I think I am leaving my OB at 30w

emmyloustu · June 2011

I knew I should have gone with midwifery care right from the start, but with the surprise BFP at the holidays, I just made the 1st available appt at the OB close to my house. I like her and she has been very thorough and cautious, but after spending a little time discussing my birth plan with her, we could not be on more opposite sides of the fence. Our philosophies about L&D are just so different and I am afraid I am going to spend my labor fighting for what I want. Not to mention, I have not even started rotating through their different drs yet and I really don't want a total stranger delivering me.

I was so spoiled living in MD and having the option of the birthing center. My MWs were incredible and even though I ended up needing a hospital transfer, they never left my side and we found away to give me elements of my original birth plan even when things changed drastically. I trusted them 100% and I knew we were on the same page, if they suggested something, I knew it was in the best interest of me and the baby.

I just don't feel that way about my OB. Don't get me wrong, I think she is an amazing doctor, I just don't know if she is for me. I also don't think she would put me or the baby in harms way, but I think she will be much quicker with interventions. She has already said if I had the labor I had with Eliza - 49hrs from the time my water broke until delivery, that she would have sectioned me long before 49hrs. One of the things I am most grateful to my MWs for is allowing my body the time to labor and deliver Eliza even though she was out of position. They monitored both of us very carefully and there was never any danger.

I have an appt on Weds with a midwifery center. We shall see how it goes!!

lrrb · June 2011

If you are looking for a more natural type experience you are right you are not in the right place. I think a MW is much more your style. You should for sure check it out. And wow 49hrs of labor, bless you woman you are super mom! No joke! I hope this birth is much more event free than your last one and you get exactly what you want, everyone woman should at least be able to try!

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LVBlvd · June 2011

Good luck with your appointment! I can't wait to find out what you have cooking in there : )

It is very important for you to feel 100% comfortable with your care.

I am the type who is all about medicated deliveries in hospitals. If I wasn't, I would have hated my OB!

epphd · June 2011

GREAT plan. I think second time around - you have a sense of what you are "in for" and you deserve to have a qualified medical professional who can both see to your and baby's safety, and help you have the experience that most closely mirrors your goal as possible.

I've mentioned it before, but if for some reason the MW center doesn't feel right, look around for a D.O. as a potential alternative. I'm biased because I adored mine, but like you, I feel like her training and philosophy are what allowed me to safely deliver Sam even with pre-E and HELLP and without a section.

NiniJ55 · June 2011

I hope you find a great location. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I also had a long labor with DS and I'm grateful that my OB allowed me to labor for as long as I needed. Some OBs tend to be c-section happy -- I hate that.

Good luck!

Mrs.Reem · June 2011

I think you're right to check into your options. It's important to have the birth you want. The second time around you know how things go and what to do. Generally they're smoother deliveries and shorter. (Although I can't imagine going longer in your case. Holy wow momma!) I hope you find what you're looking for in the MW group. Good luck with your appt!!

emmyloustu · June 2011

Mrs.Reem:
I think you're right to check into your options. It's important to have the birth you want. The second time around you know how things go and what to do. Generally they're smoother deliveries and shorter. (Although I can't imagine going longer in your case. Holy wow momma!) I hope you find what you're looking for in the MW group. Good luck with your appt!!

This is what I keep telling myself!!!

GypsyEsq · June 2011

I'm all for it Emmy. You had a hard long labor with E but you know now what it's like so I honestly think it will be easier and certainly shorter (we hope). I've maybe not said it before but really your birth story is amazing and I think really your OB's response that had you been her patient you would have been sectioned (not sectioned "if" there was an infection, just sectioned) is all that is wrong with modern OB practices. Your body and your baby needed time, and given time you delivered. Excellent. Good luck on finding the right care provider for you!

dundasgirl · June 2011

It sounds like most of your issue with Eliza was her positioning...With your second, if she is positioned better, there is no reason for you to expect the same issues. You could have a nice fast labour this time around.

If you are feeling this way, change now. The last 10 weeks are pretty important in your prenatal care...much more than some of the earlier appointments in my opinion.

Good luck!

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