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Why are people so inconsiderate?

cwassenaar@comcast.netcwassenaar@comcast.net
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I'm 38 weeks and this passed week I have been asked twice how much weight I've gained. I could not believe that people I had just met were willing to ask me that. I have already been feeling down because I feel huge, I didn't need someone else pretty much telling me that I am. Not only that but I also had a lady a few weeks ago say, "Wow...you are pregnant all over!" Here comes the real shocker, she was pregnant too! I was so offended. Why would you say that to somebody? I mean seriously its common knowledge you never ask a woman about her weight, pregnant or not. Sorry I just needed to vent, all these hormones are making me extra sensitve lately.

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  • colorschemercolorschemer member

    My former boss has asked me this every time she's seen me. Last time, she kept asking if I was sure that I wasn't having twins because I am, apparently, enormous.

    Then again, she's also a b!tch. 

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  • bundymommybundymommy
    I hear ya. Sooooo annoying. I think next time someone asks me how much weight I've gained, I'll say, "I've gained 29 pounds. How about you?"
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  • mltaylor23mltaylor23

    People lose a filter around pregnant woman. With both DD and this baby I get the twins question all the time and people say there is no way I will make it until August. DD was 9 days late thanks very much.

     

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  • BrimommyBrimommy

    YES people are inconsiderate!!  Either you are to big for your pregnancy or too small.  They tell me I am too small for being 35 weeks if I am sure the baby is healthy or better yet " I hope your not starving yourself you do realize you need to eat for two now"  .

    WTH!!!!!

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  • chelseabrimchelseabrim
    The In-Laws came to visit this past weekend and every time my pregnancy came up FIL would say "Well, she's gotten huge! Are you sure there's only one?" or "Man, you're huge, so-and-so wasn't that big at this point." Geeze people I just hit the third trimester, I'm not that freaking big, I sure feel like it but I don't need a reminder of the fact that I can't fit into my skinny jeans anymore! Sorry to vent on your post but man I know exactly how you feel!
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  • dragon_chicadragon_chica member
    With my first pregnancy I had a woman at my cousin's baby shower say, "Oh, when are you due?  Next week?"  Um, no, I'm actually due a couple weeks AFTER my cousin's due date biotch!  WHY would she say something like that?  She could've just asked what my due date was instead of answering her own question and putting her ugly asss foot into her mouth!  Plus, she has kids so you would think she wouldn't be that dumb about it.
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  • AmyaAmya
    Yeah, I know what you mean....I got, "So, how many babies do you have in there?"  So annoying!  I feel like a beached whale as it is and comments like that really don't help matters.  The joys of pregnancy...
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  • Kvitale87Kvitale87

    I think this is why I hate being pregnant. My GM makes fat jokes at me all the time and so do some of the kitchen guys. Then I have people telling me I need to quit working, OK, you pay my bills....

    People don't realize i can still kick their butts, and more legally too :)

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  • lizzyopallizzyopal member
    oh i know what you guys mean! a former friend of ours (became former after this fiasco and others) just walked up to me and says "god you're getting fat aren't ya?" i was only 20 weeks at that point and had JUST popped! i told him he was an a$$hole and needed to shut his mouth before everyone there got to see a pregnant women kick his a$$ into the street! neither i nor my DH have spoken to him since that happened. (DH was starting to dislike him anyway so that was just icing on the cake)
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  • maddiemoon43maddiemoon43 member
    OP - It's kinda unrelated, but people on here tend to advise against using your email address as your screen name to avoid spam, junk mail, people contacting you/gettign your personal information (there have been some crazies on certain boards), etc. unless you don't use that account for anything else anyhow.  Hmm, spam, junk mail, crazies...maybe my post IS related to inconsiderate people after all! Wink
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  • 35baby35baby

    Well I look far smaller than I lets say others at 30 weeks.  That means I don't get asked how much did I gain, but am I gaining enough? You are aware your eating for two right? So I hope you are eating enough to give her all the nutrtion she needs.  I find that inconsiderate. 

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  • ajmaslajmasl member
    image35baby:

    Well I look far smaller than I lets say others at 30 weeks.  That means I don't get asked how much did I gain, but am I gaining enough? You are aware your eating for two right? So I hope you are eating enough to give her all the nutrtion she needs.  I find that inconsiderate. 

    same here. Just yesterday I got asked by some lady at work that I never talk to if I've gained weight. She was like: 'you're all belly" I said yes, I've gained the healthy amount of weight needed for my baby thanks! and even after I answered she still kept on about it. It's true people are so nosy and rude. Keep your mouth shut. I should have asked her how much she weights, but  no of course that would be rude. People feel like bc we're pregnant they can say just about anything

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