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Who does this? Obviously a vent

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Growing up, my cousin and I were very very close.  Both of us were only children so she was the closest I had to a sister (she's 2 years older).  We moved when I was 10 and through our teenage years, our interests really diverged.  Our family have also pitted us against each other - I was always "the smart one", doing well in school while she was "the pretty one" (popular, charming, social butterfly).

By the time we were in our twenties, we probably only saw each other once every other year.  She went thru a devasting affair with a married man and I was totally/ unhealthily so career obsessed.  But it was a HUGE shock to me when she didn't come to my wedding.  Her reason?  She was upset that I was getting married before her.

It really pissed me off... so it's been 4 years since we last spoke.  I got she was upset that the life she dreamt for  herself never came true (rich hubby, kids, etc) but I expected an adult to be able to put that aside for just one day.  Partially it's both of our parents' fault. 

She finally got married at the end of April - I was happy for her, but with the boys are the new job, there was no way we would've been able to make it to the wedding. 

Well, the kicker?  Today. my dad emails me - your cousin is pregnant and due at the end of the year (ouch, she's a fertile myrtle!) and she would like you to ship her all of H&A's outgrown baby clothes/gear since you guys aren't probably going to have anymore (OOOOUUUUUCHH).

WHAT?????  She lives in Cali (I don't even have her address) - does she reallllly want me to ship an exersaucer out there???

 

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Re: Who does this? Obviously a vent

  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    If I could pick my jaw up off the floor, I'd put it back together and it would say:

    "Hell to the no."

    And your dad gets a middle finger while I'm at it. ;-)

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    I don't think i would send them. If she really wanted them, she should hsve called and asked you herself.
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  • MrsKolasaMrsKolasa
    imageDavezWife:

    If I could pick my jaw up off the floor, I'd put it back together and it would say:

    "Hell to the no."

    And your dad gets a middle finger while I'm at it. ;-)

    I would also like to throw in a nice little "Fvck that"

    Rude. Rude. Rude.

    :::bangs head on wall:::

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  • pandabearloverpandabearlover

    Did she ask your dad to ask you?  Or did your dad ask this on his own?

    I would write back and say, "I am sure in the 4 years since we've spoken, she has made friends who have kids.  She can ask them to borrow baby clothes and an exersaucer."

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  • ALY1981ALY1981
    What?!?!?!??! Dear God.

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  • kme930kme930 member

    Oh wow! Wow wow wow.

    You have some good suggestions above. Tell your dad that doesn't feel appropriate to you. 

    Ugh. I'm so sorry. I hate it when parents do/say insensitive things like that! (((hugs)))

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  • firsttogofirsttogo

    That would be a no.

    I am odd about our baby stuff though. I just don't like giving/lending it. I am way sentimentally attached.  

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  • KYRNKYRN

    First WTF is wrong with people?!?!

    I hope that maybe your dad just thought it seemed like a great simple idea and that she didn't actually make the request.  But either way heII to the no!

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  • emmyloustuemmyloustu

    The nerve of people!!!!! What would possess her to ask and what on earth was your dad thinking passing on her request???

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  • CJ71903CJ71903 member
    Wow.  I would be pissed too. A nd the fact that someone was bossing me around and telling me what to do with MY stuff would piss me off even more.  In fact, I would be less likely to send stuff if someone did this to me.
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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03

    I think Davez and pandabear had great comebacks.

    I can't even wrap my brain around that kind of request.

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  • MouseygailMouseygail member

    omfg.  Indifferent 

    I can't believe the blockheadedness of your father...and if she actually asked that on her own, she is beyond ridiculous.  

    and besides, you are going to need all of that baby stuff again next year!! 

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  • dana316dana316 member

    Ummm, I don't freaking think so.

    Please, please, please tell me that you are not going to do this?!?!? 

     

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  • newsbabynewsbaby
    imagepandabearlover:

    Did she ask your dad to ask you?  Or did your dad ask this on his own?

    I would write back and say, "I am sure in the 4 years since we've spoken, she has made friends who have kids.  She can ask them to borrow baby clothes and an exersaucer."

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  • NiniJ55NiniJ55 member

    1.  She did not call you herself to ask for your old/ used stuff.

    2.  F*** you - for making the assumption that I'm not going to have any more kids. 

    3.  I would not send her Shyt.  Call me a b!tch if you like... LOL

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  • dundasgirldundasgirl
    imagepandabearlover:

    I would write back and say, "I am sure in the 4 years since we've spoken, she has made friends who have kids.  She can ask them to borrow baby clothes and an exersaucer."

    LOL!

    Your parents do realize that you two are not on speaking terms right?

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  • browneyedgrl4282browneyedgrl4282 member

    OMG I would flip the hell out. First of all she shouldn't have your dad being the middle man and 2nd go buy your own crap just because you have twins doesn't mean you won't have more! 

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  • crystalgirlcrystalgirl

    Send everything you have with big obvious stains and nothing more.

    I was kind of feeling for her until the self-righteous b!tch came out. The audacity!

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