Who else is "done" with their family? (no more kids)

trinny · June 2011

Lately, I feel so liberated that we're through with having babies and we can just enjoy the kids we have! Maybe I'll get baby fever again (though we won't be acting on it! DH got a V), but I am really just happy we can watch our kids grow up together!

Were you happy or sad at the thought of being through?

SoldiersGreenBean · June 2011

I'm happy, although sometimes get wistful about the thought of another. We're complete, though.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2011

I'm jealous of people who are confident in their decision. 80% of the time, I feel done and 20% of the time I want a 3rd. I flip flop back and forth and the idea of not having a definite plan drives me batty.

dmoreilly · June 2011

We are complete with one. It took us so long to have her (5 years, fertility treatments, finally IVF) and I turned 40 on maternity leave. We had talked about two but it was so hard to get where we are. We had the opportunity to have more as we had some little guys frozen, but decided to donate them for other infertile couples to have the opportunity.

Sometimes I wish we had gone the IVF route sooner so I wasn't so old, but am very glad for the little girl we have. Our family is complete and happy.

thiswillbe · June 2011

We are probably done (DW definitely wants to be done) and right now I am just sad about it. I really would like (have liked?) the opportunity to be pregnant more than once. And their first year was such a blur; I am sad I probably won't get to experience that again.

historychick79 · June 2011

We are likely one and done, mostly due to finances and the fact that DH and I are not that young. On one hand, I am sad to think C will be an only child and do wish to some extent that I could have a wee baby once more. But I have been through 1st tri 3 times due to two missed m/c's, so I dread being pregnant again, I know we'll be able to give C a lot of good experiences that I didn't have (travel, extracurricular activities), we're going to be in good shape for retirement to take pressure off of him, and he's got a lot of friends and family to hopefully reduce the wish for a brother or sister along the way. Not really sad, more wistful and wish I had made some better choices when I was younger so it was more of an option; but I am happy with our little family and can't dwell on what we can't have.

Cytina · June 2011

We're done and it does make me sad. Whenever someone I know announces they're pg, I get nostalgic... the high from the BFP, the first few months when it's so abstract, the ultrasounds, rubbing my big belly, eating whatever I want (LOL)... We're in our late 30's and financially we can't afford another right now and I'm pretty sure if/when we are better financially, I'll be too old.

Also, it makes me feel older that my childbearing years are realistically over. I now feel like my next big milestone is grandkids, holy crap!

AutumnBride929 · June 2011

I'm a little bit torn. When I think about being done forever, I just don't think I could do it. I think we might be "done" for now but then we'll have another set of 2U2 when I'm 30 or something. Big Smile

Of course, this is all on my little agenda and DH knows nothing about it, lol. But no need to discuss it now. We're just going to enjoy our little family and decide in a few years whether or not we want to add more!

Ciarrai · June 2011

Me!!! Me!! ME!!!!

::jumping up and down while raising my hand::

For me, it was a bit bittersweet, but three is total chaos around my house. Plus, I own my own business and it really suffers when I'm PG/have a newborn. I have to take 4 months off almost every time due to the nature of my business and unpredictability of babies. That's a lot of lost income and lost referrals. Beyond that, I'm excited about all the things we want to do - take family vacations without a baby/newborn. DH and I are hopefully going away just us later this year or next year. I was sooooooooooo excited to be done BF and have my body back for the first time in over 5 years. Things like that. I do see itty bitty babies and have that momentary pang, but then I remember the state of my house right now and the kids jumping in the pool and playing together and sleep. I really like sleep. Really really really like sleep Big Smile Besides, I like knowing what's coming and having a plan for a few years from now and 20 years from now and such. At least an idea of plan.

luvmagoldn · June 2011

We are done. We started late, had trouble conceiving the first go-round, and I just turned 40 in December.

We are more than grateful for the LO's we have. Now I look forward to everyone being more independent and being able to do new things that are just too hard with infants/babies!

WinesNot Whines · June 2011

I may be "one and done." Some days I'm 95% sure, but other days I'm only 50% sure. We have a lot of reasons to stop now - our ages, medical issues, finances, oh and also our sanity!

august06mom · June 2011

Me! I'm very content with our decision. I do get sad watching our little baby get bigger because I know it's the last time, but at the same time, I truly relish each second that he's so tiny. With my first, I felt like I was in a hurry for him to grow up so he would "do stuff."

azuremama · June 2011

We're done. I'm pretty happy about it. Our family feels complete to me, and while I've been enjoying the infant stage more this time around, I think kids are more fun when they're a little older and more interactive.

Pesky · June 2011

Me in all likelihood. We originally said 3 but for a multitude of reasons (age, sanity, easier finances, difficulties with post-birth recovery, etc.), we are going to stop at 2. We are fairly sure - sure enough to be selling and giving away the baby stuff! Some days I do have pangs for another, thinking how great our 2 are, seeing a little baby -- but sanity comes to the rescue. Plus all I have to do is call my sister who has 3, listen to the background madness and be enormously happy with the 2 I have.

hiltyn78 · June 2011

DH & I are 100%sold on having 2 kids and that's it. So I'm thrilled to be experiencing pregnancy again (sometimes) but I'm ready to have this second one and being our complete family of 4. We have no desire to have a third. I'm sure I'll be a little nostalgic knowing "this is it" but I really really really do not want a third kid. I am not a huge fan of being pregnant and I'm also not a huge fan of tiny babies. Of course I'll love/ did love my own, but in general, I really like DD's age and the slight independence that comes with it.

LilCMom · June 2011

I am 99.9% sure we are done, but got the Mirena put in just in case we happen to change our minds in a couple years. DH has said he will get a V but we want to be absolutely certain we don't want a third. And I hate to say we're done, because who knows if that's what God has in store for us! Our plans are definitely not the same as His.

terpsfan · June 2011

KC_13:
I'm jealous of people who are confident in their decision. 80% of the time, I feel done and 20% of the time I want a 3rd. I flip flop back and forth and the idea of not having a definite plan drives me batty.

This is me too...I wish I felt one way or the other and I am not typically wishy-washy about things. The fact that I can't make a decision or stand on one side of the fence really bothers me. I'm putting more of a time frame around it...We're going to revisit the idea #3 in 1.5 years (DS is 6 months). If at that time we want to, we'll go for it I think..if not, case closed, over, never look back. I am jealous of those that know for sure though.

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RootBeerFloat · June 2011

We've always said we wanted two. I was happy knowing I'd never be pregnant or deal with a newborn again. DH recently got a vasectomy, and it was a little bittersweet. But it was definitely the right choice for us.

DoughGirl · June 2011

We knew that we were one and done while I was still pg with DS. I get baby fever once in a blue moon, usually after seeing a newborn, and have a moment of sadness about DS being an only child. It goes away as soon as I remind myself of reality...the cost of 2 in daycare, getting up at night, sleep training, diapers, formula...no thanks. I'm totally at peace with our decision.

st.augbride · June 2011

We only have one, but it's been so tough (from infertility to premature birth). We're so lucky to have ds and he's doing so great. We always said we'd have two, but I wonder if I can handle it all again. I essentially turned my life upside down and had it revolving around TTC and baby mode for the last two years. I'm just now getting back into work, my body is back to normal...I'm not sure I have it in me to do this again. I guess we'll have to see how we feel in a few years.

shopgirl78 · June 2011

We are done. I had a tubal. We can't swing four--in any way comfortably (financially, sanity, room in the house, etc) but I still get pangs-- major ones. I always wanted two girls but by the time we could have had another, DD and her sister wouldn't even be close in age. For now, we are done. We are done anyway biologically but maybe one day we will foster or something.