CIO - or some form of this...

freeatlast2014 · June 2011

Anyone doing this? Done this?

Was it for naps/bedtime/both?

How did it go?

We have tried a little of it...like for 10 - 15 minutes...and last night I didn't come to him when he fussed and he fell back alseep - but the nap ones kill me. I am struggling with letting it go for more than 10 - 15 minutes and I end up going in to rock him anyway - how will he ever learn how to soothe himself to sleep??

Talk to me ladies...

mick64 · June 2011

I have no advice really, but I'm in the same boat. DS is a pretty good sleeper, but I would really like to not have to always rock him to sleep, especially because he's getting harder to put down without waking up. I'm not comfortable with full on CIO, but a little fussing is ok.

Last night I put him down drowsy but awake and would just go back into give him his pacifier if I could tell he spit it out. I think I went in about 4-5 times before he fell asleep. I just tried doing this for naps this morning, but it was taking longer, so I caved and rocked him until he was asleep and then laid him down. Tongue Tied I know I should probably be consistent though.

freeatlast2014 · June 2011

Mrs.McCain:
I have no advice really, but I'm in the same boat. DS is a pretty good sleeper, but I would really like to not have to always rock him to sleep, especially because he's getting harder to put down without waking up. I'm not comfortable with full on CIO, but a little fussing is ok.
Last night I put him down drowsy but awake and would just go back into give him his pacifier if I could tell he spit it out. I think I went in about 4-5 times before he fell asleep. I just tried doing this for naps this morning, but it was taking longer, so I caved and rocked him until he was asleep and then laid him down. I know I should probably be consistent though.

This is my biggest problem. This morning, I rocked him and put him down. He woke up. I let him cry for 10 minutes. Then went in and rocked him to sleep AGAIN. Laid him down, he stayed asleep (whew! I thought) then 10 minutes later I hear him. I let him cry for 15 minutes then went in and took him out of the crib. Total time going through all this was 1 hour 45 minutes (8:15am to 10am). I know he was tired because he was yawning and rubbing his eyes - he too is so hard to not wake up when I put him down.

So I tried again at 10:33 - rocked and he fell asleep by 10:54 and stayed asleep in his crib. We'll see how long this lasts...

I can't complain about his sleeping - he is a happy baby, naps ok (20 - 45 minutes) and sleeps great at night for the most part.

But my stepmother told me yesterday that my 10 year old 1/2 brother STILL can't fall asleep on his own. That scared the beejesus out of me!

hsharick12 · June 2011

I've done it for naps and bedtime. A lot of times she'll go down now without any crying, but there are still a lot of times where she does cry, especially if I miss the golden window of opportunity.

I will let her cry for no more than 15 minutes, then if she's still going strong, I'll go in and pick her up and rock her for a couple minutes until she calms down. Then i'll put her back down. Sometimes that does the trick and she falls right to sleep. If not, I wait another 15 minutes. If she's still not asleep after that (which is rare), I usually end up rocking her to sleep or possibly even nursing.

I've found that that is a happy medium. I couldn't just let her cry for much longer than that. The only time I did was when she was in the habit of waking at 3am. We let her cry for half an hour, she fell asleep. The next night she cried 5 minutes. The next night she stopped waking up.

broccolitree · June 2011

I've inadvertently been letting my kid fuss it out for a long time... I sleep like the dead, so when she'd wake up at night she really had to yell in order to wake me up, so when she did it was always because she truly needed something. I've never let her full-on cry, though.

Does he have a fuzzy blanket or friend he can cuddle with? That's pretty key with my kid. If she doesn't have a blanket within half-drowsy reach, she'll wake all the way up and cry. I typically put it in our bed during the day so it can absorb our smells and then give it to her at night, and use a different blanket during the day. When she gets older I'll tell her that it's in there so it can soak up all our hugs during the day so at night if she gets scared she can hug it and get a hug from me or daddy, but that's not necessary now.

jcole32444 · June 2011

We kind of due. I dont really let him cry I let him fuss but once he reaches a full cry I go in pick him up calm him and put him back down. We only do this for his afternoon nap. It goes terribly but if we dont get him down for the afternoon nap he is histericle untill he goes to bed.

jaejaevee · June 2011

We haven't done it with Luke yet, but we're getting there. With Joey, we did a modified version of Ferber. We let him fuss for 5 minutes, then 10, then 15, etc. The first few times, we would get as far as 20 or 25 minutes, but that lasted less than a week. Since then, he's been great at putting himself to sleep. It was hard to be consistent (we did it for both naps and bed time), but I was really glad we did.

mommabear530 · June 2011

I don't think I'll be much help, We still rock Simon to sleep for every nap and bedtime. Last night I tried to lay him down when he was just drowsy and it totally didn't work. went in 15 minutes later and he was WIDE awake talking to the animals on his bumpers. I guess I don't mind because he sleeps really well (12 hours at night) once we do lay him down, Best of luck!

And PP, whoever had a relative that still couldn't sleep at 10 years old?! wow, that is crazy. i would def be doing CIO by age 2 if he can't get to sleep on his own yet. This young I still enjoy rocking him though.

freeatlast2014 · June 2011

broccolitree:
I've inadvertently been letting my kid fuss it out for a long time... I sleep like the dead, so when she'd wake up at night she really had to yell in order to wake me up, so when she did it was always because she truly needed something. I've never let her full-on cry, though.
Does he have a fuzzy blanket or friend he can cuddle with? That's pretty key with my kid. If she doesn't have a blanket within half-drowsy reach, she'll wake all the way up and cry. I typically put it in our bed during the day so it can absorb our smells and then give it to her at night, and use a different blanket during the day. When she gets older I'll tell her that it's in there so it can soak up all our hugs during the day so at night if she gets scared she can hug it and get a hug from me or daddy, but that's not necessary now.

Yes, he loves his blankie. We let him sleep (gasp!) with the A&A blanket for all naps and bedtime.

And that's a cute story to tell her one day!

freeatlast2014 · June 2011

amandabrown530:
I don't think I'll be much help, We still rock Simon to sleep for every nap and bedtime. Last night I tried to lay him down when he was just drowsy and it totally didn't work. went in 15 minutes later and he was WIDE awake talking to the animals on his bumpers. I guess I don't mind because he sleeps really well (12 hours at night) once we do lay him down, Best of luck!
And PP, whoever had a relative that still couldn't sleep at 10 years old?! wow, that is crazy. i would def be doing CIO by age 2 if he can't get to sleep on his own yet. This young I still enjoy rocking him though.

I know. She told me that it's cause it was the first child and her 2 younger ones sleep just fine. He has to lay in bed for an hour just to unwind before he can even think of going to sleep. Nuts. Poor kid.

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