TTC After a Loss

Introduction (DS ticker & mention inside and long)

Hi ladies.

I lurked for a little and read up on the blog, so I think I'm ready to jump in now.

I had my LMP the first week of April and got my BFP in mid May.  When I went in for the fist u/s, based on my BFP, I should have been about 6.5 weeks.  They told me it looked more like 4 and there was only a sac.  From right then I had a bad feeling about the pregnancy and its development.  I went in 2 weeks later for another u/s and they said everything looked fine, measured about 6.5 weeks, and there was a hb.  I had been spotting since even before my BFP, but a few days after that hopeful u/s, it turned heavier and all red.  The slight cramping I had been having for more uncomfortable.  This was happening on a weekend, so I put a call into the OB on-call at my hospital, but I really didn't even need to.  I knew what was happening.  She said unless I was in severe pain I could wait to call my OB/MW on Monday and that yes, a MC was a possibility.  On Monday i went in to have betas and they came back that afternoon in the normal range for 6 weeks, but at that point I should have been at 7.5 weeks by their calculations, or about 9 weeks based on when I got the BFP.  I had an u/s the next morning, this past Tuesday, and they confirmed the loss.  The development looks to have stopped right after I had the hopeful u/s and heard the hb.  It's progressing naturally and I hope it will be over soon.  I have another u/s this coming Tuesday to be sure the uterus is empty.

We tried for 9 month when we finally concieved our DS, so after he was born I decided not to go back on BC and to just leave it up to nature to decide what would happen next.  So when we got that BFP, without even trying, and while still pumping BM for DS, I was estatic.  The first time around was so stressful, and now this time it was a wonderful surprise.  This totally sucks.

I have no ambition to "try" again in terms of charting, OPK's, and counting days on the calendar.  I'm hoping it can just be as stress free as this last time was.  Although now that I have in my brain that we want to be KU again, I'm not sure how relaxing the experience will be.

So that's me in a nutshell plus one small condo, one husband, and two dogs.  :)

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~Started TTC 2/09. BFP #1 11/09. EDD 8/7/10. DS born 8/7/10.~
~Surprise BFP #2 5/11 while still BF'ing. Natural M/C @ 7w3d.~
~BFP #3 8/11. EDD 4/24/12. Heavy bleeding episodes from a lost twin. DD born 4/14/12.~
~Started TTC 2/13. BFP #4 3/13. EDD 11/8/13. Hoping for smooth sailing!~

Re: Introduction (DS ticker & mention inside and long)

  • MrsJCMrsJC member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I applaud you for wanting to make ttcal stress-free. I know that it is one or the more stressful things in my life right now, and I'm not even ttc yet!
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    BFP #2 5/19/11, EDD 1/20/12, Natural miscarriage 6/2/11 @ 6w6d
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board!  If and when you decide to chart, the lovely ladies on this board will be able to help you with any questions. Personally, it would stress me out NOT to chart, but I do understand where you're coming from.  
  • Very sorry for your loss & Welcome to the board. 
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  • Welcome to the board. I'm sorry for your loss and hope that your "see what happens" attitude brings you lots of luck.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I was bummed to see you over here because I remember you from the 1st tri board.  I hope we're both back there soon!
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  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board!
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  • I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find as much comfort and support here as I have.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.
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  • JT325JT325 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  (((hugs)))

    I hope you find comfort here... I hope your time here is short and sweet.

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    Welcome to the board!  So sorry you have to be here...I hope it's a short stay!
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board, I hope your stay is nice and short.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find the ladies here as wonderful and supportive as I have. Welcome to the board.
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  • Sorry for your loss. And welcome to the board! I hope your stay here is short and sweet!
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    I'm sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board!
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  • I am sorry for your loss. This board is a wonderful place. GL on your TTC journey! 
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  • linz85linz85 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss, welcome to the board!

    This board has been an amazing support to me, I hope it will be for you as well. Feel free to check out our blog, the link is in my siggy !

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