For thoses of you who are...
nething4him
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Team Green...
I honestly do not, will not find out what the sex of my baby is, however I am getting alot of pressure from my DH's side of the family to find out the sex. Not necessarily so I know, but so they know. They "want to prepare." I really don't know how I feel about that. I understand they may want to pick up a few items, however I have no issue with neutral colors. DH's family claims they can't stand buying green, yellow, orange... etc. Where I could care less. To me I feel as being Team Green is saving it for everyone, heck isn't that the point of the surprise? Idk if I am being irrational or if everyone else feels it's okay for "the doctor, or dh" to tell them? One other thing I want to mention MIL is kinda a scatter brain and I am definitely concerned i will stop by the house and see a bag of blue or pink items she forgot to put away.
Sry this is so long, I would love your input 
Corrine & Jason
Re: For thoses of you who are...
I'm not team green. I found out with both this and my previous pregnancies.....but i'm impatient like that...lol.
It is your right to be team green (in fact I applaud you for it). Simply tell your DH's family that you have no interest in finding out the gender of your child until he or she arrives. They are going to have to respect your decision. And if they don't want to buy gender neutral then they don't have to...they can wait until the baby arrives.
By all means keep your secret. Its not irrational at all!
This exactly. Don't let them pressure you into it. They will just have to respect your decision. This is your baby, your pregnancy :-) Do it your way.
This is your decision. If you don't want to know, I wouldn't even let the doctor or DH tell them just in case there is a slip up.
Just tell them it's your uterus and you can do whatever you please with it.
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Sounds like I am in the same boat as you. His family claims that they cannot find anything gender neutral and how it would be so much easier to buy clothes if they knew what we were having. It has continued well after my Anatomy Scan. His family can be really over bearing and I finally became a *** and snapped. This was after his grandmother told me how upset she was that someone else purchased the bathtub and that is what she wanted to get us. I told her too bad, a good friend of mine purchased it for us and I am not returning it just so she can. She kept going which really made me mad because it was over a $15 item. Most of the items on my registry are in this price range, so what is the big deal, pick something else....(Sorry for the side vent)
I told her if it was really that big of an issue, than just don't buy anything. I told her she would have the rest of her life to know what the baby is and buy clothing. They will grow quickly and constantly need new sizes.
I will not promise you it will get better, because it has just continued. It is my DH's and my decision only. This goes for the names as well. I know it has become increasingly challenging to keep my mouth under control, but I am at the point that I have no problem pulling the I am pregnant and crazy card. I would not want my DH or family to know before me, that is just wrong. You are choosing to wait and so can everyone else....
I am Team Green too, and I cannot believe your in-laws would expect that they could know the sex and not you! I think it is definitely not OK for everyone but you to know if it is a boy or a girl, and I think it's ridiculous that they would even suggest it! Even if no one let it slip (which I'm sure someone would, by accident), it would feel like you're out in the dark while everyone else plans, I would not like it one bit! I think if you're going to be Team Green, it's all or nothing.
They will have plenty of time to buy things once the baby comes! Just put your foot down. You are the parent, not them!
Don't feel bad about not telling them - it's your choice, and I agree with you - part of the fun of not knowing is telling everyone after the baby is born. As for "preparing," you might try reminding them that ultrasound scans are never 100% sure, so you'd be better off getting neutrals anyway. There are so few real surprises in life, and this is one of them - hopefully they can relax and enjoy the anticipation with you!
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One reason we decided to be team green was because we don't want the super gender-specific stuff, especially since we hope to have a second later and will need to be able to use it all again, including the clothes.
We just explained to the in-laws (and this did surprise them) that we didn't need them buying anything anyway. We were prepared to handle it ourselves. Anything they would enjoy buying, great. But feel free to skip the shopping altogether.
They also assumed we'd be willing to fly halfway across the country (at our own expense) for a shower. No possible way the gifts would add up to even half of our airfare. Some people just overestimate how important it is to get free stuff.
I'm team green with this baby, and was with my first as well. There were so many reasons we decided to wait to find out the gender, but after Lila was born i was so glad we did. I had lots of nice gender neutral stuff then after she was born a tidal wave of pink came in. i kid you not, Dh came home with 3-4 bags of gifts daily and it was all pink.
If we'd found out beforehand it would be like swimming in a sea of pepto bismol.
Tell his family that you don't need anything before the baby is borna dn they are welcome to wait until afterwards to shop if they'd like.
I am Team Green and got sick of hearing people's opinions on the topic the last time, so with this one I just said that that baby wouldn't show the goods at the U/S. Anyway, you are 25 weeks pregnant, so do you even have another U/S scheduled? I don't have one until the end to check on positioning.
So I'd handle it by telling people that you don't have any way to find out. I would never have any unnecessary procedure just to look for the baby's sex.
do what you are comfortable with. this is your pregnancy so try not to feel pressure from in-laws. I know that's not always easy but it is your baby. if you don't want to find out, don't. the added colors will come in soon enough and will be plenty.
DH told me we had a boy, in the delivery room. It was the most amazing feeling in the world and we plan to wait for this one. I personally would never tell my in-laws or have DH tell anyone else before we found out.
'Our baby, our decision'
'Sorry, we've chosen to be surprised, you'll find out when we do'
'I don't want gender specific gear in case the next one is opposite so I'm not worried about that'.
'The nursery decor is beautiful for either and we can bring in touches of color later'
'They really need so little in the beginning, we'll (you'll) have time to find cute outfits later'
'This is life's one true surprise left, I don't want to miss it'. (This is mine go to. Nothing went as we had hoped with DS's delivery and the ONE thing we were able to have was DH telling me what we had. Not a tech, not a doctor, MY HUSBAND when he saw OUR child. I want that moment again. Clothing choices be damned..I'm not giving up that moment).
'STFU'
Seriously, we were team green last time and I was sick of comments from people. I played nice for a while and then pretty much said 'too bad'. This time we're team green again and I've been called selfish for not finding out. Sorry, it's not your uterus so kma. I don't yell at people for finding out...why is it okay to yell at me for not finding out?
Not only are we Team Green, we also aren't telling anyone what our choices are for names!
Let them suffer, imo. It's your pregnancy, your baby, your decision. Really only you and DH have to "plan", it sounds like they are just trying to make excuses to find out. Don't let them pressure you, and don't feel bad.
GO TEAM GREEN
We are team green, and it's driving everyone (especially my mother) nuts. And I couldn't care less.
A few people have said how difficult it will be to buy stuff, to which I replied "We're not asking anyone to buy anything, but should you choose to want to get LO something, I have registered for plenty of gender-neutral things that may be helpful for you to choose from, or you can wait until after the baby is born"
My mom has actually crossed her arms and pouted like a 2-year-old because we are not finding out the gender, and because we will not reveal our name choices.
Stick to your guns. If you prefer a surprise, then everyone else will just have to deal with it- this child is in your uterus. Besides, if anyone else knows, you can pretty much count on the surprise being ruined. If you have a baby shower, all of the pink or blue stuff will probably tip you off.
you need to hold your ground on this decision. if you cave in to their pressure, you are setting a bad precedent for any other decisions regarding YOUR child. they will think they have a "say" when they really should not. you and dh need to set very firm boundaries for them NOW.
they sound extremely selfish. i hope your dh backs you up.
We are team green (well, dh isn't, but we're not telling anyone that!), and I just tell people that babies all need the same things and we would prefer gender neutral anyway. As far as clothes, there will be loads of time for them to buy clothes after baby arrives!
Good for you for sticking to your guns! Its your pregnancy, and hopefully they will forget about all of it in the future.
People just need to realize, it is NOT about THEM.
You and your DH call the shots, like it or not. Everyone always has an opinion.
There is no NEED for them to know. How can knowing really help them? Girls do not have to have pink clothes/accessories and boys do not need blue.
What they are really saying is "this is what I want and is easier for me, so I need to know". Just screams selfish to me.
Why is it everyone wants to get involved in your pregnancy? I get the same thing from everyone at work. I was team green the first time and it was the most amazing thing ever. Just as everyone says they hate neutral colors, I think it is stupid to have everything pink or blue. just because your child is a boy or girl doesn't mean their favoritt colors are going to be pink or blue and it doesn't mean they will look good in those colors.
If they really care and they don't want to but nuetral, tell them to have stuff picked out and save up and they can go buy it when they find out. babies really don't need much the first week or two, so i don't know what they are saying about being prepared. Don't falter on your decision, you will regret it! You never know if this is the only pregnancy you will be blessed with, so do it your way.
Ty so much laides for all of your support. You have honestly made me feel 100% better about my decision not to find out the gender. As one of the PP's said "There are so few surprises in life." I truly do believe that. I will keep you all updated. Thanks again
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If it were me, and if I were really intent on staying Team Green, I would just tell the tech I don't want to know. I just couldn't expect everyone to know and not tell me, whether it be intentionally or not.
I understand it can be harder to shop for Team Green but:
1 - It's your pregnancy/baby, not theirs, so they don't get their say in whether you find out the sex of the baby or not
2 - Yes, it is fun to buy cute little boy/girl outfits, but unless they are planning on buying your LO a coming home outfit, there's no reason they can't wait until after the baby is born to get them.
3 - If you have a registry, they can't complain they won't know what to buy!
We (I) decided that we are not going to find out the sex of this, our 2nd, child because they told us wrong on the first child. I hate to say it, but it was disappointing to find out our little boy was actually a little girl. At least I brought a "just-in-case it's a girl" outfit with me to the hospital to bring her home in. Even if they tell you what you're having...it's still just a best guess. I would rather be expecting to be surprised at what we are having rather than to be surprised at their "best guess" mistake and have all the wrong color baby stuff.
Stick to your guns!
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