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Sibling Issues
Okay, moms of more than one - time to play the, "I have seen people do this and am going to try not to" game....among other things.
Something I am trying to avoid is letting Isabelle get what she wants to play with all the time and get away with things in general because she is the baby. I am trying to teach Sophia to be nice to her sister and play nice with her without expecting Sophia to give up whatever she has because "the baby" wants it. I make Isabelle share with Sophia so that they both learn that "the baby" does not always need to get his or her way because they are "the baby." We are trying to teach it in the way that its Sophia's job to "protect" her sister and "help keep her safe" just like one day Izzy will do for Sophia. This does not include letting Izzy get her way. I hate it when I see others doing this and always feel bad for the older sibling but at the same time thing its almost unconscience for people to feel bad for the baby that does not know any better but is crying for a particular toy. Well, one day that baby will be older and still crying for that toy because they have always been given whatever they want.
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Re: Sibling Issues
That's a great point Mel! We do that all the time, but you are so right....the little one has to learn that he will not always get everything he wants just because he's the baby!
I've seen so many parent's applaud and "goo goo ga ga" over the baby and their milestones while the older sibling gets thrown to the curve. We try to play a middle ground. We get excited and show it when the baby does something new. Evan tries to copy the baby when he sees that. We don't encourage him to copy "baby things" per say but we congratulate Evan when he does a new trick, or learns a new phrase, or does something nice to his brother.
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
Cycle #1(08/2012): Clomid 50 mg CD3-7, Ovidrel CD13 + Progesterone = It worked!
BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
We've been doing the same although I'll admit its challenging b/c Lucas has a much stronger/rougher personality than Mateo. So he can get pretty upset when he wants something Mateo has and doesn't get it, but he'll get over it
Chiming in a few days late as I am catching up on all the posts. I hear you...it breaks my heart to see the older siblings having to give up something "for the baby". I try to be very conscientious (sp? - you know what I mean) about that. However, if he wants to play with one of the other kids especially Eli - and they refuse to allow him to - I ask them nicely to let him play. I try not to say "because he's a baby" I'll say instead " he's your brother and he wants to play too." or something along those lines.
Eli and Benji are five years apart so there are times when Eli doesn't want to be bothered by his little brother - like when he's coloring or playing Mario Cart. I encourage Eli to play with Benji but never take something away from E to give to B. UNLESS B was playing with it first and E was the culprit! LOL! It happens. Funny story, the things kids do...the other day, Eli was playing with his Toy Story toys and some TS castle thing. Benji wanted to play too and kept trying to wiggle himself in. Eli grew very upset and refused to share. So, I took out Eli's old Little People's Farm and animals for Benji. Benji was having a blast. so much so, Eli put his TS toys away and decided he wanted to play with Benji's toys too. Hilarious! They shared. Chelsea joined in on the fun too!
The one thing I see other parents of 2 or more doing that I am trying to avoid is always blaming the older sibling for things both kids did. "Because your older, you should know better." Well...they're kids too. Both should be held accountable.