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Another FB dilemma

BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member
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So.. over the weekend this guy requested to be my friend on Facebook. 

Backstory--he and I worked together at a large market TV station, we dated a little bit, he left for another job in another city and then hired me to work for him there.  Didn't date him then, but I pretty much got that job because of the past relationship thing. 

He's not exactly someone I want to be in touch with now.  BUT, of his 700+ "friends," there are probably 100 or more who I also know/worked with and wouldn't mind hearing from.

So... Do I "friend" him or not.

 

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Re: Another FB dilemma

  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    You could friend those people on your own, if you wanted!

    Or you could friend him, make some connections, then eventually u nfriend him.  If he has 700 friends, he isn't going to notice if you unfriend him immediately.  And really - if he does, does it matter?

    But then again, I occasionally go through my friend list and unfriend people who I've never heard a peep from on FB!

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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Yeah, I'm pretty selective about who I approach as friends.  My criteria is, "Would I have this person over to my house?"  

    I'm not sure I'd want to search out and friend a bunch of people myself.. it just seems so, oh, needy.  Which it appears this guy is.. holy heck!  700 friends?   Pretty much everyone he's ever met in his life.  I don't need that much validation! :)

    But if someone saw me on his list and wanted to say hi and reconnect, I'd be cool with that.  Just not sure I want to initiate that.

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  • gimmietimmiesgimmietimmies member

    700?!?! I don't think I would be able to keep up with that kind of news feed. I would personally ignore the friend request unless there is a professional advantage. If you don't see yourself interacting with him at all, don't friend him. Unless he wants you for his Farmville neighbor. Stick out tongue

    As for his friends list, if there is someone on there you would get together with or reconnect with, I would. I reconnected with some old school friends (both grade school and uni) and glad I did. We talk often and meet up when we can. I'm selective too, I think I have maybe 80 friends, most are family, so it's pretty easy to keep up with them.

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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Hahaha!  With 700 friends, I doubt he'd have time for Farmville!   Can you imagine??

    I ignored his request.  He's such an insecure idiot, I'd just rather he go away.  Not sure he knows I'm a mom now either, and that's fine with me.   Plus, there are a few people on there who I can't stand, and it'd be just my luck that those are the ones that would want to friend me.

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    I only have about 20 FB friends and can't keep track of them already. If you don't feel like connecting with this guy - I wouldn't friend him.
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