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Help with "on/off duty" time from DH

NJinAustinNJinAustin member
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How do you work it out with your DH with who is "on duty" and "off duty" with your LO. (mine is almost 9 months)

I'm a SAHM for the summer. Weekdays, I realize it's me on duty 99% of the time and that's cool. But, weekends... how do you work it with your DH so you get some "off duty" time. Right now, it's too random for me... I either ask way in advance or see that he's been working in the yard for 4 hours and resent that he hasn't asked if I need a break... and I hate that feeling. I know DH wants to help out... I just have to ask.  Do you do things like... have a schedule, 2 hours on/off, schedule time slots in advance, on the fly, etc.   TIA!!!

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Re: Help with "on/off duty" time from DH

  • mcgeemcgee member

    We try to have a plan for the weekend. Unless we've already worked out the details, we'll usually talk about weekend plans on Thursday or Friday night. Like, "I'd really like to finish X project this weekend, and I need to go to the grocery store. How do you feel about taking the kids for a few hours while I do that?"

    It helps to know going into the weekend what we both want or need to accomplish, and we can usually work out from there who is going to go to do what and when. Of course, with two kids, two dogs, and lots of projects around the house, we rarely accomplish everything we set out to do, but oh well.

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  • HSartteachHSartteach member

    On weekends we each take a morning to "sleep in".  That person is off duty until they are dressed and downstairs.  From there it is game on.  But, like McGee said, if one of us has some work to do, we usually tell the other so we know it's coming.  Like DH had to study this weekend.  I knew that, so I figured I would have extra "on duty".  Or if I have grading that will take longer than nap time, then he gives me that time. 

    Otherwise, we are both on for the whole weekend.  

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  • kiarox2002kiarox2002
    We each take one morning.  On DH's morning, he takes Kate over to his mom's house for breakfast and they hang out until naptime.  Usually this means I sleep until about 11:00, but if I'm working on something, I have been known to get up around 10:00.  :)  
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  • NJinAustinNJinAustin member
    thanks ladies. It's good to hear similar ideas that work.
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  • balihaigirlbalihaigirl member

    we usually discuss and plan out our weekend on thursday so we know what we have coming up.  my dh has to study most weekends and often has to work so i usually don't plan anything without checking with him first.  we also have a google calendar that we both share where we put any events we have planned for the weekend.

    we also each get one morning to sleep in and then also both help on chores whenever there is time.

    good luck!

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