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jeephappygirl
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doubts and second thoughts... am i the only one
jeephappygirl
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DH and I are still together, but the last few months have been pretty horrible. I'm about to give birth to our first child in the next few weeks. In the past two weeks, during heated fights, he said he was done with 'us' and wanted to leave. My tears kept him here. Last night there was another arguement over a simple misunderstanding. I haven't slept at all. I just keep thinking that I can't raise this baby on my own. I do not have a very strong support system with my family. I love my baby and want the best for my baby, but what if a single mom isn't good enough? This whole pregnancy I have pictured us a family and I'm afraid I can't do it on my own. I'm wondering if my baby would be better off raised by someone else. Is this just part of the fears of my marriage falling apart? He is a good guy, things have just been bad since I became pregnant. I know I'm an emotional mess half the time and super sensitive. He is stressing over his job and has gone thru a lot with his family the past few months. Is it normal to feel this way? I'm so afraid to say this to anyone in real life for fear that they will think I'm nuts.
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Re: doubts and second thoughts... am i the only one
I totally agree with this, it can't hurt to have someone objective to talk to about the issues that you both are dealing with. And yes, it is totally normal to feel that way, I love my DD so much but even have those days when I wonder, "did I make the right decision?". Bottom line, you CAN do it, I'm doing it and living to tell the tale, but don't give up hope yet, a baby changes a lot of things and mostly for the better. Good luck and (((HUGS)))
I think that the stress of your relationship with your H is giving you doubts about other things that you normally wouldn't have. Don't let a possible divorce make you think that you can't be a good mother. We're all here, struggling through sometimes, being great moms. I was raised by a single mom and I turned out okay
I also agree that counseling may help your relationship. But if your H decides not to stay in the marriage, he might still come around to being a good dad. At the very least, file for child support after the baby is born so you will have financial assistance.
I know how you feel in every word you wrote it was like i had wrote it. With my 1st baby the fights got bad to the point he hit me once. i talked to someone cause he didnt wanna go but i knew it might help...
your not nuts your pregnant and scared and thats normal. i also dont have any support from my family and for the first 6months of my daughter life i was in a homeless program.. listen every dr has told me that most men cant handle pregancy i mean like they have to carry it ha men get scared and worry more then we thats my thought. i do agree with the other two ladies find someone to talk to even if he wont it will help you to deal with him better... good luck inbox me if you want someone to talk to..