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Venting here because I have no where else...

KittahMamaKittahMama
in Cincinnati Babies

I went to the hospital Tuesday night after a day of painful contractions that kept getting worse.  According to my doc I went from 2cm 50% to 3cm 80% from Friday to Tuesday (I thought I was already 3, okay...)....

So last night I had red blood from 11pm til 4am.  I was having contractions (as usual) so I didn't really think about it- but called this morning and went and got checked.  No change.

I am so upset.  I have had contractions for 6 weeks STRAIGHT at this point- no less than 10 minutes apart and typically 5 or so!!!  REALLY!

So I asked the doctor can I have ambien because I can't sleep.  She said no- even though she offered me a prescription last Friday.  She doesn't want baby to have the med in his system if I go into full blown labor.... OKAY... so I can't sleep at night now. 

So then I discuss possibly membrane stripping and she said no not until 39 weeks.  WHAT!?!?!?!? I have to go another 3 weeks like this??? 5 minutes apart!!! WTF!?!?!?

She basically said sorry- but nothing we can do for you.  I broke down crying.  I was telling her I cannot go on like this.  I mentally can't handle it ANYMORE.  I am not complaining about my back, or about the weight or about any of the pains and stretches.  I CANNOT handle more contractions for WEEKS.  She said "don't think about it, just deal day in and day out" WTF do you think I have been doing?  How do you think I have been dealing?  My poor 1 year old wants mommy to hold her and I can't pick her up often because oh yeah, contractions make that impossible.  We moved into a house that is only sort of put together- sort of hard to deal with but no choice cause- contractions make it impossible!

But sorry, nothing they can do for me.

I am going to see if another doctor in the practice that I have seen a few times (who seems more open to doing SOMETHING to help me along naturally like membrane stripping) will PLEASE see me next week.

Okay I am done venting.  I just don't know if I can mentally handle this.  I really think I am losing my mind.

 

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  • kel716kel716 member

    Sending you big hugs.  You're stronger than I.  I would have more than lost it at my doctor's office and I would definitely go and see another OB for an additional opinion.

    I know my mom contracted throughout her pregnancy and when she went into labor it was scary quick.  (like 30 minutes - 4 hours tops for 4 complete pregnancies).  She was induced with my brother to control her labor and he was 2 hours (by induction, I mean they broke her water).   I don't know how intense they were, so I'm not sure if there are similarities or not. 

    I hope you get some relief soon!

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  • MissbollingerMissbollinger
    I'm sorry you are going through this :( ((HUGS))  I know when I was at the end of my pregnancy with Serena I went through some hellish things, cut a long story short I had to have a procedure done at 37 weeks after a week of excruciating pain, not being able to sit, stand or be touched.  This only came about after I complained a few times to my OB and they referred me to a specialist, then offered to induce me sooner but in the end I had my membranes stripped at 38 weeks.  I did what you did and ended up crying at them which I think motivated them to do something.  Hopefully they will find a way to make this easier on you or otherwise.
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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member
    My midwives said Tylenol pm was fine at the end of my pregnancy, can you ask about that? Hope you get relief soon.
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  • doodlebug914doodlebug914 member
    I would get some Tylenol PM or take a Benadryl to help you sleep!!  I can't believe she was so completely unwilling to offer any suggestions to you.  I hope you can see another OB next week, I would insist on it!
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  • johnandkristinjohnandkristin

    I have been thinking about you. I'm sorry you're going through this. I would insist on talking to the other doctor ASAP...screw waiting until next week! You've waited long enough.

    I know you don't know me, but would it help if I came out one day and helped you set up your house? Like, you just say where you want stuff and we make it happen? I know that would make me so stressed out to look at my house all day and think of all the things I want done. I am totally serious. 

     

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  • KYmama9286KYmama9286 member

    I was just about to say the same thing as Kristin-- I would be more than happy to come over and help get things more settled for you. I know its not the same as unpacking yourself but I was surprised how much better I felt having my house ready to go before I had Nicholas even though I wasn't able to be the one to do it.

    As for sleep-- that is pretty silly about the ambien considering when I was on hospital bedrest my MFM's gave me ambien every night to sleep (along with probably 95% of the other women on BR). What about OTC sleep aids--- I know the babycenter list of approved meds has OTC sleep aids on it as being okay as well as tylenol pm and benadryl.

    I'm sorry you are going through all this :-( I would definitely be calling daily until some solution was achieved. I understand wanting you to be as far along as possible but it can't seem to be good on your baby to be under the stress of contractions for this long of a time. Please let me know if I can anything to help-- even just come get C and have a playdate or something!

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  • margauxa1margauxa1

    I was in a very similar situation to you except that for 5 days I had 3-5 minute contractions...my doctors let me have ambian.  Let me say that it was the WORST NIGHT of my labor....I still would wake up in the middle of my contractions and I wouldn't know where I was...

     I really really feel for you right now.  Can you call a chiropractor to come out and give you an adjustment?  It really helped me. I also went in twice to the hospital, they gave me fluids and once let me rest with some morphine.  When I was rested up they let me go back home to labor some more.

    Take care of yourself and make your DH take care of you too!

    big triple huge hugs...at least there is a baby waiting at the end of all of this!

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  • KittahMamaKittahMama

    JohnandKristin and Skyllingstal THANK YOU so much for the offers! My parents are coming this weekend to help us right as much as possible.  At this point I have a bedroom and a bathroom for me and the kiddos (pretty much anyway!)...  Though if he doesn't make his appearance next week an in home play date would be fun!

    I am overwhelmed but I know I'll get through it.  We met one of our next door neighbors and it turns out she goes to the same group as well. 

    Right now I am going to make my appointment for next week with a different doctor and trying to get my membranes stripped.  I am so over this.  Hell at this point I may even try... gulp... sex.

    They suggested tylenol PM or benedryl and although I've done tylenol PM and have had little help with it tonight Benedryl it is!

    I'll let ya know how it goes.  Ugh.

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