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Look at your man differently now...

 I have found myself looking differently at my man. He has a daughter already (to his ex) and I watch him more closely now that we have a little one on the way... And I don't agree with the way he is raising her and certain things he does or doesn't do. Should I start worrying now, and interject while he is parenting his daughter or just wait and set new rules when the baby comes?! Help!!! Anyone else feeling this way?!
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  • Its not your business how he raises his daughter.
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  • If he already has an established set of rules/way of parenting this child, I would stay out of it. Or at least not correct him with SD there.

    If the issues are important to you, set a time to talk about it.  Discuss ways you might want to parent your new LO.  Keep it positive. Less, "I don't like that you do this, so we won't be doing that with LO," and more, "Let's talk about how we can best parent our new LO."

    FWIW, DH and I have had to have talks like this a few times as DS has grown and new behaviors arise. When we spot something we feel is a "red flag" we set time aside to discuss it and come up with a plan.  

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  • did you not see how he raised her before you got pregnant?
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  • The way he's raising her is something between him and his ex.  I wouldn't wait until your LO is here to set the "rules" (I hate that word) for YOUR child though.  Have a discussion with him before the baby comes so he knows what's important to you and get his feedback and opinion too but do NOT mention his daughter in the conversation.  It'll look like an attack on his parenting.

     

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  • So, you weren't paying attention to how he parents before ttc w/ him?

    Interesting.

     

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    So, you weren't paying attention to how he parents before ttc w/ him?

    Interesting.

    Yes

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  • I am very confused by this post.
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  • Did you not have a problem with how he was raising his daughter before you got pregnant?

     

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  • imagemrsmacias2008:
    did you not see how he raised her before you got pregnant?

    She just didn't give a crap before.

  • I despise when people refer to their partners as "my man". Creeps me out for some reason.
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    I despise when people refer to their partners as "my man". Creeps me out for some reason.

    MINE. ALL MINE!

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  • imageMandyBrownNoser:
    I despise when people refer to their partners as "my man". Creeps me out for some reason.

    Yes  yes. So possessive.

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  • Depends on what the disagreement is over - is he abusive and neglectful, or does he spank when you would time out? Very different things.
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  • I think it is important to discuss this with him. Let him know your concerns about the child you have on the way. 

     

     

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  • imageMandyBrownNoser:
    I despise when people refer to their partners as "my man". Creeps me out for some reason.

    I automatically do the "z snap" after reading it.

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  • Well ladies, the baby was not planned & we are not married. That's why I say "my man". And I did care before, I watched his child at daycare. I just always thought "it's his business" & wouldn't get involved when I thought he should discipline her or not (such as when she would mouth off, etc.) And what I meant by rules is the excessive amount of t.v. she watches. . .
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  • The time to defend yourself has passed. Why  resurrect an old post?
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  • I just got home from a long vacation. And just got on here the other day, thank you very much Stick out tongue
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