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If you and SO work opposite schedules...

Mrs.T22308Mrs.T22308
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How does it go?

I'm trying to figure out a way to minimize the time that my mom (our free childcare which I am so very greatful for) has the kids when #2 comes.  She's so great to us and I know she doesn't want all 3 grandkids full time anymore.

DH works retail so his hours are somewhat flexible in terms of he can make his own schedule.  He can either work 9-6 or 1-10 and usually has 1 weekday off because he works weekends.  Either way he's not home for dinner and bedtime so that doesn't make much of a difference.  I work 8-5 M-F now, and am trying to get my employer to let me switch to 7-3 (and taking out the lunch break I never take anyway) and that way my mom would only have the kids 4 days a week from 11:30-3:30. 

My concern is having time for errands AND quality time with DH.  Since he works the weekends, I can't do errands then... well I could but I presume it'll be exhausting and frustrating with 2! And the one night DH is home, I would think it would be nice to have dinner/time as a family.

What tips can you throw at me to make it work?  We're going to try it for a week or 2 now, well before baby #2 comes to see if it'll be livable...

Lilypie First Birthday tickers Lilypie Third Birthday tickers M: 31 DH: 34 Dx: PCOS, Endo, Uterine Septum Ovarian Wedge Resection - May 2009 BFP #1 - October 2009 = DS BFP #2 - June 2011 = DD (Total Surprise!) Tree nut allergy in DS diagnosed 4/2012. Currently working with EI for SPD and possible ASD.
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Re: If you and SO work opposite schedules...

  • jf198400jf198400 member

    Is there a way that your DH could work 1-10 most days and have one day a week where he works 9-6 so that you would have one night that he'd be home early, where you could potentially get errands done?

    Maybe you can find a babysitter for a few hours on the weekend or after work one day so you can run errands then? 

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  • futuremrsmcnicholsfuturemrsmcnichols
    DH and I work opposite schedules. He works Fri-Sun 12-hour shifts at night. I work 3-12 hour evening shifts, usually between mon-thurs, and if I have to work during the weekend, my parents come to babysit. We have found that on our days off, we do errands together during the day/afternoon, and still have family time at night. If DH has a weekday off, you could always try doing some errands after you get off work, if you get to switch from 7-3. You will still have time in the evening as a family. Or, you could come home, load up DH and kids and run errands as a family.
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  • oandmplus1oandmplus1 member

    Right now, DH works 3rd shift (for him he leaves for work at 9 pm and gets home around 7:30 am), and I work 8 - 4:30. I drop DD at daycare on my way to work, and DH goes home and gets some sleep, he wakes up around 3 or so to get DD by 4, and then I either stop on my way home for errands or we go as a family in the evenings or on weekends.

    Soon though DH will start 2nd shift and will be working 2 or 3 pm - 12 or 1 am, and then I will leave DD with him when I go to work, she often will sleep til 8 or 9 if I give her a last feeding before I go, and then he will drop her at daycare on his way to work and I will pick her up after work. It will be much tougher to have time together, but we want to minimize the amount of time she is in daycare. I will have to either run errands with DD or do them as a family on the weekend.

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