marital...ahem..relations

scorpiomom2005 · June 2011

So it's been 2 weeks since LO was born and I'm already dying. Who waited the whole 6 weeks...and if you didn't how early was it? I'm not sure I can make it 4 more weeks

prncsstp · June 2011

I am sooooo dying... Its been nearly 4 weeks PP, plus at least 3 weeks before I gave birth - maybe longer. But Im still bleeding, and so Im not going down the sexy time route until that stops... but more than likely, Ill wait until the 6 week checkup to get the okay from the doc.

DaisyE11 · June 2011

i had a 3rd degree tear and lots of stitches, sooooooo we still haven't. 8 weeks and i still don't feel ready. i feel bad for dh though.

cyprissa · June 2011

My midwife doesn't prescribe waiting 6 weeks...their recommendation is that you can have intercourse when you feel the desire to. We had sex at 4 weeks and it was good...took it slow but I didn't have any discomfort. I definitely recommend having an O first! For reference, I had a first degree tear and 3 stitches.

hvonbevern · June 2011

I had a partial 3rd degree tear. OB told me 3-4 weeks was OK as long as it was gentle and well-lubricated. I had no issues at 3 weeks.

Goodysgirl · June 2011

After DD my OB said I could after 2 weeks.. and we did. This time, I didn't even ask, but we waited 3 weeks because I was more sore this time.

mcginnie86 · June 2011

Having relations would require getting DS to not freak out if he's not in our bed. Maybe by his first birthday?

ironmommy · June 2011

You ladies are impressive! I have zero desire at this point.

nattn · June 2011

I waited until 6 weeks. It was a long, hard wait but the thought of any kind of infection scared me to death. As soon as I started the mini pill, my desire (which was there through the entire pregnancy and for the 6 weeks after) went down to zilch! The doctor swears it's not because of the mini pill, but I'm just sure it is. Anyone else have this happen?

bekahsue32 · June 2011

nattn:
I waited until 6 weeks. It was a long, hard wait but the thought of any kind of infection scared me to death. As soon as I started the mini pill, my desire (which was there through the entire pregnancy and for the 6 weeks after) went down to zilch! The doctor swears it's not because of the mini pill, but I'm just sure it is. Anyone else have this happen?

I had to finally let go of any form of medicated BC because of this, so you're not alone. It wasn't worth the lack of desire. We went to condoms and have been fine.

RavenandJosh · June 2011

krptcmschfmkr128:
To those ladies who've already had sex at this point, were stitches fully healed? We're quite ready to, but I'm hesitant because of my stitches...

I am in the same boat! i really want to know how sex worked with stitches! me and DH are dying but I am terrified that he will rip them.

BeetleLinz1125 · June 2011

We waited 10 weeks....and have only done it once.....I'm dying! LOL. Wish DH didn't hurt his back or I'd be all over him!

tokenhoser · June 2011

I had a 3rd degree tear and a lot of stitches. We did it (very gently) for the first time last night at a bit over 6 weeks. Honestly... it wasn't that fun for me. And we used lube and tried to take our time. I do plan to be brave and maybe try again this weekend.

bt3701 · June 2011

ironmommy:
You ladies are impressive! I have zero desire at this point.

Same here!

scorpiomom2005 · June 2011

I had desire all through the 3rd trimester, and we were active till about 3 days before our scheduled section, only cause I was too freaked out about the surgery to be intimate, and we haven't really tried to be that close for the past 2 weeks just cause I'm still healing and stuff, but this afternoon man it hit me. I'm still bleeding a little bit and he's terrified we'll get pregnant again, so we'll probably wait at least until he can get to dr to talk about a vasectomy, but I might break down and get some condoms and rape him sooner or later LOL

InLoveWithBrett2 · June 2011

Sitting at 7weeks today and I am in no hurry to do the deed.

ekfritsche · June 2011

I'm totally on board with thinking about jumping H but the actual act I have yet to get around to... My stitches are almost gone (1st degree) and I'm no longer bleeding but I've freaked myself out enough that I'm pretty sure DH is going to have to wait the full 6 weeks. On the other hand we've done other things which have made him happy so... You know you don't have to have sex to have fun! Stick out tongue

laxchick60 · June 2011

ekfritsche:
You know you don't have to have sex to have fun!

This

... I think we only made it two weeks before we started fooling around. I think I only "helped him out" twice without getting something in return the whole six weeks before I was cleared and I felt like I was healed enough. Seriously, don't think you can't do anything. Once you stop bleeding, oral is fair game, til then there are fingers and vibrators that will do the trick

ManiacMcGee · June 2011

I had a TON of stitches and we waited until the 6 week all clear from the doctor. It hurt like hell even with tons of lube and I bled afterward.

We're going to try again this weekend hoping for a little less pain.

Temp38995750004016 · June 2011

I had a fourth degree and my doctor initially said we'd have to wait twelve weeks! At this week's appointment I begged him to reconsider. He checked my internal stitches and gave us the green light for six weeks! Woo hoo! Next weekend it is on! The doctor did recommend Astroglide, he said it seems to work best.

desdemona39 · June 2011

At my 6wk appt I got an IUD, so the doc said another 2 weeks... we tried at 8 weeks cuz I was dying to get some, and it hurt so bad I just couldn't (I had a c/s btw). We were successful at 9 1/2 weeks with lots of lube and taking it veeerry slow. It had taken me that 1 1/2 weeks just to work up the nerve to try again- I wanted to cry just thinking about it, but figured I'd be pretty miserable if I were celibate forever.

Butterflylove85 · June 2011

bt3701:

ironmommy:
You ladies are impressive! I have zero desire at this point.

Same here!

Me too.

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