I think sometimes the stress of how many kids to have/not to have relates back to how expensive it is to raise kids now and then paying for schooling for them down the road. So I started wondering what other people's thoughts were on paying for college.[Poll]
Re: Paying for college (poll)
Other: Each month we contribute (generously) to moderately aggressive mutual funds set up for our kids' college. As college time comes closer we will switch them to less aggressive funds. Whatever is there when they go to college is what they have to work with from us. Any excess will have to be paid via scholarship, grants, loans, and/or their own work.
My parents paid for my bachelors which was a blessing but no limits were put on where I could attend. So I didn't give it any thought when I went to an expensive private college. In total my bachelors degree cost my parents in excess of $100,000, and this was in the mid-1990's so do some adjustments for inflation and tuition increases and that amount would be pretty outrageous in today's dollars. I think it's absurd they allowed me to spend so much with so little thought.
I paid for graduate school myself through loans and a research assistantship.
Other: We will pay for some but not all. I am a strong believer in the power of the student writing that first check with several digits in it. I remember writing that first check to Miami vividly and coming to grips with how expensive it was going to be. So, our plan is to have B and any future siblings pay for some of it, take out loans for some of it, and we'll help with some of it through our savings, etc...
The other potential is DH works in higher ed... should he still be doing this at that point in time and that institution offers tuition remission/exchange for dependents at that point in time, we'll probably take advantage of that benefit. There are some big IFs in this plan, but it is in the back of our mind.
ETA: We will utilize public schooling for K-12, and pay for daycare as needed. I know for some the cost of schooling includes private schools for K-12, and that dollar amount is out of the question.
This.
It's much the same way in which my parents/I paid for my undergraduate degree. That said, I knew the total $ amount that I had to work with and, thus, decided to stay home, take a nice scholarship (to make up the difference+), and attend state university. To be sure, there are MANY times that I look back and regret not having the same "college experience" that many of my friends had; however, not owing a dime in student loans usually makes those feelings quite fleeting. Also, I believe that making a decision like that, at the age of 18, was a great life lesson, built character, and established the roots of my financial mind. But I digress...
We want to contribute to them as much as we can, and contribute to a fund for them now. However, they might take different educational directions than the traditional college route, so I don't want our desire to add children to our family to rest on just the decision of "how are we going to pay for school"...now $$$ in general definitely crosses our minds when deciding to have more kids or not. I know for us, in general making the leap from 2 to 3 worries me b/c I don't want to take away from other opportunities that we want the other 2 to have. We had always planned on having at least 2 kids though.
It is also more important to me right now that DH & I have our retirement set up for us. I don't want to burden my children with financially having to take care of us so we're contributing more towards us right now vs. their schooling.
Wow lots of good insight and food for thought. Thanks. I guess I should answer my own question. We are planning on saving money for our kids with the goal to pay for all of their college education (at least a first degree whether it is assoc/bach/certificate) I guess it is hard to say how much money we will have saved up in 17 years but we hope it is enough and that is what we are planning on.
I was lucky that my parents planned/made good choices in the market and there was enough money for me to go to school and had about $2k left over at the end that I either put towards our wedding or our house i don't remember. My brother had a chunk of money as well and he started going to community college so he may have more left over at the end than I did. DH's family was a bit different and he paid for most if not all of his school. I think this is why he only obtained an associates degree. I am SO thankful now that I don't have any debt to worry about and feel that I need to give that same advantage to my kids. Though it is scary to think of saving $100,000 per kid....Ahhh!
We're an other too. We're saving, but it's unlikely we'll have enough saved to fully fund a four-year degree. My parents also had money saved for me, but not enough to fund four years at an expensive private school. I grew up knowing I had better get a scholarship, in part because they considered my high school tuition an investment so they wouldn't have to pay for college. So I chose between the two schools that offered me a full-tuition scholarship, and my parents' college savings paid for our wedding.
Truthfully, I expect the same for our kids. If they aren't offered scholarships, then they'll probably have to take out loans or apply for grants or financial aid. But I was very motivated by the other things my college savings could be used for if I got a scholarship to college, so I hope the same will be true for our children.
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My parents lent us interest free funds to cover our tuition and we were expected to work while attending classes and pay it off before the new quarter began. I'm not saying this method comes without fault since I was exhausted working 20-40 hours a week while going to school full-time. We were discouraged to take on education loans while in school and I didn't owe a dime when I graduated with either of my two degrees.
My hope for our children is for them to take on some of the responsibility that I can now appreciate and also offer the assistance they may need to complete their goals. The problem with my parent's plan in my opinion is it forced me to take a route I wouldn't have otherwise for my education, due to cost. If our kids have a true passion for a particular career path, we want to make that happen for them and will hopefully be able to provide the assistance they need.
This is an excellent point.
Ditto Moesten and TTimes3.