in the summer. This time I will just say winter.

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