If u could change 1 thing/ something you'll do different next time..

awagner122210 · June 2011

What is something you'll do different next time? Or what is something you've done that you said you wouldnt? I have a big one & now its coming back to haunt us...

awagner122210 · June 2011

Mine is....I said before B got here that he WILL be in his crib by 3 months...well he turns 6 months the 22nd & we're half way there. Its mainly my fault because we started to @ 3 months but then the wakefull period came & I got lazy & chickened out & brought him back. Ugggg. I should of stuck with it. Next time I'll stick with it!!

xxbabycakesxx · June 2011

something id do different with the next LO? im going to take more photos of LO in the hospital. i remember what happened but i like to remember all the fine details too.

watermellens · June 2011

xxbabycakesxx:
something id do different with the next LO? im going to take more photos of LO in the hospital. i remember what happened but i like to remember all the fine details too.

That's a good one - we took some, but only after. I'd like a picture of me 40 weeks pregnant and in the hospital with hubby too.

I tell myself all the time that next time, I'd try to stress less at the beginning. I feel like I didn't even enjoy B as a newborn b/c I was always worried - worried about if he was eating and how much and how often. And then worrying that he was napping in his swing - and was that okay? And then worrying that "he slept so much today I know he won't sleep at night" etc

CFH79 · June 2011

Try harder with any latching issues and not use a nipple shield. Also make sure to take the first photo in the hospital.

PGASTL · June 2011

I had a c/s and if conditions are favorable, I'd like to try for a VBAC next time.

I wish I had known that lanolin stains clothes.

I thought I'd never co-sleep and LO slept on my chest for 3 months - it was the ONLY FREAKING PLACE she would sleep.

kj07 · June 2011

I wish I would have tried to see if B would nap on his stomach when he was little. I was too worried to try it out, but now I feel he might have been a better napper if I could have gotten him used to stomach sleeping.

mamaholmes2010 · June 2011

I have a couple:

1) I hated my doctor and never trusted my instincts about changing to a midwife because I was like 30 weeks pregnant when I had the last straw with my doctor...but I stayed...next time we will have a midwife and a birth in a birthing center instead of a hospital

2) There are virtually NO pictures of me with LO (even now) because I am usually the one wielding the camera...I would like more pictures of us

3) Document my pregnancy...I am a plus-size momma and I was embarassed by the way I looked pregnant because I didn't have the cute basketball under tee-shirt thing going on...but now I am amazed at what my body has given me (this 18lb beautiful baby...a vaginal delivery after 30 minutes of pushing...and EBF-ing until 6 months and extended BF-ing with solids) and I am regretting not documenting it

jnicolen · June 2011

just ONE thing??? ha..theres a lot.

a big one for me is also pictures. we took a lot throughout the pregnancy. but we stopped the last week because i broke my arm. i SOOO wish i had pictures of myself at 38-39 weeks pregnant with a giant cast from hand to armpit!! at the time i was miserable, but i think it would be so great to have those. i also have pictures from laboring at home...making O a b-day cake with my mom, H snow-blowing the street to get out...but not lots from laboring at the hospital. i wish i had some more of those as well.

other things:

-not stress so much about feeding and sleeping. i was a serious stress case, and it caused some tension between me and H. O is turning out just perfect and i didnt need to worry so much.

-i wish i took him out of the house more in the early months. it was so cold here, and my arm hurt, so we didnt do much. but i wish i would have bundled him up and taken him a few more places.

OliveBaby · June 2011

I would have taken a shower much sooner after getting to the recovery room. I know I would have felt so much better if I had, but I didn't want to be away from LO that long.

And another vote for taking more pictures in the hospital. There are tons of pictures of everyone else holding my baby, but almost none of me holding him.

RSClementine · June 2011

I wish I brought more normal clothes for the hospital. Everyone said you would ruin the clothing you wore while there, so I brought cheap sweatpants and one nursing tank. I didn't ruin anything, and would have been happier in my own clothes. I also wish I had put them on sooner. I stayed in that drafty hospital dress for over 24 hours when I didn't really need to.

tiffanyp · June 2011

With my next LO, I will be more consistent with pumping and giving LO bottles. I got lazy after I decided not to return to work, and now she refuses to take a bottle.

rocknmum · June 2011

I am thinking I did the right things this time and not the first time or maybe it's just the different personalities my kids have. I try and not hold S all the time or come running when he cries, I can always give it a minute. I did these with my first and it ended he wanted to be held 24/7 and cried all the time, S not so much. We co slept from day 1 with our first, and I don't really mind all that, but it took until I was like 9 months pregnant and him to be 4 to get him out of our bed and I think that was only because I took up so much room. S co sleeps sometimes now but is just as content in his crib, or anywhere really, to fall asleep.

Five Months to Plan · June 2011

Next time I will not grab the bed rails every time I had a contraction. My arms hurt more than anything else for days!!!! I said we would never bed share, but DD wake up sometimes at like 6, but still sleepy. The only way she goes back to sleep is with us. She then wakes up a happy baby around 8. I love this time with her.

EarsToYou · June 2011

More pictures of me w/ the baby for sure. Also, trying not to stress and just enjoy them being so tiny. And to pump throughout the entire mat leave!!! I pumped a lot in the beginning, but then just kinda got lazy about it, and now my freezer stash is almost gone. Since I've been back to work I just can't pump enough to keep up, so the last few weeks we've had to do some combo feeding, and while it's not that big a deal, I would really have preferred no formula at all.

Cheekers2010 · June 2011

There's a lot of things I'd do differently but I think it all boils down to trying to control my anxiety better. Stress less!!! Especially during the pregnancy but also after. I had such a hard time enjoying my pregnancy and even though I knew I was being a complete head case I couldn't seem to stop myself. After I was so sad not to be pregnant anymore. It hit me like a ton of bricks.

I totally agree about the pictures. We actually have very few from the hospital. G had to be rushed to the nursery very shortly after he was born and then be had to stay there instead of rooming in with us so we just didn't seem to get a lot of pictures. Huge regret!

jillybean800 · June 2011

I should have gotten newborn pics from the hospital photographer! Also, there is no pic of me and my husband with the baby in the hospital either! Why didn't anyone think of that?

I should have made more meals to freeze. We were always starving the first few weeks. I thought my mom and MIL were going to bring us food. Then they didn't (well, ok, they did twice. But we could have used a lot more!)

If I have a baby around Christmas again, I will GO TO CHRISTMAS! We didn't. We had people come to us, but they came in shifts and it didn't feel like Christmas so I found it really depressing. Once again, we were also starving because people brought us like, a square inch of lasagna (I bring this up to my mom all the time and she says I'm exaggerating. But I don't think so.... Stick out tongue

EMOmamma · June 2011

Not stress so much about breastfeeding. After LO was in the NICU we WORKED for a month where I would try to breastfeed him then give him a bottle then pump - it took an hour every time so I only had an hour in between to do anything (including sleep). I was avid about breastfeeding and now that I'm done EPing and we're formula feeding I am looking at things very differently. Also, LO is a lot less gassy (= more happy) now that he's on formula.

I still believe breast is best and I will try even harder to breastfeed in the beginning for the next baby (not fall down the supplement hole unless absolutely necessary) but now I know my limits and if it's not working I'm not going to torture myself.

bumpuser260585 · June 2011

As far as the delivery:

I would have labored at home longer. I went to the hospital at 3:30 am after having contractions for 2 days. I was still only between 3 & 4 cm. They admitted me at 5am when I got to 5 cm.

I would have waited on getting the epi. I got it at 9:30am. It didn't wear off or anything, but I think it slowed my progression and made DS super sleepy after he was born. I didn't have him until 6:30 pm.

Definitely more pre-baby photos too. Both before I went into labor and during the time at the hospital.

After he was born:

I wish I could have chilled out more. I was so worried about his low birth weight, him not latching on, not eating, falling alseep too much, crying for hours, etc that I didn't enjoy him as an infant.

I also wish I would have supplemented with formula but kept bf. By the time I gave him formula I was so over bf and so stressed that I just stopped. Next time I'll know that formula isn't going to kill my baby or anything and having both bm and formula isn't a big deal.

chpswife · June 2011

1. More pictures of me and LO 2. Crib in my room instead of pnp 3. Make DH help more. It's been only me since she was born. He'll have to take a night shift and get up early with next one and help with bedtime........no I'm not bitter.

Moonbeam828 · June 2011

Well, if there is a next time, I hope my husband doesn't have another unexplained seizure and have to be admitted as a patient in the hospital himself and miss the birth of our child again. As for something I have any control over, I'm pretty happy with all our decisions. I'd have liked more pictures, but I think I'm one of those people for which there can never really be enough pictures.

imeltice · June 2011

KatieGator:
Well, if there is a next time, I hope my husband doesn't have another unexplained seizure and have to be admitted as a patient in the hospital himself and miss the birth of our child again. As for something I have any control over, I'm pretty happy with all our decisions. I'd have liked more pictures, but I think I'm one of those people for which there can never really be enough pictures.

I almost just said the same thing. Next time I hope to have a baby that is not sick. I think anything I would change stems from the fact that O was sick.

EVM1216 · June 2011

No epidural next time. If I'd had known that I only had 2 hours left at the time they gave me the epidural I would have powered through, but I was convinced that I had another 12 to go.

I'm going to push DH to do his share of the feedings while I'm on ML. (DD still won't take a bottle at home, although she will other places as long as I'm not around.)

yaeger16 · June 2011

I agree with PP about taking pictures in the hospital, and I wish I would have done 3 month pics too.

I wish I would have started trying to give him a bottle earlier/more often so that he isn't so anti-bottle.

I wish I would have been a little more demanding on when people need to leave so I could feed E. My MIL kind of ignored me when I would say I needed to feed him, so I wish I would have been a little more serious with them on that one.

Also, I want to have at least an hour of skin to skin next time. I wanted to this last time but my MIL threw a fit that she waited all that time (didn't want her there anyways, told her to come the next day since E was born at 1:45 am) so my H let her come in and see him like 15 min after he was born.

xxbabycakesxx · June 2011

mamaholmes2010:

2) There are virtually NO pictures of me with LO (even now) because I am usually the one wielding the camera...I would like more pictures of us

yea im usually the one holding the camera too so i only have like 4 photos of griff and me. and theres only 1 family photo of all 3 of us. =(

chickaboo1974 · June 2011

I don't plan on their being a net time- but I think I could have worried less about PTL and my cervix LOL. I knew I wasn't going to get the type of births that my sisters and friends had. So I was not upset about a c-section and epi.

I guess after birth I would be more structured in where the naps are taken. Right now they have to be in the family room (their preference)- I would prefer their nursery now.

IncogNeato · June 2011

I would try not to let work stress me out so much and would stay off my feet more. I knew my cervix was shorter than average but my doctors had decided it wasn't a concern so I didn't change my activities very much. I DID let my new boss stress me out so much and I will always wonder if that contributed to early labor and/or negatively affected LO. Also, if I have another early baby and my "team" at work b!ches about me behind my back because they had to pick up some slack while my BABY WAS IN THE HOSPITAL WITHOUT ME I will tell them to STFU instead of apologizing, because that makes them selfish beyotches and I am DONE feeling guilty about the fact that they had to help out for a few days. Real friends don't whine about you to your boss (the one who stressed you out!) because you go into labor prematurely. They jump in and help out. Too bad my team is not cool like that. I'm still mad at myself for feeling crying and apologizing when I found out they had whined about it. I should have thanked them and told them that I would do the same for them withOUT complaining.

Oh, and I might ditch the epidural but I'm not sure. I was about 5 hours into pitocin contractions and thought I had a long road ahead when the first big momma hit at about 5 cm. I got the epi really fast and was fully dilated within 45 minutes. So, I could have either weathered the storm without it and been fine, or it could have been a terrifying 45 minutes!

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