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Success after IF
Just had my first SHAM "breakdown"..beacuse I lost my keys..
I lost the keys to my car, I have looked everywhere! Tore the whole house apart.. I think I left them in the mailbox (we have a community mail boxes) so I have to wait for DH to come home this evening and it's what threw me over the edge..I just spent the last 10 mins crying on the step..HOw the H$LL am I supposed to handle staying home w 2 babies when I cannot even take care of 1!
I know these feeling have been building..And I have just been pushing them away...DH is working a tone..he has a huge U2 concert next week he just came of a long 14 game home stand and then had 3 more this week. so he is NEVER home..I am doing this alone all day and I don't really have a break..except for when he naps and thank god he is a good napper.
We are also both BORED It's hot here in Fla so doing things outside isn't really an option..I think I am going to sign him up for swimming and we are doing some classes this summer but I thought it would be more fun to have things less structured..make play dates ect. But it hasnt really happened yet..everyone else is always so busy and I never seem to be?I SO I am just super frustrated
And then I really hate to complain about this but this 1st tri has kicked my A$$ every which way this time around. I am exhausted all the time, feel sick to my stomach, I have had the worst headaches and I just feel crappy all the time. We are soo happy to be pg but I am not the best pg lady..I don't glow..and this time has been way worse...
I know I am so blessed. Jake is such a good baby. He is happy, easy going, and full of life, eats and sleeps well. I should be happy that I get to spend all day with him. It's all I ever wanted was to stay home and my DH has scarificed so much for me to do this. I shouldn't complain but I am just frustrated with everything right now...UGH..I feel like the walls are closing in on me and I can't get out..even if I wanted to I couldn't cause I don't have Keys to the car! UGH!!
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Re: Just had my first SHAM "breakdown"..beacuse I lost my keys..
Is there any sort of building manager or maintence person you can call that can check the mailbox for you?
I am so sorry you are feeling this way! I remember very well feeling very stressed over everything when I was pregnant with #2. I cried for days about switching Brady from one day care to another. Every issue seemed like a mountain. I think my DH thought I was nuts. So I totally understand what you are going through. All of your fears and stresses are real, and make sure you dont let yourself feel bad about them. At the same time, just know it is a phase, it will pass and you will be back to feeling better soon. And in the meantime, vent here as a way to keep yourself sane.
Maybe the next time you are in MA, we can meet at the Alamo.
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Hugs. We've all had days like this (I'm currently having a WEEK like that!). Sometimes my stress just builds up and builds up to the point that something seemingly so insignificant just sends me over the edge. It's hard to be home all day every day with a child who needs constant care and attention--and keep up the house and make it all run--and, in your case, do it with very little help from your spouse. It's enough to overwhelm anyone! Give yourself a break. Can you get a sitter and go do something fun by yourself?
As for doing it with two...I think all moms have that fear (especially moms of 2u2!) but the truth is you just do it. Because you don't have any other choice.
If it makes you feel any better, I found the reality of taking care of two to be much easier than I'd anticipated.
Ditto this, a 1000x! And I understand some of your frustration - my DH works a lot, too - last night he got home at 11pm and was off to work before 6:45am when I got up. I was terrified of having my 2 alone - since 1 was so hard for me. But #2 just kind of goes with the flow - they don't have another choice.
And I second the getting a sitter and doing something nice for yourself soon. That always makes me feel better!
Good luck!
Being a SAHM is NOT EASY. So try to give yourself a break. We all have our days. You are doing the best that you can and you're pregnant too which can be taxing on your body. I've felt guilty at times for feeling overwhelmed, but I think it comes with the territory - especially when your husband is working so much.
Sometimes, what I do is close my eyes, take a deep breath and count to 10. It sounds simple, but it really can work. (((Hugs)))