Clicky Poll re: your siblings

greenmtbride · June 2011

Read an interesting article about one child families that talked a lot about the overblown importance of a sibling. Got me thinking about how many people really appreciate their siblings and consider them friends. My brother and I fought like cats and dogs growing up, but now I am so thankful to have him around. [Poll]

MrsKatie · June 2011

My brothers are 11 and 7 years older than I am... so we're not really friends, but it was such a large age difference that I think it hard to be friends. We're working on it now, but it's very weird.

seattlestef · June 2011

My sister is only 1 year younger than me so we've always been really close. We talk several times a day and hang out a few times a week.

KNemo · June 2011

My brother and I fought like crazy, when we were little, but I love him to pieces. We both have kids, our kids are roughly the same age, and we get together as much as possible. Max and Sterling are best buds, and I am sure they are going to grow up to be super close with each other. I think that I would have been so lonely if I was an only. But that is just my personality.

pixelvixen · June 2011

My sister and I are 5 years apart and didn't have much to do with each other growing up. She was a hot mess and into everything bad.... However, ever since we both got married and had kids, we've been super close. She still has issues (don't we all!) but she turned out to be terrific mom and wife and a wonderful sister. We talk daily but only see each other every couple of months, as she moved to Oregon a few years ago.

Zista · June 2011

My siblings are 12, 7, and 1.5 years older than me.

I really didn't know the oldest growing up, but since my late 20's I've become incredibly close to my sister (7 years older). I'd call her my closest friend. My oldest brother is still a practical stranger, and I still carry a grudge against my closest brother for his infractions when we were children together.

My sister's kids are 16 (boy), 18 (boy), and 23 (girl). The incredibly tight bond between them is pretty amazing.

preston18 · June 2011

My sister is 9 years younger and we?re super close.

EllaB_04 · June 2011

My brother is four years younger and we never got along growing up. We do now, but are not close and I wish we were. I really hope that DD and her future sibling(s) will be closer to each other!

iheartstuart · June 2011

My brother and I used to fight all the time when I was younger. He's about 3 years younger than me. Once I left for college we started getting along a lot better and now we're pretty close.

LauraLynneC · June 2011

sister #1 - 20 months younger than me and full blood sister. I'm not sure we could BE more different. we get along but I wouldn't call us "friends." We only hang out at family events and she'll come over to dinner when I invite her. The other day in fact I got a random "how are you doing" text that I thought was from my son (I wasn't pay close attention) and after I replied, I saw it was my sister. I'm still sort of boggled by a random text from her.

Brother #1 - 15 months younger than me and adopted from Vietnam in 1971. I talk to him on the phone every other month or so. He's developmentally stunted (for lack of a better term) due to the conditions of the first 2.5 years of his life (Vietnamese Orphanage - almost zero human interaction). He lives with a friend in southern CA and works part time jobs here and there. He used to be homeless. Also not in the "friend" category.

Sister #2 - 17 years younger, half sister technically. I was out of the house before she turned 18 months, we get along pretty good but have nothing in common (she's UBER coddled by my mom and still, at age 25, lives at home and gets everything paid for). Also not a friend.

3 step sisters from my dad's marriage - I don't even consider them sisters let alone friends.

JodiLinn503 · June 2011

I voted no. We're friendly toward each other, but I wouldn't consider us friends. If there was a crisis, they'd probably be there, but we don't have a ton of interaction on a consistent basis. Part of that is that they are brothers (I think it'd be different with sisters) and part of it is that they live in the Portland area with the rest of my family and I'm here.

dawnies79 · June 2011

I'm thankful to have my sister even if we aren't best friends. Our relationship has always been complicated but I can't imagine not having her around. I lost my dad 11 years ago so I only have my Mom, Sister and Niece in my immediate family. If I didn't have my sister, and God forbid something happen to my Mother, I would have no one (except DH of course). My Dad was an only child, and everyone from my Mother's side lives out of state.

itskacie · June 2011

I love my brother and he is a total crack up but we HATED eachother growing up. He is 18mo younger than me and I think it was too close. We couldnt be more different and teachers tended to compare us, which he rensented... which led to fights. Once I moved out I didnt talk to him really for years.

We are closer now, and talk reguarly, but its pretty high level stuff. Nothing emotional or anything.

Chances are good Cam will be an only due to my experiences w. a sibling. I dont think it is a necessity.

breebree13 · June 2011

My brothers are 6 & 8 years older than me. I was the classic annoying little sister growing up but really I just thought they were ubercool and wanted to just hang out with them. We are pretty close(one more so than the other) now and I actually lived with one of them for a year when he got divorced.

suzie711 · June 2011

I voted no ....

Brother - (26 months younger) we fought like crazy growing up (like literally beating the crap out of each other) .. we started to get a long more as teenagers, but he's always been a trouble maker (that's a nice way to put it ..) and is STILL in trouble with the law, drugs, etc. I am the complete opposite of the spectrum and find it hard to be 'friends' when I don't condone his lifestyle or want my family around it. I still love him, but don't think we will ever be friends until he turns his life around

I have two half sisters that are 9 and 12 years younger. I really WANT to be friends with them, but I'm still "old" to them, so we don't hang out much. I do try to keep in contact with them and text/call - but I wouldn't really consider us friends .. hopefully in a few years things change though

ttgcole · June 2011

My sis and I hated each other growing up. We became friends then she got divorced and I was super judgy and it ruined our relationship. We are friendly now, I love her to death. She lives out of state so we don't talk much. She is a snob (she will freely admit it) so that makes it hard for me to deal with her sometimes. I have to say that is nice to have someone in the world who truly understands the craziness of family like no one else can. We have great parents but our parents don't have boundaries so we can relate to each other!

greenmtbride · June 2011

Thanks everyone for your responses! So interesting to hear the many different experiences people have had.

McJen715 · June 2011

My sister is 4 years younger than I am and she is my very best friend. We got along most of the time growing up also. TJ's brother is also 4 years younger and I'd they are also very, very close. Part of the reason I want to have another kiddo is the relationship we both have with our own siblings.

chibipoe · June 2011

My sister and I are really close, I'd definitely consider her a friend.

My brother and I weren't raised together (he was raised by his mom) so we've never been that close. Although in the last few years, as we've spent more time together, we've found we have a lot in common and growing a little closer.

Alli923 · June 2011

Interesting topic. I have a bro who is 17 mos. younger and we're very close (although it has been difficult since he married someone I really don't like a few months ago). We've always been close, even when we fought when we were younger.

I think it really depends on the parents to be honest. I have 1 set of cousins whose parents allowed them to compete with each other for attention and the girls hate each other. My other cousins (same exact age gap) adore each other because their parents told them "you are each others' best friend!"

My mom always told my bro and I "even when I'm gone, you'll always have each other!" That really stuck with me. Plus, my bro and I grew up with a single mom and she always stressed on us that she'd rather we gang up on her rather than fight each other for her attention.

jcyahne · June 2011

I'd tell you that my sis is a total b*tch but JaimeCH posts here. So she's awesome Big Smile

Now our little brother...well he's a strange one.

doublem · June 2011

I have 3 brothers and we all got along pretty well growing up. I'd say that while we did fight, we had a ton of fun together as kids. My brothers are 2 years older, 2 years younger, and 6 years younger than me. Initially I was closest with my older brother and youngest brother, but when my older brother got married to a slightly crazy lady and moved to the midwest, our relationship drastically changed. I have to make a huge effort to talk to him for any length of time. It makes me horribly sad, because I really miss him, and when we are together, it's just like old times and we are still close in that respect. I just hardly ever know what's really going on in his life lately.

Since HS, I've gotten even closer to my younger brothers. One lives nearby and we gtg with him and his wife about once a week, and my other brother and his family live halfway across the country, but we talk twice a week on the phone, I'd say. We're closer than ever. I wouldn't trade my brothers for anything - they're some of my best friends.

Want a personalized experience?

Clicky Poll re: your siblings

Re: Clicky Poll re: your siblings

Choose Another Board

Search Boards