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Sort of on the same note as "unpopular opinions"
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I don't know if this is on the same note or not, but Moesten's unpopular opinion on unpopular opinions did get me thinking about this...
Recently I've had some family drama. A close family member wrote me a nasty message on Facebook about the things I post on Facebook. Apparently I am being "fake" because I post positive things. I was discussing this with another family member and she said "Well you do come off as having the perfect life on Facebook."
I don't think we look like we have a perfect life AT ALL, and maybe that is just because I know firsthand that we definitely do not. Nevertheless, it has never been my intention to create a facade that we have a perfect life. I post the silly stuff I do just because it makes me happy, and so what if my kids dancing around our living room and baking cupcakes makes me happy. If it bugs you, don't look at it. I'm not going to be a bitter, negative person just to make others feel okay about their negativitiy. I just think it goes without saying that everyone goes through crap and life isn't always pretty--but I don't feel the need to post about my crap on Facebook, or even spout off about it incessantly IRL. It isn't because I am trying to be fake and don't want people to know that we have our shortcomings (I just figured that much could be assumed), but because staying positive in a crappy situation is how I deal. Honestly, I am 100% more likely to hide someone's status updates (and I have) if they are constantly being negative than being positive, and I really can't believe that in a world filled with negative, that people are offended by the opposite.
What are your thoughts on this???
Ava Caroline 8.27.07 I Charlotte Grace 5.18.09 I Lila Katherine 1.20.11
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Re: Sort of on the same note as "unpopular opinions"
Haters gonna hate.
She's probably just jealous.
I completely, totally, 100000% agree with you on your stance. Even though I admit to posting (more than occasional) slightly (or not) status updates on Facebook, I still would rather post the positive things. I don't think there's much value in focusing on the negative. Plus, it isn't entertaining at all to read nothing but negative statuses on Facebook. I like to stay in touch with my friends and know what people are doing.
I think it's going a bit far for someone to accuse you of being "fake" just because you don't post negative things. That's just inane. Who made her the Facebook Status Police?
Tyler Anthony arrived on 9.21.09
The Chronicles of Justin and Tyler
This.
Plus, I think some people tend to take social networking a bit too seriously. I mean, c'mon! Somebody really spent time sending you a message to suggest that you are TOO POSITIVE on FB?!
There was more to it to begin with--but it ended up being a big verbal attack over all kinds of petty stuff and the Facebook thing was part of that. There is a whole lot more to it, but it is all still equally ridiculous.
Another funny thing to add to this... when I was talking to the other family member who said "Well you do look like you have a perfect life on FB" I said "Well, I guess I could post about my mother being a frickin' headcase, my husband being laid off last month, my car overheating, the fact that I'm sleep deprived and I could even take a picture of the laundry mountain I need to fold..." and she was like "Well maybe you shoud. You know for good measure." Um, NO! I think it's seriously sad that people can't be happy for people and that they need to know about all the negative in order to feel good.
I think it's weird that she knows what you post on FB... like she follows you THAT closely that she knows you only post positive stuff? Get a life.
I am very carefully about what I say on my own wall or on others because I am friends with a broad scope of people. I don't need all my personal bizness out on the interwebs. Plus I seriously do not have time to be posting all the time or watching what others post. I am definitely going with jealous with a side of too much time on her hands.
Stay positive. It's nice.
So, if you only ever post positive things you're "too perfect"... but if you always post negative things then you're a debby downer. Give me a break.
It's getting to the point where it's not worth posting anything at all. Every status update is going to be 'judged'... I say post what you want and try not to let others get to you. I'd rather read cute stories than some of the other... um... interesting ones?
Your post, (or, more specifically, the thoughts that your close family member shared), reminded me of this article that I read a while back about the topic: https://www.slate.com/id/2282620/. I haven't thought much about it either way, so no real opinion from me, (though I am a fan of happy updates!), but apparently your family member is not the only one who thinks the way she thinks
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