So, I'm pretty new to all this and I've been lurking a few boards but I'm having trouble finding other ladies like me! My husband and I had a miscarriage but are trying again. We're bummed about the miscarriage but really over all okay and focusing on a hopeful pregnancy and not the loss of that one. We're also trying the old fasioned way (i.e. no charts, or ovulation sticks, and stuff like that). Just kinda having a hard time finding other ladies who are trying the old fashioned way and are focusing on the positive and not the previous loss. Any suggestions? Thanks!
P.S. I hope I worded this okay, I don't mean any disrespect to those of you who are are being more proactive in trying or who are still grieving your loss. Everyone has to do what's right for them and I don't think there is any right way or wrong way to handle starting a family. I just want to find a few other ladies who are handling it similar to the way we are so I have someone to relate to. Thanks!
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Yeah, it seems like everyone there is charting and using ovulation kits and stuff, which is fine but just not my style. Guess I'm in the minority. Oh well, thanks anyway :-)
I recommend TTCAL (trying to conceive after loss). They are more accepting, friendly and supportive in general and won't give you a hard time about not charting etc.Plus even though you feel like you have moved past your loss, sometimes the grief sneaks up on you at unexpected times so it is nice to be amongst friends who understand.
lurk a bit, read the blog and post an intro! I look forward to getting to know you.
edit to add: For what its worth --I NEVER come on this board but I just had this feeling that I needed to come here and I think YOU are the reason! See you around.
9 angels in heaven-3 in my arms and 1 in the NICU
Mono/di twin girls: Josephine born to heaven and Evangeline born Earthside at 25w
I'm so sorry for your loss.
A lot of women chart and temp because it's the most efficient way to conceive. If you only had sex when you were in the mood, or when you think the timing is right - and all along you're not ovulating in those timeframes, it can take longer.
This isn't to try and convince you to chart, just explaining why so many of us do it that way. If you don't want to do that, you don't have it, it's totally fine! You and your DH need to do whatever is right for the two of you - in this and pretty much everything else!
GL to you, I hope you find a board that feels like home to you.