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Thinking of becoming a SAH mom

doctryandoctryan member
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So, I quit my job last year because it was too many hours.  The job I took is much lower stress but it has been in such a state of chaos and flux, that I have never really had the chance to settle in or understand what role they really want me to play.

I am always arguing with myself that I should take the opportunity to stay home with my kids for awhile.  This terrifies me, because I always saw myself as needing that outside stimulation of work.  Additionally, I only have 1 SAH mom friend IRL and am nervous I won't find people to talk to throughout the day.  Can anyone provide thoughts or insight on their experience making the switch?  What did you do to make it easier?

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  • klynne924klynne924 member
    Even though I haven't worked since DS was born, I did work prior to becoming pregnant with him. There are play groups that you can become a member of on meetup.com. I'm a member of Hip Mommies, Happy Babies and Mom Squad, but there are a lot more groups than that. I've met SAHM just by walking through our neighborhood, but we have a HUGE community of neighborhoods (2000+ houses).
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  • UGAbrideUGAbride
    It's definitely an adjustment, I'd imagine even more so coming into it when your kids are no longer babies.  You could definitely try to find a playgroup through meetup.com, I've done that in the past and met some nice people.  I meet other moms through the boys preshool, the classes they take, neighborhood friends, and even at the park, library or playplaces.  I wish I lived closer to some of the ladies on this board so we could get together!  They key to being happy as a SAHM for me is keeping us on a schedule and staying relatively busy.  So it's not so much about the "stay at home" part, but that *I* get to be the one with them all day.  Good luck making your decision! 
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  • ebearwifeebearwife member

    I don't know about the other SAHMs but I am busier than a one legged man in a butt kicking contest.  But then, I have a lot on my plate.  We just moved and there is a lot of work associated with that which I barely get to do bc I chase kids all day.  My mom lives an hour away and is on summer break so we go see her a lot and I get to go out with friends.  I will go see my Dad and his family every so often which is a three hour drive.  Its nice to be able to make that trip during the week and my Dad, his wife, and my aunt are all retired so there's lots of hands on deck.  My MIL lives about a half mile away so we usually mosey that way every day which nets me a "workout" with the stroller and P usually stays for dinner while I get Isaac fed and ready for bedtime then my FIL brings her home.  My DH travels a lot so I am "on duty" 24 hrs a day which gets pretty exhausting.  But I have lots of activities for the kids and myself so the weekdays go by faster.  I really miss my lunch hours when I could do what I wanted kid-free or go to lunch with another working mommy.  I miss that tons.  But working, nah, don't really miss that action too much.

    PS - My house is never sparkling clean like you might expect a SAHM to have and some nights we eat PBJ bc I am too wiped to cook or I took a nap at naptime too so it just didn't get done.  You'll probably never see a domestic goddess blog from me.

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  • KT&JohnKT&John member

    I struggled with making the decision to return to work or not when my son was born. I get where you are coming from. For me, I have "worked" since I started babysitting at 11 and got my first real job at Kroger at 16. I wanted so badly to be the one home with my kids, but I was afraid I wouldn't quite be myself, that I would almost lose part of my identity, if I wasn't doing some kind of paid work. I pitched coming back part-time (15 hours) and working most of that from home to my employer. They OK'd it and it has been the best solution for me. It is crazy busy, but the sane, tranquil life was never quite my style anyway ;p and I am so grateful for this time with my kids.

    Good luck making the decision. I know it's not an easy one!

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    imageebearwife:

    PS - My house is never sparkling clean like you might expect a SAHM to have

     

    Huh? Anyone who expects SAHMs to have sparkling clean houses has never been a SAHM. :)

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